Carlos Xuma's Dating Tips for Guys

The Inner Game of How to Get Laid

Hi Carlos,

I have been getting numbers consistently. Women are very attracted [to] me – I suppose b/c the numbers I have gotten were many times responses to the woman hinting she was interested in me.

I am confident with getting numbers, much thanks to you. Now what do you find crucial to one’s inner game while going out on the “dates” initially? That is, how should one feel and act in order to get laid often?
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Let it be known that I do discuss the ugly truth of the “L” word every so often.

Let’s face it: Guys need to get laid.

(So do women, but let’s keep our discussion on this side of the gender fence.)

You’ll find that one of the easiest things a guy can get is a phone number. Which means, that it’s not the biggest victory for you, but it’s a step in the right direction.

You see, men often consider phone numbers to be a very important measuring stick. It’s like a sports statistic that defines them as a man.

After you get that handled, you want to move on and turn them into something more meaningful.

You happened to write this at an important moment, when I’m in the process of recording an inner game program for men. So I’ll touch on this briefly…

The next step in your “inner game” of getting laid is simply a state of DESERVING what it is you’re going after. That may seem kind of simple and almost obvious, but it’s something that most guys don’t feel.

Ask yourself: Do you feel like you DESERVE to get laid often?

Notice that I did not say “entitled” to get laid.

Entitlement means the old “something for nothing” viewpoint.

There’s a WORLD of difference. Some guys think they should be able to get women into bed just “because.” Like it’s something that’s guaranteed to you because you were born with a pecker.

Not so, my friend.

You must actually feel deserving of this, because there is much more to the joy of getting laid than just a good orgasm. In fact, part of the joy of getting into bed with a woman is knowing that you did all the groundwork necessary to justify this encounter.

Did you apply the right skills to show her confidence, raise attraction, engage her rapport and create a REAL connection?

If you are nailing down these fundamentals, you should have no problem feeling the inner game necessary to get laid regularly. (And I’ll be talking about this in my new program as well.

It’s actually better if I warn you against the one feeling that will STOP a woman from wanting to sleep with you.

And that’s a sense of frustrated, angry entitlement.

It’s the feeling some guys get when they’ve been deprived of sex for too long, or feel that they should just be getting laid because it’s their birth right.

The funny thing is that the men who could care less are the ones that get laid the most…

If you want to learn more about the inner game of how to get laid CLICK HERE…

 

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