Guys, I've got a few tips for you here on the use of profile pictures.

Most of the problems I see can be solved by just avoiding these mistakes. These are actual mistakes I see daily as I review my Facebook friends requests.

Do not use a picture that:

- Shows you in a serious/scary expression that you think is cool and "tough." Most of the time it's scary and off-putting – and will turn women away faster than Mike Tyson as your bouncer.

- Shows a blurred, unidentifiable blob that we must assume is you, but could be an alien tumor.

- Shows you as a 10 year old boy. Not as cute and endearing as you think. No girl wants to bump uglies with her kid brother, no matter how cute he might be.

- Shows you in a hulk-pose. You know, with that cool muscle shirt and shows off your body. If that's all you got, dude, just guess what kind of woman wants you based on that picture alone. Besides, they're still scary. You look like a potential attacker, not a potential lover.

- Shows you in a group so that we have to be freakin' Sherlock freakin' Holmes to figure out who you are.

- Shows an old, black and white photo of immigrants that makes us say "What the f***?" (Yes, I've seen these, and many other pictures that make NO sense at all. Save your clever in-jokes for somewhere else.)

- Shows you holding a red heart over your own heart. (Yep, this one's for real.) Seemingly romantic images like this make women say, "Awwww! I bet he's such a NICE guy! Yawwwwnnnnn…"

- Shows your face so close to the lens that it distorts you into something horrific and weird. STAND BACK!

- Shows kittens sleeping together. (Another real one, I'm afraid.)

- Shows you in front of a mirror taking your own picture. Totally un-clever and totally screams "I'm so lonely and socially withdrawn that I had to take my picture this way." (Almost as bad is the one-arm-taking-my-picture picture. Get someone else to hold the camera…)

- Shows some text of a scary phrase. I got one recently that said "… We are Legion, we do not forgive…" That one makes me think of all the bad things in life I don't want near me, dude.

- Shows you just standing there with your arms limp and lifeless by your side, communicating no life or energy.

- Shows you naked from the waist up (or from the waist down, now that we're talking about it…) in an attempt to lure a women with your boobies. Sorry, that noise you're hearing is the collective laughter of millions of women.

Sorry if one of these was your picture I picked on. But look at it this way, at least I helped you now, while you can still change it!

Instead, do this…

Take one good picture of you that has these elements:

- You, smiling
- Dressed in hip attire
- In motion or in action, doing something you enjoy
- Extra points for pulling it off so that your eyes can be seen with the glint of passion in them, but you're not even looking at the camera… You were captured for a moment in time…

Give that a shot, my Alpha Brother…

- CX