Carlos Xuma's Dating Tips for Guys

I've got an interesting post here for you. It's a "Web TV" show created by my good friend Jerusha.

Jerusha says: "Guys so far think it's funny, interesting, they get the inside track on the opposite sex- the episodes have women of all different colors & sizes – just like in the real world…"

CLICK HERE to learn more about the last single girl….

Well, the release of my new Approach Women 2 program has just been phenomenal, and I want to thank you guys that jumped on board right away.

I'm just picking up some of the pieces right now, since it took so much time to give it a proper launch. (In case you wonder why I've been out of touch…)

Also, please note that I'm starting to post podcasts once again (you can find me on iTunes under "Carlos Xuma…")

And just as a gift for you bloggers that are out there wondering what went on during that call I did the other day – the teleseminar for Approach Women 2: RAD – well, I've got what you want.

Here's the link to go listen to the audio in its entirety:

Approach Women 2 Teleseminar – How to Meet Women Anytime – No Fear, No rejection…

Hey, I've been reading a lot of the mail you guys are sending in,
and the great questions you've got about Real Alpha Daygame.

But I also want to take this opportunity to point a couple of
things out to the guys that might have a little trouble with this
concept of "Daygame."

What really IS "Daygame?"

Very simply it's meeting women anywhere.

ANYWHERE.

Let me try that again:

A-N-Y-W-H-E-R-E!

You see, bars and clubs seem to be all that guys think of when they
think about meeting women. But there is a wide and undiscovered
country out there where we are able to meet women:

- in the park
- at a friend's party
- at a business event
- at the gym
- in a coffee shop
- at a cocktail party
- at a library or bookstore…

Literally there is an infinite number of places out there to meet
women that we're not using right now.

It's not just about walking up and talking to women cold on the
street.

You see, I've talked to a lot of guys who have very strong beliefs
about meeting women in everyday places. They seem to be scared to
death of it because the woman will be guarded… cautious…

After all, you're a stranger!

Guys, you don't have to have anyone "approve" of where you meet a
woman.

You don't need to meet a woman in certain designated areas.
Regardless of what we think women MIGHT be thinking about it.

And one of the biggest mistakes is trying to think FOR a woman.
When you try and get into her head, you'll probably get it wrong.

Whenever I meet couples, I ask them how they met. The woman
tends to romanticize the first meeting, but the guy always tells
the facts.

Most of them met at a store, or in a gym, or in places where the
guy simply sucked it up and did the unthinkable…

He approached her!

In fact, I did a certain hidden camera video just a couple weeks
ago. I met a woman in the Apple Store and we had a GREAT
conversation and connection.

Last night, after 2 weeks, SHE CALLED ME.

I haven't initiated any contact since then, but she called me up
and left a 2 minute message.

How cool is THAT?

And, honestly, it wasn't a very spectacular approach. I just
started talking with her for no reason. We were standing at
the computers just checking out the MacBooks.

She was a stranger.

Now she's a possibility for me. One that I would never have had if
I had let the thought: "She doesn't know me – she's going to be
scared of me" get into my head.

Repeat after me:
ALL limitations are self-imposed!

Stay tuned…

I've got more great stuff coming up…

Go check out the videos on the blog here:
http://www.realdaygame.com/approach2blog/

Your Day-walker friend,

Carlos Xuma

Hey, I've got a cool audio for you that other guys won't be able to hear until this coming week…

It's an interview I did with Lance Mason on the subject of approaching during the day…
This is from my radio show, so you'll have to put up with high production values.

And when you're done listening, go check out my new Approach Program as soon as you can.

This is the approach program that was 3 years in the making.

Read more….
Approach Women 2 Real Alpha Daygame

Hey Carlos,

Thanks for your great emails and content.

I'd like to ask a question.

A woman friend of mine who is married, was telling me that when women offer to pay their share for something, they are actually testing men to see how cheap we are.

Now, I don't think in such a twisted manner, but what is the alpha way to respond to this kind of test?

cheers

Eddie
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Well, Eddie, your friend is partly right, and partly wrong, as you figured out.

SOME women do this to see if the guy is cheap, but that's not entirely accurate. Not every woman is so coldly calculating.

The reality is this:

It's a dance.

When the check comes, women have a lot of mixed feelings about how to handle it.

Does she just assume you're going to pay for it?

Or would that be rude?

If she's really going to test you to see how "cheap" you are, she'd be one of those women we probably want to watch very closely. She could have that bitter edge of a woman that just wants to test and poke and prod men because she isn't emotionally capable of just going with the flow.

(Rigidity and structured behavior is often a sign of some underlying problems. I should know – I was like this for YEARS.)

What she's doing is being polite, and she'll put the offer out there so you don't think she's a gold-digging bitch.

(I've had quite a few of those over the years. Some women feel entitled to be bought meals, and entitlement gets you a kick in the ass out the door of my life.)

She probably does expect on some level that you pay, but not in a demanding and heartless way. It's simply a man's job to demonstrate that can take care of her. Even if she's the president of a bank, she'll want to feel this kind of safety in a man's presence.

Now everyone wants to know how an Alpha Man would handle this, right?

Well, the best way I've found to handle this situation is really pretty simple.

When the check comes, I let it sit there for a few minutes to see how SHE handles it. I believe that for all the judging, testing, and analyzing a woman does of me, this is one small moment where I can sit back and see what SHE is made of.

I want to give her the opportunity to offer. If she doesn't offer, I'll make a note of it (but not dismiss her).

Then – whether she does or she doesn't offer – I just say: "Here, I'll get this one. You can chip in on the next one, right?"

And I watch her reaction. If it's excitement and happiness that I'm making a slight reference to the possibility of getting together in the future, I know where I stand.

Any other reaction is cause to pause.

By the way, if the woman insists on paying a share, that's a very clear message. It's saying, "I don't want to feel obligated to you," and you should consider this a sign.
Remember that a first "date" is mostly an exploration. A fact-finding mission to learn as much as you can so you can make a decision about her. A chance to see if the other person has what it takes to be a part of your world.

I have HIGH standards on who gets to share in my reality and fun.

If you have the same criteria, you'll find that your love life will improve in quality 1000%.

A woman is an interpreting machine, observing your actions, reactions, and making passive decisions about who you are and whether or not she wants you.

You should be doing the same for yourself.

I'm not endorsing selfishness. I'm promoting an educated and self-preserving attitude toward your dating life.

And that, my Alpha Brothers, is ALWAYS smart.

- Carlos Xuma
http://www.realdaygame.com