In order to attract women confidence, men should first work on developing the three key traits that women want: self-confidence, self-discipline, and a sense of humor.

Developing these traits, which I call the Three S’s is the first step in attracting women, but there are other important personality aspects that will only help increase a woman’s interest, desire, and attraction to men.

There are some other characteristics that will help men become true alpha males, improve their game with women, and generally, make their lives better off overall.

Here are a few of those tips. Notice that most of these tips and techniques have to do with how you view yourself and what you can do to make yourself more attractive to women:

Attract Women Confidence Tips:

1. Attitude. To be successful in the dating arena, men need to take a long, hard look at their attitude. This means the way they project their self-confidence to others. Having the right attitude can mean the difference between success and failure in almost any endeavor.

What comes into your world, what happens to you in other words, matters much less, than how you react to it? This is your attitude.

2. Unconcern. People who are extremely successful tend to share this one common trait: they don’t really care what anyone else thinks about them. They are unconcerned about pleasing everyone else.

Beware, however, of taking this too far where you cast a blind eye to the negative effect you might have on others. Then you become a jerk.

However, if you are aware of your actions and words on others and conscientious, you won’t let this happen. Most people worry too much about what others think than too little.

3. Realize that women are not better than you. Gently help them down from that pedestal you might have placed them on. Nobody in this world is “better” or more valuable than another person. Everyone has to use the toilet.

Don’t believe deep down inside that she may be better than you and that she has the right to judge you. By getting rid of thinking in this way, you will be able to have more confidence and be a better date or boyfriend.

4. A positive spin on life. This means you are overall optimistic about the world. Being negative or pessimistic means you are assuming the worst and really demonstrates that you are cop out. You bet on things turning out crappy because you think you know the future? Nobody knows the future.

Being able to say, “I told you so” is a poor reward for having a bad outlook.

Choose to have a more optimistic outlook in life and you will automatically become more attractive to women. And, who knows, maybe thoughts really do have more power than we give them, and this one change can alter the course of your life in a meaningful, positive way.

The secret to being confident with women is to make the Three S’s a part of your personality. This is the key to unlocking your inner game.

These three characteristics, when they are made a part of your personality and whom you are inside and then exhibited externally, will give you power and charisma.

Traits to Being Confident With Women:

1. Self-Confidence. Many men don’t realize that the quality of their relationships and interactions with other people almost completely are determined by how the man feels about himself.

If you have true self-confidence, you are telling the world all sorts of things about yourself. For instance, you are saying that you are happy with who you are; that you aren’t afraid of living life or what the future has in store for you; you are demonstrating a positive attitude; you show you have direction and know where you’re headed in life; you are also exhibiting externally that you are not needy or dependent on others.

2. Self-discipline. There are two main aspects of self-discipline.

The first deals with your ability to pay the price or work hard to get what you want. This involves creating a life for yourself where you set goals and work to achieve them. It involves taking control of your thoughts and actions. It means ultimately, getting more dates. This type of self-discipline toward your goals always pays off.

Another aspect of having self-discipline is controlling how you act around a woman. For instance, you will exude the trait of self-discipline if you refuse to react to someone else’s words and actions. The biggest mistake you can make when a woman is trying to provoke you is to react to it. Freaking out means she won and you lost her respect at the same time.

If you have self-discipline, you are able to take a breath — a pause so to speak — between the stimulus and how you react to it. During that pause, you have time to stop and think. You will make better choices then in how you decide to respond.

Occasionally a woman will provoke you as a test. She’s trying to control you and manipulate you. (Guys do the same thing to women even if they don’t’ realize it.) But your ability to not react to what she does and says in this way will make you more attractive and ultimately, a challenge to her.

3. Sense of Humor.

If you can make a woman laugh, you’re ahead of the game. More men get women as girlfriends and bed buddies just by this one characteristic alone.

Work on that funny bone. You don’t have to be a one-man comedy routine. But you do need to look at life in a humorous way. See the funny parts of a situation.

Having a sense of humor, not only makes a woman laugh, which makes her lie you more and drop her defenses, but it also shows that you have confidence.

You can’t be confident with women without being able to poke a little fun at yourself and life and not take everything so seriously.

Nearly every woman you meet is going to have a defense mechanism to protect herself against this: appearing to be easy to seduce.

She has been conditioned since she was a child to avoid this label. IN addition, it is her biological defense mechanism. It goes back to primitive times when women had to be careful about whom they hooked up with or they would end up alone and defenseless. Picking the wrong caveman could mean death for her and her offspring. That forced women to be very particular about whom they had sex with.

So, what’s a guy to do: Here is a guide to understanding what women say and what they want:

Understanding What Women Say:

1. Men need to realize that even though hundreds of thousands of years have passed, a primitive portion of a woman’s brain is telling her that in order for her to have sex with someone, he better convince her that he can provide for her and protect.

Even if she is using birth control and makes ten times the amount of money that he does, this biological response makes her defensive unless a guy can demonstrate these two traits.

Even if logically she just wants a fun roll in the hay and could care less if the guy is a jobless bum as long as he’s cute, clean, and good in the sack, she’s going to say no unless he shows some alpha male traits.

2. Overcome the obstacle by stoking desire.

Maybe you aren’t the best provider in the world, but you still want to seduce her. So, what are your options? The only path is to stoke her desire to sleep with you so it overcomes her defense mechanism.

To ramp up her desire to sleep with you, increase her attraction toward you and decrease any mistrust she may have. In addition, while you are doing this, your goal also needs to be to make her feel unique and special. If she feels like one of the masses of women you seduce, she’ll lose interest and may not even tell you why.

3. The most important step in seducing a woman is showing her that you think she is a unique woman that you desire. You have to desire her as a woman more than you desire sex with her as a woman. Read that again to make sure you understand what I’m saying. Or put another way, you need to show you want her more than you want sex.

If she gets the impression you are just after her for the sex, her defenses and reluctance will become obvious.

4. Follow these ten steps to seduction carefully and you will be able to overcome her resistance and defenses.

1. Make contact with her by approaching and talking to her.

2. Get a phone number or email so you can arrange a future meeting.

3. Make that first contact. Call her, only talking long enough to set up the first meeting.

4. Meet and make sure you are working toward building attraction between you the entire time.

5. Touch for the first time by holding her hand or putting your arm around her.

6. Kiss her. You must go in for a kiss during that first meeting or you are in danger of ending up in the friend zone.

7. Make out. Engage in extended kissing.

8. Touch in a sexual manner toward the goal of intimate contact.

9. Get naked. Shed some clothes along with more stimulation.

10. Sex

It’s going to be difficult to you to seduce a woman unless you have some understanding of how to touch the female body. One of the most effective seduction technique is touch.

The first step in touching a woman is what we call kino — the use of touch to arouse physical and emotional desire.

Understanding how to use kino is an important step in seducing a woman:

Seduction Technique Tips:

1. Be flexible and open to using different approaches and techniques with different women. Some women want to be touched more during the first few dates, while others prefer waiting until further on in the process to be touched that much.

2. Learn how to tell which type of women you are dealing with. So how do you know whether to hold off on much touching during the first few dates or whether she is craving your touch? Become knowledgeable in reading body language. If you know a bit about body language, you can tell when she likes what you are doing or whether she is closing herself off and wants you to back off.

3. Figure out how you feel about touch first. When you touch a woman, you want it to be completely natural, so take some time to examine how comfortable you are with touch. Are you the huggy type or more reserved? Do you touch other people often? Do you hug and kiss your friends in a touchy-feely way or do you keep that for intimate moments in private. Some people get uncomfortable if the clerk brushes their hand when she gives change. It all has to do with how you personally feel about it. There is no right or wrong way to feel, but understanding your take on touch will help you tailor your efforts at kino to something that feels and appears natural.

4. Understand what the most common mistake in kino is. Most men touch women too early. Many men long to touch the softness of a woman’s body and it sometimes is hard for us to hold back. What may seem natural to you seems like a lack of self-control to her. Learn how to hold back.

It’s normal for a guy to want to hug and squeeze and touch a pretty girl. That is a normal, natural desire. But guys have to fight that desire. Touching her too early does not spark desire in her.

5. A good rule of thumb to remember is to always make those first steps toward kino, light and brief. In other words, that first touch should be a light and brief touch to a body part that is not intimate.

For instance, you might touch her shoulder to get her attention, or even her hand. You could even brush by her and touch her back or arm. The key is to make sure the touch is not aggressive and that it does not linger. Remember light and brief touch for the first few attempts at kino.

If you follow these general guidelines for the first time you touch a woman, you will be leagues ahead of most guys out there.

One of the most helpful exercises to do if you want to know tips on getting a girlfriend  is examining how you look at the dating world.

Do you look at that giant pool of eligible women has a vast and endless ocean, or do you see it as a tiny pond where women are constantly being plucked away from you?

It’s all about whether you have an attitude or view of the dating world as one of scarcity or one of abundance.

One of my favorite tips on how to get a girlfriend helps guys figure out whether they are operating from a position of scarcity versus abundance.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you figure this out:

Tips on Getting a Girlfriend:

1. Do you see options in the world that are limitless? When you look around at the world, not just at the women in it, do you see very few options? Does it appear that your options are narrow and predetermined? Sometimes changing this perspective opens up a whole new host of possibilities to not only enrich your dating life, but help you lead a more fulfilling, satisfying life in general.

2. Do you look at the world as a place where there is enough success for everyone? Some guys don’t view the world this way. Instead, they find themselves green with envy when a colleague or friend succeeds. How do you view the world when it comes to success and whether there is enough to go around? Think about this. Write down your thoughts on paper if you need to.

3. Do you view success like a pie, where there are only so many slices available, and once it’s gone, it’s gone? IN other words, do you think that another guy having success with a girl means one less girl for you in the world? Do you think that once the pie tin is empty, you’ve lost out forever? If so, do you think this is a rational way to view success or dating? What can you do to alter this perspective?

4. Do you worry that when you lose out on attracting a particular woman, that you’ve lost an opportunity to have sex with someone?

Do you think that your opportunities to have sex are so few and far in between that you truly only have one shot a few times a year? Do you think that this might affect your ability to attract women, placing all that expectation on one woman in one situation?

These questions and more should help you determine how you view the world and how it affects your success with women. Think about ways you can change that viewpoint to help you become more successful with women and find a girl you can make your own, without putting all that extra pressure on her, making it a do or die situation.