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How to pick up girls – with post-its.

How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

"Turn A Friend Into Your GIRLFRIEND"

So what is the answer to one of the most commonly asked question in dating ever since the beginning of time: how do you get your ex-girlfriend back – or turn a friend in to a lover?

Simple.

It's all a matter of know when when and how to play your cards right with your target of choice.

Here are the steps to get you out of the friend zone and get women sexually interested in you…

Warning! I don't sugar-coat this stuff. I tell it like it is. If you're shocked by honest talk about dating, maybe you need to go watch Oprah or something.

This is RAW…

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How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

What Women Want

Ah, the age-old question…

I got the chance to ask this question of a few women, and I'm sharing the answers today from one woman – Melanie – in today's video.

She outlines 8 things women are looking for, with a more realistic perspective.

Go discover what women want – from a woman:

What Women Want

Another guest article today from Josh on:

Approaching Women

This is easily the biggest concern of guys. First things first: you are the man. It is in your genes, and it is your role to make the approach.

Somewhere I heard the saying that women treat men like fruit on a tree. They will let you rot on the vine before giving you the push. If she is forced to make you more of a man, then you are not man enough for her.

This is imperative. It is your duty. You must make the first move. When men approach women correctly, the feeling they get is intense due to the ‘manliness’ you are presenting. It is actually refreshing to them.

A common mistake many men commit when approaching women is that the guys sell themselves short while putting too much value on the women. When this happens, women are repulsed because the manliness is just a puddle on the floor. After all, the two of you just met. She doesn’t know you – and more importantly, you don’t know her.

So how can a guy correct this mistake of placing too much emphasis on the interaction? Create more interactions. The notion of the approach implies that no interactions outside of meeting women occur. When I’m talking to as many people as possible at any event/location/etc the emphasis of each dramatically decreases and coincidentally women are approaching me. It’s like giving away a product or service to gain sales. Counterintuitive, right?

When I am out, I don’t think to myself, “Ohh, I’m going to go approach this girl”. Since I share my happy-go-lucky self to many people, I am merely continuing being myself to a girl but it is just a girl that I am interested in. But let’s say that a particular day or time of day I’m not being uber social, and THAT girl appears. Only then does it become a cold approach.

When I do make a truly cold approach, the first thing I do is smile. Smiling will do so much for the approach. It is an outwardly display of your attitude, which is carefree and fun.

How many times have you seen someone who would be much more attractive if they were just smiling? I see this ALL the time. Make yourself smile as often as possible

You should be smiling when you are walking up to the woman of interest because you are excited to meet her. To help out the situation, tell yourself that no matter what happens, this will be fun. This leads into another affirmation that is so helpful. When you are walking up to her, tell yourself that you are making her day. You are not thinking of anything except “I’m about to make her day and this will be fun”.

Whatever comes out of the interaction is of no importance; that is in the future and doesn’t matter.

What matters is what is happening right now in this very moment. As soon as you think about two minutes into the future, you are missing what is happening in front of your face.

Envision the interaction going well. See it; hear it; feel it.

Another affirmation-type game to play to ease the emphasis is this: If you're attracted to her then she's attracted to you. So next time you talk to that cute girl, you are smiling because you are a happy person because you are going to make her day and you know that she is going enjoy meeting a manly guy.

You just made her day because now she gets to tell her friends that she met a man, not a boy.

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

I would only add that when you approach a woman smiling, don't make it a goofball kind of smile. You don't want to look simple minded. You just want to look happy in your space.

Stay present and focused on THE PRESENT. Too many guys go back up into their head and ruin the vibe as they start sorting through their mental files for the Next Cool Routine.

F*** that! Just talk about the present moment in a way that GROUNDS her and you'll have 10 times more charisma.

For more information on how to approach women and how to talk to women – CLICK HERE…

GUEST BLOG: Why Do Women Break Up With Men?
by Dan Donche

This is the million dollar question, and if you’ve ever been dumped you know exactly why the answer to this is so valuable. It’s because 99 times out of 100 the reasons they give you for leaving are NOT the real reason for the break-up. Either she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you the real reason, or she may not even know the real reason. She only knows you don’t make her feel the same as you did in the beginning. In any case, most of the time the guy has no idea what happened.

I want to help you with that.

Essentially, there are only a few reasons why women break up with men.

• He cheated. (Doesn’t respect her.)

• He is an asshole. (Doesn’t respect her.)
• He was or became too nice. (Doesn’t respect himself.)

To keep this short, I’m not going to go over the first two. Chances are high that if you’re reading this, you fall into the third category anyway.

If a guy finds himself in a situation where he can’t figure out why she dumped him, chances are it is because of this. If you’ve ever been caught off-guard (she seems to leave you “out of the blue”), felt as though she wasn’t telling you the whole story as to “why”, or wondered what happened (especially after you did so many things because you thought it would keep her), you have fallen into this category.

The true underlying reason a woman breaks up with a guy here is because she lost attraction for him. Whatever he did in the beginning to attract her, he stopped doing over time. I can be almost certain she lost attraction for him because he sought her approval , was needy, she became more important to him than anything else in his life, or because he allowed her to get away with things because he thought it would please her.

There are a million other things guys do that fall into this category, but in short, the best way to prevent this is to be vigilant about being a man. A few tricks to keep you in the right mindset are staying focused on what you want in your own life (pursuing a purpose), having your own life (continue seeing your friends and doing exciting things), and have enough self control to not call/text/email/hang out with her all the time.

The key to preventing a breakup is to keep her attracted to you and to maintain a balance of respect between the two of you.
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS…

This is also the reason that guys get cheated on, too.

I realize that it's always the woman's choice to cheat, but at the same time, you have to realize that women tend toward more "passive" methods of getting their needs met. (Though, this is changing.)

This has a lot to do with the culturalization of women. (Something I discuss in more detail in my Alpha Masculinity program…)

In the end, though, we Alpha Men have to take the responsibility for all things that happen to us.

If she cheated, it can be a character flaw. In which case, it's our fault for not being more smart about our choice.

It can also be (and in most cases – IS) a situation where the man just didn't keep up his "man-up." He didn't keep the attraction going the way he should.

(You can learn more about keeping your "man up" here: Why do women break up with men…)

So what do you think?