I got this in Facebook this morning:

Comment from a reader:

The discovery ch. said wealth increase attractiness. Women in the show said, " The wealth of a man a sign ofstability, responsibility, and domicant" which contradict the dating community's ideas.

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Carlos Xuma Answers:

Well, first of all, tell me the last time a television show every got you a girlfriend…

What's that?

Never?

MMmm-hmmm.

Look, let's do some intelligent analysis here…

YES, a guy with more access to assets is going to be attractive to a woman.

I don't know why you think this is in contradiction to the dating community.

What I've always said (and others) is that you can BYPASS this programming.

Saying that hot women are only attracted to rich guys is the biggest cop-out excuse.

I should know – I used to use it!

Yes, wealth does increase attractiveness. Does that mean that you should give up trying to attract women if you're not "wealthy"?

No.

Instead, demonstrate wealth in every area of your life: experience, attitude, energy, ambition.

They've done studies showing that men who are poor but who are on the path to achieving their ambitions in life are MUCH more attractive to women than even the "already rich."

Wealth is an attitude as well as a status.

Learn how to communicate ALPHA wealth – CLICK HERE

I noticed a line in your email about men wanting "a sense of virility" by dating younger women. It's sad that you are hurting these older men by pushing the fact that their sense of virility is dependent on being with a younger women, rather than having a sense of virility within.

- Carol

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Sad? No.
Carol, what's truly sad is that you're pinpointing one small phrase and not seeing the huge picture of how I help men.
All I do is to help men realize their virility from within.
Go here: http://www.alphaconfidence.com/praiseforcarlosxuma.php

And look beyond the surface, as you would have me do…

Best of luck and love to you… CX

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I'll keep you posted on the cool things happening every day in my often over-interpreted life.

Here's an interesting story. It was sent to me by a reader who suggested that banter can go too far. Well, I'd like to go along with that, but it's just not the way to look at this situation. Men don't need any more reasons to fear women. Incidents like this are few and far in between. (Though, I'm wondering if the person in question would have had a longer sentence if the genders were reversed?)

See my comments at the end…

Model who left student scarred for life in glassing attack is jailed for two years

Drunk air stewardess Lisa Kee hit Liam Sharratt twice with the glass, dragging it down his face and wounding him in five places.

Kee, who lashed out when a flirtatious conversation turned sour, was jailed for two and a half years at Manchester Crown Court yesterday. She was dragged screaming into custody.

PhD student Liam Sharratt was scarred for life after Lisa Kee smashed a glass into his face during a drunken night out

Mr Sharratt, who was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder after the attack, said it had shattered his confidence and he was still struggling to come to terms with its effects.

Kee, 29, from Stockport, approached Mr Sharratt, 26, a PhD student, and his friends in The Living Room bar in Manchester city centre in November 2007.

The court heard she was drunk, with a ‘red wine moustache’ and carrying a full glass of wine as she began to exchange ‘good-humoured’ banter.

But witnesses had described how Mr Sharratt jokingly called her a ‘slag’ and the conversation turned ugly with Kee asking him: ‘Who do you think you are?’

Air stewardess and ex model Lisa Kee was jailed for two and a half years for the attack

She threw wine over him and when he laughed she became enraged and punched him in the head.

He laughed again and she hit him twice in the face with her wine glass. One cut was so deep that when the victim breathed, his cheek opened up.

Speaking after the sentencing, Mr Sharratt said: ‘I just remember her being very lecherous and provocative, coming over to a predominantly male group.

‘There have been times when I’ve been very drunk but I’m always in control enough to walk away.

‘I used to be very outgoing but this shattered my confidence. I have taught in front of 200 people and I loved it but I can’t do that any more.

‘It’s not just that people look at my scar and I have to relive the attack every time someone asks how I got it, but it took my inner confidence.’

Mr Sharratt, who had to delay completion of his studies following the attack, added: ‘In my opinion, the worst thing someone can do to another person is inflict something on them that they have no control over.

‘You change that person’s life forever.

‘I’m glad she’s gone to prison but she gets her life back in a couple of years while I have to live with this forever.’

Judge Martin Rudland told Kee, who was crying in the dock, she had drunk too much and ‘lost all control’.

He said that when banter turned ugly, her reaction was ‘excessive, disproportionate and inappropriate’.

He said: ‘This was a vicious and wholly unwarranted attack and you know what you have done and you know the enormity of what you have done and the effects which will continue to be a blight on Mr Sharratt every time he looks in the mirror.’

She was ordered to serve at least half of her sentence after admitting a charge of unlawful wounding.

Simon Csoka, defending, said his client was depressed prior to the offence and could scarcely believe what she had done.

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CARLOS XUMA HAS A REALITY CHECK:

So if a person is depressed, that means it's okay to slash up a guy's face? Interesting how people pull complete garbage out of their butt to save themselves.

Forget putting her in jail. Put her to work, and garnish her wages to pay for Liam's plastic surgery. THAT is what reparations are all about.

Also interesting is that they chose this bikini photo of Lisa as her picture. What, did they think we'd say, "Oh, it's not so bad. She's kinda hot…"

Look, guys, I've had a drunk chick smash a glass over my head in a club just because she didn't like me pushing back when she danced all over the back of my legs. I bled profusely from the wound. And interestingly, not one of the staff of the bar wanted anything to do with me or my injury.

What needs to be done is replace glass with plastic for the childishly impaired women (and men) who think it's okay to lash out and have an infantile temper tantrum. Maybe a sippy-cup would be better.

I don't pretend that my cut was anywhere as bad as what poor Liam had, but no matter what, I'll never fear reprisal for being social and enjoying myself.

I'm just on a raised alert around drunk chicks.

Stories like this can play on your sympathy and fear, or they can waken you up to more truth.

Never interpret in terms of fear.

Especially fear of women.

Hopefully LIsa learns her lesson – and Liam takes his misfortune and turns it into gold. Chicks dig scars, right? That story could be worked to incredible positive advantage for many many years.

Hey, Liam. I'm not poking fun. I just won't pity you.

And hopefully you won't either, brother.

What's done is done, and now it's time to turn this into your power and strength.

And what's the lesson for other guys here?

Forget the fear – just live your life full-throttle forward.

Caution, yes – Fear, NO.

"Follow the path of the unsafe, independent thinker. Expose your ideas to the dangers of controversy. Speak your mind and fear less the label of 'crackpot' than the stigma of conformity. And on issues that seem important to you, stand up and be counted at any cost."

— Thomas J. Watson