Letter from a reader:

Hi Carlos – You spoke in a recent newsletter about being incendiary. How about brazen? This is a true incident that happened…

Firstly some back ground info on me. I'm back into the dating game after several years of marriage. I seemed to have lost the confidence I had with women so I got a few online courses … your Bad boy and Alpha Male. My confidence and knowledge of women has grown tremendously…

One day I walked into a plastics shop, where they sell perspex and polystyrene.

As I walked in, I saw from behind this incredible body in a light flowing summer dress. This shop had aluminum high chairs and she was on one of them. The shop was empty except for us and a few staff at the very back.

As I came to the counter, I glanced sideways at her. She was a 10 easily. She had a very casual demeanor about her. My mind started thinking as I laid down the things I had in my hand on the counter and sat down.

I looked up and straight at the back of the shop and saw a mirror (one of the perspex mirrors they sell) and saw that she had turned to look at me. Still unsure of myself I just looked down at the sheet of paper in front of me with my sizes of what I needed.
I looked up at the back wall mirror and she was still looking at me and was giving me the all over.

So I thought to hell with it, go for it.

So I turned to her and our eyes met. I smiled at her and then did a take on her. I noticed she had no ring. She obviously enjoyed it as when our eyes met again she was beaming from ear to ear.

Now there was a line I saw in a movie once and I had been practicing it. I figured if ever I was going to try it, it may as well be now.

So I got off my chair went over to her and said in a casual tone "So what are you doing here?"

Now I know you're thinking: stupid question. I mean we're in a perspex shop, but that was part of the line. She replied in a nice sweet way that she was to get some perspex.

Again I said "What are you doing here?" and waited a few seconds as she gave me this quizzical look. I then carried on and said "You should be naked…" paused a bit "…in bed" paused a bit "…MY bed".

All the while, while I was saying this I gave her a slow look up and down all over. She looked at me stunned, shocked and confused and blushing. She took in a short breath of air out of shock and then slapped me.

But the slap was not hard, almost as if she was not fully convinced she did not enjoy what I had said to her.

She didn't burst out any comments and just looked at me in a way that was telling me she may have been thinking the same thing. That's when I knew I had to stick it out and stay cool. I replied in a casual cool way "That doesn't change what I see".

She looked at me even more confused. She stammered something and I could see she was not sure what to do as she looked at me. She then opened her bag pulled out a card, gave it to me, got off the chair and walked out after having one more glance at me.
She had not even bought the things she came for.

During this whole incident my heart was gunning it but I acted cool. Hell you think she was stunned, I was even more stunned that I had the guts to try it and it worked.

The following day after lunch I phoned her and again in the short conversation I kept up the vibe. It got to the subject of sex quickly. When I mentioned that I had worked as an escort in one of the local agencies in my past, (I really did do this for 8 months when I was 27 years old) there was a few seconds of quiet from her side and then she asked me for my address, which I gave her.
She told me she wanted to come over that night.

By 8pm she was in my bed. What a night. I've seen her several times since and I have a sneaky feeling she wants to surprise me by bringing a friend of hers.

I'm still getting my confidence up and still getting better every day but this one incident did wonders. Not something I'm going to forget for years.

- Harry B., Guateng. S.A.
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Harry, this is one of the few emails this week I felt compelled to respond to because of just how cool your story is…

I want to congratulate you on learning one of the most important lessons of a man's life…

That women actually WANT you to be the Alpha Man – The initiator. And even when she ACTS like she doesn't like it, you have to know better.

And when to take action yourself.

I couldn't have handled this one better myself, and I want to congratulate you for taking my Bad Boy Formula and putting it to the test.

If you're reading this now, then you know just how important it is to take the initiative and be the Alpha Man women will literally chase after to have…

And if you want to know what the Bad Boy Formula is, go here:
How To Attract Women – The Bad Boy

Stay Alpha…!

- Carlos Xuma

PS: It really is time to stop letting all the bad information and crazy complicated schemes get in the way of your success with women.

This is how to get the success you want:
How To Attract Women – The Bad Boy

Now THIS is how a pickup looks like, mates! THIS is what it should be like for you when it comes time to "plow" through those obstacles. If the script didn't require her to say No, this woman would have been off with him in a minute.

It's improvisational brilliance on one side, and pure balls on the other.

And it's something ANY man can do with the belief in what he has to sell. HIMSELF.

How to Meet Women

When it comes to learning the Art of Attraction, nothing is more important than knowing how to meet women.

Whether you're in a bar, a coffee shop, online dating, or at a friend's party, if you see an attractive woman you want to meet, you need the right skills to start things up.

In this article, you can learn the 3 ways to meet women, and how to not make the BIG MISTAKES most guys make when they meet women.

Go here to read the article:

http://www.carlosxuma.com/seductiontechniques/meet-women.php

Here's an interesting story. It was sent to me by a reader who suggested that banter can go too far. Well, I'd like to go along with that, but it's just not the way to look at this situation. Men don't need any more reasons to fear women. Incidents like this are few and far in between. (Though, I'm wondering if the person in question would have had a longer sentence if the genders were reversed?)

See my comments at the end…

Model who left student scarred for life in glassing attack is jailed for two years

Drunk air stewardess Lisa Kee hit Liam Sharratt twice with the glass, dragging it down his face and wounding him in five places.

Kee, who lashed out when a flirtatious conversation turned sour, was jailed for two and a half years at Manchester Crown Court yesterday. She was dragged screaming into custody.

PhD student Liam Sharratt was scarred for life after Lisa Kee smashed a glass into his face during a drunken night out

Mr Sharratt, who was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder after the attack, said it had shattered his confidence and he was still struggling to come to terms with its effects.

Kee, 29, from Stockport, approached Mr Sharratt, 26, a PhD student, and his friends in The Living Room bar in Manchester city centre in November 2007.

The court heard she was drunk, with a ‘red wine moustache’ and carrying a full glass of wine as she began to exchange ‘good-humoured’ banter.

But witnesses had described how Mr Sharratt jokingly called her a ‘slag’ and the conversation turned ugly with Kee asking him: ‘Who do you think you are?’

Air stewardess and ex model Lisa Kee was jailed for two and a half years for the attack

She threw wine over him and when he laughed she became enraged and punched him in the head.

He laughed again and she hit him twice in the face with her wine glass. One cut was so deep that when the victim breathed, his cheek opened up.

Speaking after the sentencing, Mr Sharratt said: ‘I just remember her being very lecherous and provocative, coming over to a predominantly male group.

‘There have been times when I’ve been very drunk but I’m always in control enough to walk away.

‘I used to be very outgoing but this shattered my confidence. I have taught in front of 200 people and I loved it but I can’t do that any more.

‘It’s not just that people look at my scar and I have to relive the attack every time someone asks how I got it, but it took my inner confidence.’

Mr Sharratt, who had to delay completion of his studies following the attack, added: ‘In my opinion, the worst thing someone can do to another person is inflict something on them that they have no control over.

‘You change that person’s life forever.

‘I’m glad she’s gone to prison but she gets her life back in a couple of years while I have to live with this forever.’

Judge Martin Rudland told Kee, who was crying in the dock, she had drunk too much and ‘lost all control’.

He said that when banter turned ugly, her reaction was ‘excessive, disproportionate and inappropriate’.

He said: ‘This was a vicious and wholly unwarranted attack and you know what you have done and you know the enormity of what you have done and the effects which will continue to be a blight on Mr Sharratt every time he looks in the mirror.’

She was ordered to serve at least half of her sentence after admitting a charge of unlawful wounding.

Simon Csoka, defending, said his client was depressed prior to the offence and could scarcely believe what she had done.

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CARLOS XUMA HAS A REALITY CHECK:

So if a person is depressed, that means it's okay to slash up a guy's face? Interesting how people pull complete garbage out of their butt to save themselves.

Forget putting her in jail. Put her to work, and garnish her wages to pay for Liam's plastic surgery. THAT is what reparations are all about.

Also interesting is that they chose this bikini photo of Lisa as her picture. What, did they think we'd say, "Oh, it's not so bad. She's kinda hot…"

Look, guys, I've had a drunk chick smash a glass over my head in a club just because she didn't like me pushing back when she danced all over the back of my legs. I bled profusely from the wound. And interestingly, not one of the staff of the bar wanted anything to do with me or my injury.

What needs to be done is replace glass with plastic for the childishly impaired women (and men) who think it's okay to lash out and have an infantile temper tantrum. Maybe a sippy-cup would be better.

I don't pretend that my cut was anywhere as bad as what poor Liam had, but no matter what, I'll never fear reprisal for being social and enjoying myself.

I'm just on a raised alert around drunk chicks.

Stories like this can play on your sympathy and fear, or they can waken you up to more truth.

Never interpret in terms of fear.

Especially fear of women.

Hopefully LIsa learns her lesson – and Liam takes his misfortune and turns it into gold. Chicks dig scars, right? That story could be worked to incredible positive advantage for many many years.

Hey, Liam. I'm not poking fun. I just won't pity you.

And hopefully you won't either, brother.

What's done is done, and now it's time to turn this into your power and strength.

And what's the lesson for other guys here?

Forget the fear – just live your life full-throttle forward.

Caution, yes – Fear, NO.

SPECIAL REPORT: The Ways Guys Can Attract Girls

I'm asked a lot about the whole "Nice Guy" versus the "Jerk" or the "Bad Boy…"

I decided to create a newsletter this week that hits this topic on the head. AND explains the THREE Ways guys can attract girls – and which one you want to use!

Ways Guys Can Attract Girls – And The Secret about why women don't like the "nice guy…"

Carlos Xuma

SPECIAL REPORT: The Secret Ingredient of PICK UP LINES…

So why do guys use pick up lines?

I've been studying this curious mating ritual for over 10 years

now, and I finally understood the reasons why guys want to use them.

Pickup lines are the equivalent of a knock-knock joke.

1) She feels obligated to answer, even though she knows what's coming…

2) She knows something dumb is coming after you answer…

3) She's forced to give you a small amount of polite attention after you're done…

4) She's going to get away from you as soon as humanly possible after you're done telling it…

Truthfully, that small amount of polite attention isn't even necessary anymore. She could just walk away from a dumb pick up line.

Who'd blame her?

Now, pickup lines come in two flavors:

Pickup Line 1 = The funny pickup line that you look up, seriously wanting something to say when you approach a woman, but knowing you'll NEVER use it…

Pickup Line 2 = The REAL pickup line that you want to just start a conversation.

Again, most guys use a line because…

To find out more about the missing ingredient that most guys miss, read the rest here:

Pick Up Lines – The Missing Ingredient

Carlos Xuma

PS: In this newsletter report, I also give you several great conversation openers, as well as my "personalization" technique to getting your opener to work every time…

Go read the report here right now:

Pick Up Lines – The Missing Ingredient