Guide to Understanding Women

Does it ever feel like no matter what you say to a woman, you just can't say the right thing?

Do you ever have problems understanding what women are saying to you?

I always wished I had a guide to understanding women. It would have made my life SO much simpler. Just a short 100 page paperback that explained the basics so I knew what I was dealing with. I could have kept it in my back pocket and whipped it out when I needed it.

Go read my latest article and Guide to Understanding Women, and learn how to understand women and what they're really saying.

Read it here:
Guide to Understanding Women

After I have studied the art of seduction for some time with your newsletters and such to create choice in my life when it comes to women.

But lately I found myself… I shouldn't even be writing this because it feels plain stupid to me…

But here it goes.. Is there, when it comes to women, something called "too much choice"?
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Yes, that happens from time to time. It's what's known as a "high quality problem."

In other words, of all the problems you can have, it's a good one.

Other guys hate you, by the way.

Best of luck with that horrible situation you have… Maybe I should stop writing my newsletters and ebooks, and stop creating all this choice in other guys' lives.

Hmmm….

Once you reach this happy place, you will find that you have a new problem: Finding a QUALITY woman.

That's why I teach you how to enjoy your abundance, and find the high quality girls out there.

Meet women you want to be with for more than one night.

Attract Women – the QUALITY women….

If we must do our best to show women that we can provide and protect them as the alpha males, it seems like all the actions and initiatives that you ask us to take are very dominating. Almost like the woman is turned into a "push over", like they shouldn't have a say in relationship matters.

I know it sounds pretty harsh, but is this what ur ultimately getting at?

cheers,

Lance
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

My buddy Lance hits on a good question. You might think with all the whooping and howling I do about the Alpha Male masculinity that I teach that you could go overboard on this stuff, and you could.

But I do encourage balance.

The woman should not be turned into some kind of obedient and supplicating follower.

You need to show balance.

The man takes the lead most of the time. As long as the woman knows she can rely on him, she'll feel safe, and better able to play her feminine role.

But each person should be contributing and moving things forward.

Some of the things I ask you to consider may seem dominating, only because most of us were brought up to be wusses.

Sounds pretty harsh, but it's true.

And what we might consider "dominating" is really just "assertive" and not what television taught us to do.

Every behavior exists on a continuum, and unfortunately the way men really need to be is a pretty far swing from where we are now.

But we're getting there!

Stay Alpha!

- Carlos Xuma

I hate getting bad advice.

Don't you?

It sucks, because you waste time taking that bad advice, using it,
and not getting any better. And then you need to RE-learn the GOOD
advice that will get you what you want.

It's really frustrating. You even start to ignore people's advice
after a while because you don't know who to trust after that.

One bit of advice I always heard from my first guitar teacher (and
my first martial arts teacher, and really every teacher I ever met)
was this:

"It takes a lot of practice to get good at something, and you have
to study for hours and hours to get good enough to DO something."

After all, "practice makes perfect."

But I'm here to tell you that's not true at all.

I've only had one guitar teacher in my life, and he had me
practicing scales and theory for weeks. I got rid of him and taught
myself over a couple years and got better than any of my friends
who were taking "lessons."

Now, these teachers mean well, but they are actually making it
harder for people to learn because they expect all this massive
self-discipline up front for almost no payback in the early stages.

Practice does NOT make perfect.

If it was up to my first teachers, I would have spent a couple
years PRACTICING before I ever got out there and started DOING.

And this is the WORST way to learn.

In fact, if you spend too much time "practicing" and trying to get
ready to do it, you actually create a lot of fear and anxiety, and
you usually get frustrated and quit.

*** BIG REVELATION ***

Here's the big secret to success that most people will never tell
you. It's so important that I want you to write it down somewhere
and put it on your bathroom mirror so you can read it every day.

It applies to anything you want to learn, but especially with
dating and women.

I'm very VERY serious about this.

The most important step to getting good with women is FAST SUCCESS.

Because FAST SUCCESS is LASTING success.

When I taught kids guitar, the first thing I made sure someone
could do was play a simple SONG as soon as possible. (Usually with
power chords, because they're easy to do.)

And I saw them smile as they learned "Smoke on the Water" or "Iron
Man" in just a few minutes.

That hit of success juice is what keeps you in the game so you
learn more. Your brain thinks "Hey, this ain't so hard…" and you
keep trying. All because you laid the best foundation: An
experience of FAST SUCCESS that programmed your brain to have fun.

And keep coming back for more.

You MUST get a quick hit of success with women early in learning
dating and attraction skills, or you run the risk of quitting too
soon, or creating performance (AKA "Approach") anxiety.

And yet there are still "gurus" out there that want you to learn
every possible line, opener, story, routine, and close before you
ever go out in the field and start USING this stuff.

(These people are sometimes called "keyboard jockeys" because they
know their stuff, but they never actually go out and talk to women
to use it.)

I want to save you from that, as well as give you the right
foundation you need to improve your skills as far as you want to go.

And not get stuck in fear or anxiety of your own ability.

I sat down and went through all my notes over the last 8-10 years
of working on my own game, and I pulled out the QUICK success gems.
These are the tips and techniques that will get you FAST success
with women.

And I put it into a framework that any guy can learn in just a few
hours.

Now, this isn't a magic pill, but it's as close to one as you'll
ever get when you want to learn how to at-tract women. You can
literally learn this stuff in an afternoon and then go out that
night to use it and get success quickly.

It's my entry level program, and I call it my "Get a Girlfriend -
FAST" program.

You'll learn stuff like:

- My #1 Attraction-Starting Tip – If you do this ONE thing with
women, you'll drive up attraction with EVERY woman you meet, and
yet it's the one thing that most guys NEVER do… with examples
that I use…

- My #1 Attraction-Killing Trap – If you avoid this one behavior,
you'll be able to increase your dating success massively – and with
almost no effort…

- My top 8 Mistakes men make with women – and how to avoid them…

- What it is that creates nervousness and anxiety when you meet
women, and how to push it out of your head…

- Understanding Shame – the limiting factor of every man's life…
and how to get past this limiting obstacle once and for all…

- 3 steps to create self-confidence through action in your life -
and the missing element of self-confidence that you won't learn
from your therapist – or anyone else…

And this is just the first 20 minutes of the program.

In the rest of the program, I'll teach you my complete blueprint
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the first date, to the first time you get intimate with her…

And for you guys that want a steady girlfriend, I'll teach you my
basics of making a (shhhh) relationship work.

Oh, and I'm even including my secrets of turning a friend into a
girlfriend, and how to win back the woman you lost.

If you're serious about turning your dating life up to its full
potential, and probably tripling or quadrupling the number of women
you have in your life right now, then you owe it to yourself to
grab this program.

Go see the program by clicking here right now

To your success…

Carlos Xuma

PS: During my introductory offer, you can even get my "social
circle" skills program and my top Alpha Dating Tips for guys at an
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extra charge.

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I'm sure you've heard some pretty funny pickup lines out there.

Here are just a few of the pick up lines I've heard in my time:

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