If we must do our best to show women that we can provide and protect them as the alpha males, it seems like all the actions and initiatives that you ask us to take are very dominating. Almost like the woman is turned into a "push over", like they shouldn't have a say in relationship matters.

I know it sounds pretty harsh, but is this what ur ultimately getting at?

cheers,

Lance
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

My buddy Lance hits on a good question. You might think with all the whooping and howling I do about the Alpha Male masculinity that I teach that you could go overboard on this stuff, and you could.

But I do encourage balance.

The woman should not be turned into some kind of obedient and supplicating follower.

You need to show balance.

The man takes the lead most of the time. As long as the woman knows she can rely on him, she'll feel safe, and better able to play her feminine role.

But each person should be contributing and moving things forward.

Some of the things I ask you to consider may seem dominating, only because most of us were brought up to be wusses.

Sounds pretty harsh, but it's true.

And what we might consider "dominating" is really just "assertive" and not what television taught us to do.

Every behavior exists on a continuum, and unfortunately the way men really need to be is a pretty far swing from where we are now.

But we're getting there!

Stay Alpha!

- Carlos Xuma


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