QUESTION FROM A READER:

I hope you can help me out here. I used some of your techniques on approaching women. I have to tell you they work great.

So who do I believe the girl that says they are just friends or the guy that says they are together?

- Marcus

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

I have to confess that there was about 20 more paragraphs to that email, but this is the only sentence that really matters.

Why?

Because I'll bet you a fair amount of cash that you've run into this one before.

I have a TON of times.

Who do you believe?

NEITHER of them!

Here's what's going on from HER perspective:

He's probably needy & clingy and doesn't really man-up enough to get her excited and sexually attracted. That's why she says they're just "friends." She hasn't worked up enough nerve to tell him to hit the freakin' road yet. (That, or she's still getting the occasional dinner from him and doesn't want to kill the Golden Goose.)

Here's what's going on from HIS perspective:

He's invested a lot of money in buying this girl drinks and taking her out, and she still hasn't put out. He's only getting a little kissing action at the end of the dates, but not much action. He's getting frustrated, but he's also convinced he's got some ownership privilege here based on his financial investment.

Am I being cynical?

Maybe a little bit.

But the reality is that when you have two people giving this kind of conflicting story, you know there's more than meets they eye.

If you're in this situation, you have to realize that a woman often may be dating a guy because he's a BTN.

Better Than Nothing.

It's not evil or manipulative. After all, guys do it, too.

What it means is that she's a serial dater. She doesn't leave the guy she's with until she's got her next prey lined up.

You should call this girl and take her out. I really don't think the other guy realizes he's being a tool. And since you're using superior battlefield strategy, you're going to get the girl.

Again, I usually don't condone "boyfriend destroying" or any of that NONSENSE that a lot of so-called gurus teach out there.

But this guy isn't even a boyfriend, and the saddest part is that he isn't even aware of it. You can't be responsible for someone else's delusions, right?

And if you're reading this right now and you want to learn these killer techniques (for good and not for evil, of course), you need to go learn how to get a girlfriend – fast…



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