The Inner Game of How to Get Laid

Hi Carlos,

I have been getting numbers consistently. Women are very attracted [to] me – I suppose b/c the numbers I have gotten were many times responses to the woman hinting she was interested in me.

I am confident with getting numbers, much thanks to you. Now what do you find crucial to one's inner game while going out on the "dates" initially? That is, how should one feel and act in order to get laid often?
______________________
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Let it be known that I do discuss the ugly truth of the "L" word every so often.

Let's face it: Guys need to get laid.

(So do women, but let's keep our discussion on this side of the gender fence.)

You'll find that one of the easiest things a guy can get is a phone number. Which means, that it's not the biggest victory for you, but it's a step in the right direction.

You see, men often consider phone numbers to be a very important measuring stick. It's like a sports statistic that defines them as a man.

After you get that handled, you want to move on and turn them into something more meaningful.

You happened to write this at an important moment, when I'm in the process of recording an inner game program for men. So I'll touch on this briefly…

The next step in your "inner game" of getting laid is simply a state of DESERVING what it is you're going after. That may seem kind of simple and almost obvious, but it's something that most guys don't feel.

Ask yourself: Do you feel like you DESERVE to get laid often?

Notice that I did not say "entitled" to get laid.

Entitlement means the old "something for nothing" viewpoint.

There's a WORLD of difference. Some guys think they should be able to get women into bed just "because." Like it's something that's guaranteed to you because you were born with a pecker.

Not so, my friend.

You must actually feel deserving of this, because there is much more to the joy of getting laid than just a good orgasm. In fact, part of the joy of getting into bed with a woman is knowing that you did all the groundwork necessary to justify this encounter.

Did you apply the right skills to show her confidence, raise attraction, engage her rapport and create a REAL connection?

If you are nailing down these fundamentals, you should have no problem feeling the inner game necessary to get laid regularly. (And I'll be talking about this in my new program as well.

It's actually better if I warn you against the one feeling that will STOP a woman from wanting to sleep with you.

And that's a sense of frustrated, angry entitlement.

It's the feeling some guys get when they've been deprived of sex for too long, or feel that they should just be getting laid because it's their birth right.

The funny thing is that the men who could care less are the ones that get laid the most…

If you want to learn more about the inner game of how to get laid CLICK HERE…

How to Seduce Women – Seduction Techniques

SEDUCTION.

This is one of the words I've tried to stay away from. I also don't like talking about "seduction techniques" either.

Why?

Mostly because I always felt that "seduction" had a bad meaning underneath it. It sounds like sneakiness and angry male behavior, honestly.

And I've also never felt that learning "seduction" or "seduction techniques" is what men REALLY wanted.

But then I came to a realization…

The first is that most guys are actually very ethical about pursuing women. We're not trying to harm or manipulate women, even when we're talking about 'seducing' women.

We really do want to please women – and ourselves – by being the kind of confident man she wants. We all feel validation when a girl likes us back. It's what we all want.

And when a guy wants to know how to seduce women, he's actually talking about the same things I teach, but we're just using different words.

You see, when guys want to learn a seduction technique, they're not really talking about "seduction" at all…

They're talking about…

Read the rest of the article here:
How to Seduce Women – Seduction Techniques
Your friend,

Carlos

DATING TIPS FOR SHY GUYS

I have to tell you, I was always a shy kid.

I was embarrassed easily, and I always wanted to avoid those
situations where I was put at the center of attention.

(But secretly I wanted to get that attention without all the
feelings of people "seeing" me in the wrong way, if you know what I
mean…)

So I'd be very quiet when I went to gatherings or social events
like my friends' birthday parties. Eventually, I'd come "out of my
shell" when I found out the other kids were cool and wouldn't make
fun of me.

But every time I was in front of someone new – BOOM! The shyness
would come back. And the shy guy came back, too.

And as I got older, that shyness started to get in the way of me
meeting girls.

I started noticing the girls when I was very young, too. I was hot
for a girl in my 1st grade class, believe it or not. Her name was
Julie, a raven-haired beauty. I still remember what she looks like
to this day.

I mean, there were dozens of cute girls around, but I couldn't seem
to get anything started – even in high school – because I just
didn't understand that…

To get the rest of this report on Dating Tips for Shy Guys, CLICK HERE…

One of the concepts from FJ Shark's "How to Be The Jerk Women Love" is something he calls "expecting more." It's a great example of how to handle a woman to let her know that you have value.
______________________
Example of “Expecting More”
One night last week I went to Dunkin Donuts for a "Box of Joe" that 
holds 10 cups of coffee. 

Inside were 2 night shift employees that I never saw before. 

It looked like I was the only customer that had been in there for a 
while so I asked the female employee if she'd mind making a new fresh 
pot because the other one was probably there for a while. 

Example of: EXPECTING MORE

She did, and it took a few extra minutes.

The other employee was new and he accidentally ripped the bag inside 
the box that holds the coffee.

While they were watching the coffee leak all over the floor they both 
looked at me for my reaction.

There must have been an uncomfortable moment of silence for the two 
of them because they thought I was going to start complaining and 
leave.

(Use of SILENCE)

The girl immediately said:

"While I put another pot on for you, let me get you a dozen free 
donuts."

I said: "Thanks" and picked them out.

Years ago I would have played the role of a martyr and said "No 
thanks, that's ok."

So don't be a martyr either. 

For years I didn't let people "give" to me and I had to be the only 
one giving. 

Later I found out that by being a martyr, (MARTYR: a willing victim or prey), I was doing more harm than good by depriving them of the feeling of giving to me.

And that’s one of the most important life lessons that you don’t want to learn the hard way.
-F.J. Shark
Author: “How to be the Jerk Women Love”


How Do You Give Gifts to Women?

I get a lot of guys asking me how to give women gifts.

In my latest special report, I'll answer these questions:

• What types of presents should be given at the beginning of a relationship that the man hopes to be a serious, lasting love? (and what not to give!)

• What signs should a man look out for to know what present to give? How do you interpret her signals…?

• Is there a time when you really shouldn't give a woman a gift?

And more!

Go read my article on this here:

How to Give Women Gifts