It’s daunting to get a girls number – the preparation, the willpower, the sheer courage it takes to get the number can make it seem like you’re competing for the Olympics.
And it sure feels like you’re a CHAMPION when you do get that number. That exhilarating feeling of excitement – “YES! I got her number!”
And you probably realized that getting a number is NOT the last leg of the race. Now you’ll have to call her, get her to see you as the HOT, COOL dude that you are.
But…when should you call her? Do you have to wait long before calling?
You don’t want to seem too eager, but at the same time you don’t want to wait too long and risk her not remember you, or meeting some other guy.
Here are some choices you might have to consider.
1. Do you call her the next day?
2. Do you call her right away?
3. Do you wait a few days before making the call?
Out of all the three option, the BEST one is choice # 3.
Yeah, yeah, I know… you might have heard that having any rules about when to call just makes you manipulative, but hear me out on this one.
First – an important RULE that you need to remember: DON’T call the next day.
This is about building her anticipation about you. An interesting fact about women is that they are ruled by their emotions. I know, not exactly a news flash there.
But when you don’t call her right away, her expectation increases. Her emotions will cycle. She’ll feel anger, excitement and hope all at the same time.
You made that ONE stupid mistake – you let her go.
After dating countless women, you know she’s the one for you. You want her back. Getting your ex back is one thing – making her FALL BACK IN LOVE WITH YOU is another.
Here’s an article that might help you. I find it an interesting read. You can check it out below.
- Carlos Xuma
How To Make Your Ex Fall Madly In Love With You
Making your ex fall madly in love with you again can be done (even though you think it’s impossible now).
Studies show that a vast number of relationships that fall apart can be salvaged, but desperation and emotions often get in the way of rational thought.
Hence, that’s why you sometimes may say things that you don’t mean while you’re all riled up, hence hurting your chances of making him or her fall back in love with you. But even before you attempt to make your ex fall back in love with you, you’re going to have to learn how to turn your ex on in a sexual manner — this will help expedite the process of making your ex fall back in love with you.
The woman you’ve been with for some time now has been hinting about marriage. And you’re thinking, you’d want to make an “honest woman out of her”, so why not?
But… you’re hesitating…the thought of giving up your single life – and trading it in for a life with ONLY one person makes you think, will it be all worth it?
Before you beat yourself up weighing down the answer to “should I get engaged?”… here are 5 signs that can help you know that you’re actually ready to tie the knot!
Sign You’re Ready To Get Hitched #1: She’s the ONE.
When you know in your heart she’s the ONLY one for you, you’re ready!
This means, you don’t think that you’ll find any other woman as amazing as her. You’re ready to be exclusive with one person for the rest of your life. Of all the women in the world, you know she’s a keeper.
You deeply respect her, she makes you happy – and LIFE is more interesting with her around. She just makes you a better version of yourself.
And, you don’t get tired of waking up every morning and seeing her. When she’s not there you unconsciously look for her. It’s like she just fits into your life naturally.
There’s no explanation. It just IS.
Sign You’re Ready To Get Hitched #2: You find yourself making many long-term plans with her.
When you find yourself thinking of the future, making plans that includes her, that’s a pretty good sign. Like, buying a house, attending your parent’s yearly parties…anything that involves HER still being with you for many years.
You’re thinking out into the future. And if you’re actually planning a future together, that’s how you’ll know you’re ready to commit.
Oh, man – every so often I find a great article that just tells it like it is.
And the Friend’s Zone really does suck – but most guys don’t realize it’s not the ONLY zone that sucks.
I ran across this one on Cracked that just had me nodding my head the whole time.
My favorite part are the first few, but the cartoons really say it all. (I posted one here as well last week.)
Check this out, and comment below to tell me what you think….
- Carlos Xuma
The Internet loves hating on “the friend zone,” because the Internet sees friendship as the highest form of torture a horrible woman can impose on a sweet and infallible man, because the Internet is 14 and a stupid piece of shit.
I’m not here to explain that “being in the friend zone” says less about the person who “put” you there than it does about the skewed way you view relationships (although, yes, someone should teach you that at some point).
I am here to tell you that you’re focusing so much energy on avoiding the friend zone that you’re missing the REAL threats …
#5. The “No One I’m Interested in Is Attracted to Me” Zone
Everyone finishes the occasional date feeling like there wasn’t any connection, but when you’re in this zone, you finish every interaction like this. You have such high demands for similarity that anything short of a carbon copy of you is going to be deemed alien and distant by your crazy-ass brain, and you’ll force them away from you with a defensive pre-emptive rejection. Because the truth is, your brain has tricked you into thinking that people who are attracted to you aren’t worth your time.
It’s counter-intuitive, because “high standards” is a good thing in most contexts, like choosing what wood to build your house out of or what gas to put in your car, but human beings aren’t made of wood or gasoline or anything else you can buy, so if your “standards” are anything other than “Does this person make me really happy and horny a lot?” then you’re unnecessarily narrowing your options and missing out on some killer sex.
It’s not that no one is happy being alone, and it’s not that you should just “take whatever you can get.” But if you find yourself scanning prospective mating partners for flaws rather than just enjoying their company, your whole approach to other humans could probably do with some revisions.