Something that confuses a lot of guys out there is when they start to fall back on their "scientific brain."

I was guilty of this for quite a while. I relied on the empirical evidence of science to describe what goes on when a man and a woman interact.

You essentially have some bookworm researcher sitting on the other side of a bar from a couple taking notes…

"Hmmm… the man appears to be tilting his pelvis towards the woman… She is stroking her hair and rolling her eyes… She is releasing pheromones in the air, which accounts for the other guy who just walked up and talked to her… This is how men and women must be attracted to each other…"

What Mr. Researcher is missing out on is all the various words and reactions and subtle cues of power, confidence and dominance that the guy is giving off. And all the distinct social challenges and triggers the woman is using.

Not to mention Mr. Researcher lacks the social skills and perception to really sense what is going on in their dynamic on a fundamental level.

Don't fall into the trap of using logic when it comes to meeting women.

Don't use strategies that aren't giving you results – no matter how "logical" they seem.

There is no substitute for real-life experience in understanding sexual communications…

Just watched the Blu-Ray version of "Starship Troopers" last night… A guilty pleasure of mine.

It's worth it to re-watch, not just for the bug battles, but the totally believable character arc of Johnny Rico.

Witness him as he goes from being completely chumped by Denise Richards and eventually gets with the chick he should have been with. (But he didn't want her because she wanted him. Crazy…)

Oh, the scene at the train station where Rico professes his love and BEGS Denise to reply is painful to watch…
I just love it when Rico says, "Diz, can't we just be friends?"

But notice that throughout the movie, Diz doesn't punk out and turn into the creepy stalker. She just stays in the game with him confidently until her opportunity comes along. She plays it pretty cool.

The jealousy and perfect placement of the guy-you-love-to-hate – Zander – is spot on, too. He's cocky, confident, and a bit of a dick. Yep, he's the "bad boy."

Johnny wouldn't have had a problem if he'd just pushed Denise into his arms at that football game instead of being a totally chumped and choded out jealous guy over everything. The perfect Alpha response to that situation would have been, "Hey, you two are a cute couple. I think you should date each other." Then smile and go back to having his own fun at winning the game.

So many lessons, so much he could have avoided.

But you know what? I've been there, man.

And it sucks.

Until you know what it means to be the Alpha Man.

If you've seen this movie and know what I'm talking about here, give me an AMEN and post a comment on this blog…

I was surfing around on IMDB when I came across this review of the "Sex and the City" movie. His opinions are pretty strong, but I can't help but feel that there is an undercurrent of truth in what he's saying.

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The End of Anything Honorable About Western Women

When I was a young boy I remember being around women like my mother, grandmother, sister, aunts, cousins, friends. I remembered that women were kind and generous and caring.

As I got older (I am now 27) a peculiar shift in women occurred. For one I started to like them obviously but secondly I noticed that women started to become pompous arrogant divas. I was about 19 when I started to realize that the typical American woman is one of the most spoiled, arrogant, selfish people the world has ever really known. What was the reason for this I wondered.

As I went through college I paid attention to women's behavior whom I went on dates with, whom I dated for long periods, and whom I worked with and was friends with. I notice that most young women are very, very similar and they incorrectly think their "free spirits" when, in fact, their hearts and souls are owned by industry and shallow trinkets. Why? One reason: Movies and TV shows like Sex and the City, People magazine, America's Next Top Model, All things MTV, Celebrities, etc. Suburban white girls who suffer from PPS (Pampered Princess Syndrome)

This movie possibly represents all that is wrong with the woman America is producing. It also reflects the pathetic depths to which once proud American men have sank to in order to appease Ms. Princess. This movie celebrates being a high priced whore, what a great message for young women. I thought we were supposed to encourage, "being yourself and having high self esteem" funny really, that women create images for themselves that are the opposite of what they preach.
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CARLOS COMMENTS:

Besides being a tad generalizing, and the slight tone of anger in his review, he has some points here.

What do you think? Comment on this post – I'd love to hear what you think about it…

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Hey… I just got a note from my good friend Joe Matthews, and it seems he's releasing a bunch of free videos, as well as holding a teleseminar on how looks don't matter when it comes to attracting women.

Here's the call info he sent me…

Date: Thursday 8/21/08, 5:00 pm Pacific, 7:00 pm Central, 8:00 pm Eastern

You can get the free videos here…