Hey Carlos!  First I want to say that I love your advice and it influenced me a lot. But its only a matter of time before millions of guys out there get a hold of this advice. What will you say will happen if this will occur and we will all know these techniques not to mention woman will too. We will all begin playing each other. Eventually all this stuff will get old and a lot of us would know each others game and will get compromise each step of the way. What will you do if this will start to happen?

- Martin Sanchez

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CARLOS REPLY:

Not a thing would happen.

Why?

1) Most guys won't actually put this information to use. Call it laziness, whatever you like, but 95+% of all advice is never used. (Even if it works!)

Unfortunately, these are usually the guys that sit around and come up with any number of excuses to NOT use it. Hate to tell you this, but your objection is one of those excuses.

2) If you use what *I* teach you, you'll never sound like any other guy out there. There's no memorizing hokey and corny pickup lines that make you sound like a social robot.

You are your own man.

3) No woman can see through the matrix when a man is a confident Alpha Man. But she can totally bust a clueless parrot. And she should.

In 15 years of teaching guys, I've never ONCE had a guy say, "Hey, some chick completely busted my game because I was confident and bulletproof."

I show you what works – every time.

Stealth, undetected, and POWERFUL.

USE IT instead of worrying if you'll "get caught."

 
Stay Alpha…!

- Carlos Xuma

A little bit of knowledge can be dangerous. To others, that is. If you have even a bit of information that helps you better understand women, your success with women will expand exponentially. When you know and understand what women want and what makes them tick, you will stand a head above the crowd.

Here are a few crucial tips about how to understand women that will make your dating life easier and more fun.

Understand Women Strategies:

1. Building Attraction Should Be Goal One
Your goal should always be to build her attraction toward you. Make her curious about you before you even get close. If you want a burning spark of attraction, take time to create those feelings. Don’t ever allow yourself to stumble into the dreaded friend zone. It’s nearly impossible to get out of that classification once you are planted there.

Attraction is not going to be based on how compatible you are and that you both like listening to the same music. Attraction has everything to do with your ability to flirt and tease her. But you need to walk that fine line between being playful and being a mysterious figure. You want her to be curious about you and keep her guessing about your feelings toward her. Don’t go overboard on any emotion. Prove you are in control of your emotions and she will find that attractive.

2. Impress her with your listening skills.

If you want to be considered a great conversationalist than, you must practice being a good listener. Too many men worry and go on and on fretting about what they are going to say. How they are going to impress her with their wit and conversational skills. Well, here’s a little secret: test after test shows that people think the person who is a good listener is also a great conversationalist. It’s just how we perceive others. If you are a good listener, it doesn’t matter if you can’t string two words together, as long as you pay close attention to what she is saying and acknowledge her words. Here’s another strategy to become a good listener. Get her to talk about herself. Then, really listen and understand what she is saying. But, beware; you are walking a fine line here. Make sure that you don’t become her new best friend forever. Every once in a while, grab control of the conversation and demonstrate how you are the alpha male.

Here’s a little bonus tidbit of knowledge. If you are a good listener —and I mean really hearing what she is saying —, she is going to feel connected to you. She is going to feel that you have known each other forever. And guess what? Women want to feel this way about a man before they hop into bed. When it comes to getting intimate, women say that feeling of connection is more important than having a man make a commitment to her.

If you understand that, you are ahead of most every other guy out there.

3. Take the lead.

Take charge and be decisive. Don’t do what she asks. Instead, take charge and watch her follow you. If she is attracted to you, she will follow your lead.

Women want a take-charge man. Deep down, they are biologically programmed to respond to a man who is a leader because they know he can protect them.

So, every once in a while, make a small request from her. It could be asking her to stop by the store on her way over and grab something for you. Don’t be afraid. Do it respectfully and be a leader.

You did it! You asked that cute girl on your volleyball team over to your place for a drink after the game Friday night and miracle of miracles, she said yes.

Now what?

Well, your apartment or your house is essentially an extension of your personality, so you better treat it that way. It might be the most accurate indicator of what you are all about and a woman is going to be looking at it that way. It’s going to give her some type of message about you, so make sure it’s a good one. You better know how to prepare for a date.

For instance, if she shows up and it is a pigsty with dirty dishes in the sink and a filthy bathroom, then she’s going to assume that you’re not willing to work too much for her approval. Strike out. Or maybe you’ve decorated your bedroom with posters of girls in lingerie or bathing suits and have a display of your favorite Star Wars figurines. She’s going to think you are immature. Strike out. Or maybe you have dead plants and stacks of old newspapers threatening to land you on the next episode of a TV show about hoarders. Strike out.

Read these tips on how to prepare for a date and make sure you follow them to a “T” and you won’t strike out, but might even hit a home run.

How to Prepare For A Date Tips:

1. Housekeeping 101. Make sure your house is not only clean, but also organized. Here are areas to examine:

* Clothes picked up and put away
* Bathroom clean, concentrate most on toilet and sink

* Dust and get rid of cobwebs

* Pick up all trash and toss

* Get rid of anything spoiled in the refrigerator

* Make sure your pad doesn’t smell bad

* Pick up any pet mess or fur

* Hide stacks of crap, such as papers

* Make sure you have clean sheets on your bed and clean towels in the bathroom

* Fix anything broken, such as lights, windows, holes in walls, etc.

2. Set the mood.

* Control the lighting and make it romantic by using candles and putting the lights in your bedroom and living room on dimmers.

* Have a condom within reaching distance of your bed (but discretely tucked away).

* Sniff out any signs of other women, be it photos or phone numbers, and put them away.

* Stash the porn.

* Put out a picture of your family.

* Stock up on something alcoholic o drink, such as wine and beer (so she has a choice)

* Purchase something sensual to eat such as chocolate or fruit or both (chocolate covered strawberries, for instance.)

* Have some good mood music ready to play at the touch of a fingertip.

3. Date Night Rules. Review these rules before she arrives so you have them memorized.

* Whatever you do, don’t answer your phone while she’s there. Instead, flatter her by ignoring it and saying you are concentrating on her alone right now.

* If you have an answering machine mute it. You don’t want her to hear some other woman calling or your mother calling to scold you for missing Sunday dinner.

* Pick up some eggs and bacon in case she stays over so you can give her a proper send off in the morning.

There are some basic, simple, general rules for calling a woman.

For instance, I always recommend that a guy wait at least 48 hours before he dials that number for the first time (after he gets it). In addition, there are rules to deal with situations with a woman flaking on you.

This happens a lot more than you might think> It’s all part of the dating game. But if you want to smoothly navigate the dating pool and know how to handle some of the sharks. The first step is memorizing how to react to different scenarios where she isn’t living up to your expectations.

How To Call Her Scenarios:

1: If She Flakes.

In this scenario, she calls you to cancel a date. First off, you must assume that she’s not interested in you enough. That is a cold, hard fact. If she liked you, she would have moved mountains to be there.

2. If she left a message for you cancelling:

• Call her back immediately to confront her about her flakiness. Here’s what you say: “Danielle. I didn’t think you were flaky when we met. I’m going to assume you aren’t a flake and give you another chance to get together because I think we would look really cute on a date.”

You are doing two things here, you are saying this is her last chance, and you are adding a dose of humor to show that you aren’t bent out of shape about her flaking, but that you won’t tolerate it happening again.

3. If she calls to cancel but does not apologize or suggest an alternate time to get together. In this scenario, she gets no second chances. Game over. She lost. But you still want to maintain your dignity, so here’s what you say:

* “Sorry it didn’t work out. Maybe some other time.” Then hang up. There will be no other time. Let it go.

Then hang up.

4. If she doesn’t even call to cancel and then doesn’t show up at the place when and where you are supposed to meet. If she never calls to apologize, you actually aren’t going to call her at all (a bit of a trick question). What you are going to do is take her phone number, wad it up into a little ball, and throw it in the trash bin.

That’s because her failure to call you and cancel and her not making the appointment and not even calling to explain is hugely disrespectful. I say run away. But I also realize not every guy is going to do this, so I reluctantly offer one last option:

5. How to call her when she has flaked and never calls to explain:

Call her the next day and say this:

“Danielle, I’m so sorry I didn’t make our meeting yesterday. Things just got crazy busy and I lost track of time.”

If she has answered the phone, you can wait to see how she responds. If you are leaving a message, then add: “Let’s reschedule. Call me.”

Then, once again, the ball is in her court. If she never calls, you got your answer.

I thought you might like this little article from The Onion. It is a CLASSIC description of the "friends only" problem with women.
By the way, if you want to solve this problem with women FOREVER – you can go here:
No More 'Friends Only…'

I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I don't really see a relationship in our future. It would be terrible if we let sex destroy this great friendship we have where I get everything I want and you get nothing you want. Don't you think?

I knew you would understand. You always do.

We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me bitch about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.

It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call?

That part of our friendship means so much to me.

No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.

Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.

Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.

Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.

Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other asshole guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.

Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.

Best friends. Friends forever.
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Classic, huh? In a painful kind of way.

If you want to solve this problem with women FOREVER – you can go here: No More 'Friends Only…'