I’ve always had a soft spot in my heart (and my brain) for science that approximates reality.
You see, I think there is a lot that science has to offer us for understanding.
However, science really breaks down when you get to the level of social interaction and social dynamics.
When one person sits alone in a room and thinks, that’s a very simple system. A bit boring, perhaps, but simple nonetheless.
When you throw another person into the mix, now you’ve got a magnificently complicated SYSTEM. Each person feeds off of the other person’s reactions and cues, and it’s infinitely more complex.
Systems theory tells us that small changes in a system can lead to dramatic results over time – especially if those interactions can feedback off each other.
This same kind of “feedback effect” happens all the time when guys interact with women. It’s usually because of the SENSITIVITY of one or both of the people.
If one person is very sensitive, words can be taken out of context. Meanings become twisted. Misunderstandings are easy.
What if BOTH people are sensitive?
You ever see a couple like this? They give a whole new meaning to neurotic.
One person interprets what the other said as an attack or an insult…
“What do you mean, ‘What time will I be home?’ Do you not want me to go out? Are you jealous?”
CrAzY.
The less sensitive people are, the less chance for unhealthy feedback loops…
I’ll be talking more about this again soon…
Your Friend,
Carlos Xuma
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