QUESTION FROM A READER:
Carlos, I've been studying the percentage changes in extra marital affairs, where psychologists are indicating that now married women are having affairs at rates approaching those heretofore ascribed to men. Have you ever conducted any of your surveys in this area.
Yes, it is a taboo consideration, but I'm sure guy's with attractive spouses would have an interest in how often they are being "hit" upon and the rates of success of various techniques: yes I do have an agenda here.
- A
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
The fact is that women DO cheat about as much as men… and pretty much ALWAYS have. (More in older age brackets…)
There are a few books on this, but honestly, since women buy most of the books, do you think this is something they want everyone to know?
Read: Women's Infidelity by Michelle Langley, and listen to my interview with her in my Advanced Coaching program. It will open your eyes.
Also:
1) They're better at hiding affairs
2) They're better at handling them
Women also understand that they are much more free than they once were to explore their sexual satisfaction than ever before.
It's not bad or good, it just IS. Women will cheat only if they are not getting what they want from the man they're with.
Be the right man and you've got little to worry about.
I sleep really well at night…
CX
I'm sorry but I have to disagree with you here Carlos. Women seem like to ride the emotional roller coaster and get buzzed off from its effects. It is nearly impossible for one person, yes even an Alpha man, to constantly fill a woman's voids. I am referring to the LTR's where there is few stones left un-turned.
Look at the girls who are attention hounds. The only women I've seen loyal to there men are the ones who feel they are in a relationship themselves with a level of "uncertainity". However, uncertainity becomes old as well……..
Comment by Jim — September 18, 2008 @ 4:56 pm