QUESTION FROM A READER…
I think Carlos is a great guy and he really knows what he is talking about. I've read … his books, and the material has really helped. However, none of these dating gurus ever discuss the concept of "love" or what to do once you are actually in a relationship. It would help a lot if they would expand their material into this realm…especially someone like Carlos, who is one of the best out there.
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CARLOS XUMA RESPONDS:
Why thank you, my good man. Always nice to know that you appreciate my material.
One of the reasons I've never delved into relationships is primarily because there are SO many books out there on the subject. I mean, it's almost unreal. But there were never any books on exactly what to do to get things started.
After all, if you didn't learn this stuff from your dad, you usually wound up learning from your clueless friends.
But in recent months I've noticed that a lot of guys are asking for this kind of information.
So I've taken the first step in doing what you mention – tackling relationships.
What I'm doing is discussing the kind of Alpha Man you need to be to make a relationship work long-term. How you keep being the confident man after you've hooked her – so you don't lose her!
If you guys like this material, who knows? I might actually get around to a more in-depth discussion of how to manage things with a woman you're staying with for the long term.
Stay tuned…
Hey carlos,
I got alot from your secrets of alpha man.After my divorce.I thanked you greatly for it.
I got good in dating after 2 years of going out and actually doing this.
I ended up sleeping with girls to a point that I had started my 4 girl rotation going
Something I thought was never possible or out of luck if you were to ask me in 2007.
But NOW ,after I moved back to my hometown,I met a woman and after 3rd time sex she wanted me pretty bad to be GF, I didnt have experience with relationships. I treated her well and I got burned by it and hurt pretty bad.She made me feel I wasnt doing a good job as a BF and I started feeling guilty and insecure.
I honestly felt after sex, that if I liked her , to treat her good.
I trust in you if you can help out so guys like me that took your programs worked hard to get good after many years of trying..how to maintain attraction and control the relationship without being they typical abusive or controling type which are common.
I gave in too soon to be her BF , it was 6 weeks thing,wanted to see me weekends and spend alot of time with her cause I felt it was right.
I got hurt pretty bad at end eventhough she still wanted to sleep with me as Friends with benefits after she cheated and I let her emotionally torture me.
I can get over oneitis cause I can get another woman with your program but Im seeing that relationships are another ball game, Im in fear that this will keep repeating since there isnt a reference book on relationships and the role as an ALPHA man in them.
Please help me and the guys like me and make the product!
Thank you
sincerely,
Sandros
Comment by sandros — September 3, 2009 @ 11:39 pm