http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/2008/09/why-are-boys-having-problems/ Dating advice for men and the secrets of attraction and what women want... Tue, 04 May 2010 13:58:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/2008/09/why-are-boys-having-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-541 Brendan Tue, 16 Sep 2008 08:55:49 +0000 http://www.thedatingprogram.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/2008/09/why-are-boys-having-problems/#comment-541 Why are girls excluded from the equation? They are suffering from wussiness too. Women can handle the pain of childbirth, so why do we teach them to be weak and cowardly (like we teach our men)? This is a crisis of humanity, not of men, women, Americans, developed nations, etc. Mindful acceptance, without attachment. This is taught best by not freaking out when someone suffers, just being present and understanding of their situation. Compassionate understanding is different than projection and coddling. "You skinned your knee? Breathe. How do you feel about that?" rather than "Oh you poor thing let me get you a band-aid we wouldn't want it to get infected! I'll call the doctor and write you a note!" Why are girls excluded from the equation? They are suffering from wussiness too. Women can handle the pain of childbirth, so why do we teach them to be weak and cowardly (like we teach our men)? This is a crisis of humanity, not of men, women, Americans, developed nations, etc. Mindful acceptance, without attachment. This is taught best by not freaking out when someone suffers, just being present and understanding of their situation. Compassionate understanding is different than projection and coddling. "You skinned your knee? Breathe. How do you feel about that?" rather than "Oh you poor thing let me get you a band-aid we wouldn't want it to get infected! I'll call the doctor and write you a note!"

]]> http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/2008/09/why-are-boys-having-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-540 Nancy Bruno Sat, 13 Sep 2008 12:40:26 +0000 http://www.thedatingprogram.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/2008/09/why-are-boys-having-problems/#comment-540 Peg Tyre does make a good point - children are being over scheduled by parents, as a society we are losing sight that, even at ten and eleven years old, these individuals are children and need to behave and act like children. I am a child of the '70s and feel that I turned out okay. Now...boys will one day grow into men and helping them to develop into good men does not involve medicating them or keeping them from plastic bags. I agree with you 100% - they need challenges, but providing them with role models that have walked a similar path and made it through to the other side successfully is vital. The Genuine Men Project believes that it is how a man meets his challenges and carries his experiences throughout his lifetime that makes him an individual of great strength and character. That is what we need more of today. If boys don't have these role models in their immediate family - male or female, those that are in their lives need to look within their community and find these role models for the boys. Teachers, neighbors, uncles, community or religious leaders, and even their peers. Roles models are all around us, we just need to take the time to recognize them for ourselves because often these men are not out tooting their own horns, but just living quietly leading by example. We can all learn from the stories of men. Peg Tyre does make a good point – children are being over scheduled by parents, as a society we are losing sight that, even at ten and eleven years old, these individuals are children and need to behave and act like children. I am a child of the '70s and feel that I turned out okay. Now…boys will one day grow into men and helping them to develop into good men does not involve medicating them or keeping them from plastic bags. I agree with you 100% – they need challenges, but providing them with role models that have walked a similar path and made it through to the other side successfully is vital. The Genuine Men Project believes that it is how a man meets his challenges and carries his experiences throughout his lifetime that makes him an individual of great strength and character. That is what we need more of today. If boys don't have these role models in their immediate family – male or female, those that are in their lives need to look within their community and find these role models for the boys. Teachers, neighbors, uncles, community or religious leaders, and even their peers. Roles models are all around us, we just need to take the time to recognize them for ourselves because often these men are not out tooting their own horns, but just living quietly leading by example. We can all learn from the stories of men.

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