Hi Carlos – You spoke in a recent newsletter about being incendiary. How about brazen? This is a true incident that happened…

Firstly some back ground info on me. I'm back into the dating game after several years of marriage. I seemed to have lost the confidence I had with women so I got a few online courses … your Bad boy and Alpha Male. My confidence and knowledge of women has grown tremendously…

One day I walked into a plastics shop, where they sell perspex and polystyrene.

As I walked in, I saw from behind this incredible body in a light flowing summer dress. This shop had aluminum high chairs and she was on one of them. The shop was empty except for us and a few staff at the very back.

As I came to the counter, I glanced sideways at her. She was a 10 easily. She had a very casual demeanor about her. My mind started thinking as I laid down the things I had in my hand on the counter and sat down.

I looked up and straight at the back of the shop and saw a mirror (one of the perspex mirrors they sell) and saw that she had turned to look at me. Still unsure of myself I just looked down at the sheet of paper in front of me with my sizes of what I needed.
I looked up at the back wall mirror and she was still looking at me and was giving me the all over.

So I thought to hell with it, go for it.

So I turned to her and our eyes met. I smiled at her and then did a take on her. I noticed she had no ring. She obviously enjoyed it as when our eyes met again she was beaming from ear to ear.

Now there was a line I saw in a movie once and I had been practicing it. I figured if ever I was going to try it, it may as well be now.

So I got off my chair went over to her and said in a casual tone "So what are you doing here?"

Now I know you're thinking: stupid question. I mean we're in a perspex shop, but that was part of the line. She replied in a nice sweet way that she was to get some perspex.

Again I said "What are you doing here?" and waited a few seconds as she gave me this quizzical look. I then carried on and said "You should be naked…" paused a bit "…in bed" paused a bit "…MY bed".

All the while, while I was saying this I gave her a slow look up and down all over. She looked at me stunned, shocked and confused and blushing. She took in a short breath of air out of shock and then slapped me.

But the slap was not hard, almost as if she was not fully convinced she did not enjoy what I had said to her.

She didn't burst out any comments and just looked at me in a way that was telling me she may have been thinking the same thing. That's when I knew I had to stick it out and stay cool. I replied in a casual cool way "That doesn't change what I see".

She looked at me even more confused. She stammered something and I could see she was not sure what to do as she looked at me. She then opened her bag pulled out a card, gave it to me, got off the chair and walked out after having one more glance at me.
She had not even bought the things she came for.

During this whole incident my heart was gunning it but I acted cool. Hell you think she was stunned, I was even more stunned that I had the guts to try it and it worked.

The following day after lunch I phoned her and again in the short conversation I kept up the vibe. It got to the subject of sex quickly. When I mentioned that I had worked as an escort in one of the local agencies in my past, (I really did do this for 8 months when I was 27 years old) there was a few seconds of quiet from her side and then she asked me for my address, which I gave her.
She told me she wanted to come over that night.

By 8pm she was in my bed. What a night. I've seen her several times since and I have a sneaky feeling she wants to surprise me by bringing a friend of hers.

I'm still getting my confidence up and still getting better every day but this one incident did wonders. Not something I'm going to forget for years.

- Harry B., Guateng. S.A.
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Harry, this is one of the few emails this week I felt compelled to respond to because of just how cool your story is…

I want to congratulate you on learning one of the most important lessons of a man's life…

That women actually WANT you to be the Alpha Man – The initiator. And even when she ACTS like she doesn't like it, you have to know better.

And when to take action yourself.

I couldn't have handled this one better myself, and I want to congratulate you for taking my Bad Boy Formula and putting it to the test.

If you're reading this now, then you know just how important it is to take the initiative and be the Alpha Man women will literally chase after to have…

And if you want to know what the Bad Boy Formula is, go here:
How To Attract Women – The Bad Boy

Stay Alpha…!

- Carlos Xuma

PS: It really is time to stop letting all the bad information and crazy complicated schemes get in the way of your success with women.

This is how to get the success you want:
How To Attract Women – The Bad Boy

It's improvisational brilliance on one side, and pure balls on the other.

And it's something ANY man can do with the belief in what he has to sell. HIMSELF.

When it comes to learning the Art of Attraction, nothing is more important than knowing how to meet women.

Whether you're in a bar, a coffee shop, online dating, or at a friend's party, if you see an attractive woman you want to meet, you need the right skills to start things up.

In this article, you can learn the 3 ways to meet women, and how to not make the BIG MISTAKES most guys make when they meet women.

Go here to read the article:

http://www.carlosxuma.com/seductiontechniques/meet-women.php

See my comments at the end…

Model who left student scarred for life in glassing attack is jailed for two years

Drunk air stewardess Lisa Kee hit Liam Sharratt twice with the glass, dragging it down his face and wounding him in five places.

Kee, who lashed out when a flirtatious conversation turned sour, was jailed for two and a half years at Manchester Crown Court yesterday. She was dragged screaming into custody.

PhD student Liam Sharratt was scarred for life after Lisa Kee smashed a glass into his face during a drunken night out

Mr Sharratt, who was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder after the attack, said it had shattered his confidence and he was still struggling to come to terms with its effects.

Kee, 29, from Stockport, approached Mr Sharratt, 26, a PhD student, and his friends in The Living Room bar in Manchester city centre in November 2007.

The court heard she was drunk, with a ‘red wine moustache’ and carrying a full glass of wine as she began to exchange ‘good-humoured’ banter.

But witnesses had described how Mr Sharratt jokingly called her a ‘slag’ and the conversation turned ugly with Kee asking him: ‘Who do you think you are?’

Air stewardess and ex model Lisa Kee was jailed for two and a half years for the attack

She threw wine over him and when he laughed she became enraged and punched him in the head.

He laughed again and she hit him twice in the face with her wine glass. One cut was so deep that when the victim breathed, his cheek opened up.

Speaking after the sentencing, Mr Sharratt said: ‘I just remember her being very lecherous and provocative, coming over to a predominantly male group.

‘There have been times when I’ve been very drunk but I’m always in control enough to walk away.

‘I used to be very outgoing but this shattered my confidence. I have taught in front of 200 people and I loved it but I can’t do that any more.

‘It’s not just that people look at my scar and I have to relive the attack every time someone asks how I got it, but it took my inner confidence.’

Mr Sharratt, who had to delay completion of his studies following the attack, added: ‘In my opinion, the worst thing someone can do to another person is inflict something on them that they have no control over.

‘You change that person’s life forever.

‘I’m glad she’s gone to prison but she gets her life back in a couple of years while I have to live with this forever.’

Judge Martin Rudland told Kee, who was crying in the dock, she had drunk too much and ‘lost all control’.

He said that when banter turned ugly, her reaction was ‘excessive, disproportionate and inappropriate’.

He said: ‘This was a vicious and wholly unwarranted attack and you know what you have done and you know the enormity of what you have done and the effects which will continue to be a blight on Mr Sharratt every time he looks in the mirror.’

She was ordered to serve at least half of her sentence after admitting a charge of unlawful wounding.

Simon Csoka, defending, said his client was depressed prior to the offence and could scarcely believe what she had done.

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CARLOS XUMA HAS A REALITY CHECK:

So if a person is depressed, that means it's okay to slash up a guy's face? Interesting how people pull complete garbage out of their butt to save themselves.

Forget putting her in jail. Put her to work, and garnish her wages to pay for Liam's plastic surgery. THAT is what reparations are all about.

Also interesting is that they chose this bikini photo of Lisa as her picture. What, did they think we'd say, "Oh, it's not so bad. She's kinda hot…"

Look, guys, I've had a drunk chick smash a glass over my head in a club just because she didn't like me pushing back when she danced all over the back of my legs. I bled profusely from the wound. And interestingly, not one of the staff of the bar wanted anything to do with me or my injury.

What needs to be done is replace glass with plastic for the childishly impaired women (and men) who think it's okay to lash out and have an infantile temper tantrum. Maybe a sippy-cup would be better.

I don't pretend that my cut was anywhere as bad as what poor Liam had, but no matter what, I'll never fear reprisal for being social and enjoying myself.

I'm just on a raised alert around drunk chicks.

Stories like this can play on your sympathy and fear, or they can waken you up to more truth.

Never interpret in terms of fear.

Especially fear of women.

Hopefully LIsa learns her lesson – and Liam takes his misfortune and turns it into gold. Chicks dig scars, right? That story could be worked to incredible positive advantage for many many years.

Hey, Liam. I'm not poking fun. I just won't pity you.

And hopefully you won't either, brother.

What's done is done, and now it's time to turn this into your power and strength.

And what's the lesson for other guys here?

Forget the fear – just live your life full-throttle forward.

Caution, yes – Fear, NO.

I'm asked a lot about the whole "Nice Guy" versus the "Jerk" or the "Bad Boy…"

I decided to create a newsletter this week that hits this topic on the head. AND explains the THREE Ways guys can attract girls – and which one you want to use!

Ways Guys Can Attract Girls – And The Secret about why women don't like the "nice guy…"

Carlos Xuma

So why do guys use pick up lines?

I've been studying this curious mating ritual for over 10 years

now, and I finally understood the reasons why guys want to use them.

Pickup lines are the equivalent of a knock-knock joke.

1) She feels obligated to answer, even though she knows what's coming…

2) She knows something dumb is coming after you answer…

3) She's forced to give you a small amount of polite attention after you're done…

4) She's going to get away from you as soon as humanly possible after you're done telling it…

Truthfully, that small amount of polite attention isn't even necessary anymore. She could just walk away from a dumb pick up line.

Who'd blame her?

Now, pickup lines come in two flavors:

Pickup Line 1 = The funny pickup line that you look up, seriously wanting something to say when you approach a woman, but knowing you'll NEVER use it…

Pickup Line 2 = The REAL pickup line that you want to just start a conversation.

Again, most guys use a line because…

To find out more about the missing ingredient that most guys miss, read the rest here:

Pick Up Lines – The Missing Ingredient

Carlos Xuma

PS: In this newsletter report, I also give you several great conversation openers, as well as my "personalization" technique to getting your opener to work every time…

Go read the report here right now:

Pick Up Lines – The Missing Ingredient

I like the idea of meeting the less attractive chicks with a huge social circle of hot chicks. Whats your success rate like?

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

This is an effective strategy, but you have to watch out for something that most guys aren't aware of.

Women are very conscious of status and appearances. We all are, actually.

We know when we see someone dating or working for the "less attractive" people, and it colors our perception of them. Sometimes on a level that we're not willing to admit.

I don't condone classifying people, but the reality is that this is something everyone does. We judge, we compare, and we do all the dark psychological evaluations you can imagine. And it's all done under the pretense of "rational" thinking.

So if you're talking about just approaching the "not as cute" girls to get to know their friends, sure, that works like a charm.

The funny thing is that the women I approach that may not be "10"s usually end up being more interesting, fun, and attractive on other levels.

Hmmm….

Have you ever been talking with a bunch of guys, shooting the breeze, and all of a sudden a woman joins your group, and the vibe of the conversation changes COMPLETELY?

It’s like someone just threw a wrench into the gears. Suddenly the subject changes, and you hear a record scratch in the background.

Now all of a sudden you start censoring yourself and talking the way you think you “should” around a woman.

I remember when I would walk up to a group of girls and feel my mind freezing up on me like a puddle in winter. My mind would just go completely blank.

Now, there’s a secret here that I’m going to reveal to you in this newsletter that will help you talk to women with much more calm confidence – once you understand a hidden desire that women have.

I want to tell you something about my childhood first…

Don’t worry, we’re not getting in touch with our “inner child” or anything like that.

You see, I when I was a kid, I liked to hang around girls…

Sure, I had a lot of guy friends, but I also spent a LOT of time hanging around groups of girls whenever I could.

Yeah, I got teased about it a lot, but I had a feeling these girls were going to be the next big thing in a few years, and I wanted to start researching this trend right away.

The cool thing about having spent so much time around them was that I learned just how girls think and communicate. I started to understand what it was that women wanted in their conversations.

This one thing – this hidden ingredient – was something that guys were missing in almost every conversation they had with a woman.

What is this missing part?

Well, there was an old joke that we used to have when I was doing project management for big corporations. They would call us in to do a big project plan. And then we joked that it would look like this:

Step 1) Begin project to install new system

Step 2) *** A miracle happens ***

Step 3) Project success!

Well, obviously step 2 is where most people just smile, close their eyes, and go into their ‘happy place.’ (It’s this kind of wishful thinking that has led us to problems in our economy as well as the environment.)

Well, this “miracle happens” thinking has led me to realize just how many guys are making a really BIG error in their logic with women…

You see most guys have this concept of how conversation works with women:

Step 1) Start conversation

Step 2) ??? A miracle happens ???

Step 3) Get a date.

Step 2 is that ‘mystery step’ where ‘a miracle happens’ and she just instantly finds you interesting enough to want to go on a date with you.

This is a little like thinking that someone is going to want to buy a car without experiencing sitting in it, or test driving it out on the open road. Not many people “mail order” their cars.

The secret desire that women have that will help you fill in the blank between “Walk up to woman” and “get her phone number” is actually VERY simple.

And it’s not a miracle, either.

It is…

EMOTION.

Sometimes known as: DRAMA.

But not the BAD kind of drama. It’s the GOOD kind.

You see “drama” that a woman wants just means emotional ENERGY.

Ever had a dish of spaghetti where someone just dumped a plain bottle of tomato sauce on it? My grandma used to make it this way, and it was really boring.

Now, throw in a little garlic, onions, basil, and a bit of red pepper and now you’ve got yourself a spicy meat-a-ball!

It’s the same thing with conversations. Emotional energy is what gives spice to a conversation for a woman.

The good news is that there is a reliable set of strategies that I want to show you that build that kind of energy women are looking for in conversation.

And I want to teach them to you for FREE.

Not only that, but I want to teach you some of my conversation techniques (inner and outer game) that will work for you in just about ANY situation – talking with friends, co-workers, family, women – whoever.

In the first video, you’re going to learn:

- The one hidden element of powerful conversation that you cannot create – you can only *discover*…

- The REAL reason a woman puts you into the “friends only” category…

- Why you never want to “flip” – or BE flipped…

- What the dating “program” is – and how to stop running this program before it crashes your system…

- Much more…

Go watch the video here: "How to Talk to Women" training video…

Oh, and I hope you’ll forgive me for the last 60 seconds of this video. I had to cut loose and have some fun. Some videos can be really boring, so I thought I’d throw in a little something different for you rockers out there…

And be sure to watch your email over the next few days. I’ve got about 90 minutes of great videos to share with you that are going to change your conversation game for good…

Go here right now to see my conversation inner game video:

"How to Talk to Women" training video here…

Your friend,

Carlos Xuma

PS: I’ll tell you a little secret: When a woman jumps into a “guy conversation” alone, she is secretly hoping she can get away with talking trash just like the guys do.

If you ever get a woman on her own with a group of guys, she will very likely drop her “angel” act and tell you things that would shock you…

Women have a secret desire to break free of this “pure as the driven snow” image and have a little dirty fun. That’s one of the things they love about guys – it’s that we’re more in touch with our sense of dumb and simple fun…

Learn more in my "How to Talk to Women" training video here…

I have no problems talking to women anywhere now and I have more confidence and feel better about myself. I definitely get more women in my life now compared to the the past. However I have a question to ask you:

How do you attract escort girls?

I saw a hot escort on the net and I wanted to meet her, for the sex ofcourse but my main goal was to try and attract her (so she wouldn't charge me any money and do it more often probably lol). When I used sense of humour she was laughing but I couldn't tell if it was out of politeness as I was her client or wether it was genuine.

I obviously was confident (I could tell that because I wasn't nervous). About self-control well this could be a paradox but I did not show her I was needy when we met. She was all nice and everything but I just couldn't seduce her. She wasn't willing to talk about herself and seemed to be very distant even after I tried my best to make her comfortable.

Does seducing escort girls and strippers require a different game?

R. in the UK

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Thanks for the kudos on the program… I think a LOT of guys are going to dig this new one. Primarily because you understand that I teach REAL inner game growth, not hokey new age mind tricks.

Now, as far as your situation, I'd beware of courting women in that field of work. She's there for a reason, and it's not usually a healthy one.

Stick to the women that are going to provide you with the better return on investment…

Even if you're not interested in a long-term relationship, you should still stick with the more "grounded" women.

As far as seducing strippers, it really only requires that you have more solid game and you're able to see past their lifestyle to what they really need and want. Most guys just think they're going to "pickup" a woman in this field with "pickup" routines – or their handy dandy "stripper seduction manual."

Keep in mind that in that field, she's got freaks and geeks galore paying money for her to give them the illusion.

That's what a man is buying with his money.

The fantasy.

And also remember that your best bet is always in going after the QUALITY women. And not just quality – you also want AVAILABLE women.

As you're figuring out, these women are trained to stay disconnected from her clients. It's her best survival strategy, and that doesn't leave much room for you in her lifestyle.

Don't go to bat in a game where you already have 2 strikes against you, and the pitcher is sending you a curveball at 130 miles per hour.

Make sense?

Not terribly new, if you ask me, but it is interesting that there is consistent information like this out there, and we all still rationalize our behavior for other reasons.

If there's one thing to remember, it's this: You don't do things for the reasons you think you do…

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Men make up four-fifths of the world's skydivers and two-thirds of all rock climbers, and a new study suggests they do it for more than just the thrill.

Men may flirt with risk because they think it will help them score women



Evolutionary psychologists have long believed that women are choosier about men than men are about women. It's not (just) because girls want to make life difficult for guys; it's because, at least historically, women have had to pick men who could provide for them and their children. This pressure forces males to work harder to prove their worth to females and out-compete other guys in the running. Social psychologists at Florida State University wondered: could risk-taking be one of the ways in which men show off their strength, ambition and confidence to potential lovers?



To find out, they asked 134 undergraduate male and female psychology students to participate in an experiment. They wanted to see whether men would take more risks if they were "in the mood" and if the men thought there were beautiful women around for them to woo.



The researchers showed students pictures of either 10 attractive or 10 unattractive faces of the opposite sex. Then they asked the subjects how sexually motivated they felt — that is, how interested they were in finding new sexual partners. One-by-one, each of the students then played a succession of 11 rigged blackjack hands; since the researchers knew what cards the participants had, and all were given the same cards, the scientists could compare how the subjects played each hand. (Asking for a "hit" indicated a risky move, since the player risked going over 21, while "staying" was considered safe.)



Finally, after the game, the researchers tested the students' memories for the faces they had seen before the game.



The men were much more likely to take blackjack risks if they were sexually motivated and had seen images of beautiful women before they played. The guys were also more likely to take risks if they saw attractive female faces and remembered them afterwards — even if they weren't looking for a new partner — perhaps because the faces made more of an impression on them and ramped up their sexual desire. The behavior of the female students, however, wasn't affected by what they felt, saw, or remembered.



"The bottom line is that risk-taking can be a tool that men use to show potential mates that they have desirable qualities such as confidence or ambition," said study co-author Michael Baker, a doctoral student in social psychology at Florida State.



Interestingly, the study found that guys who saw attractive faces but weren't sexually motivated did not take more risks than guys who saw unattractive faces. Baker speculates that guys only take risks if they stand to benefit from them, because risk-taking does come with a cost — after all, a bad skydiving or rock climbing experience could keep a guy from reproducing ever again.



"If men are not motivated to pursue a mate or there are no potential mates present, then the potential benefits of a risky display are less likely to outweigh the potential costs," Baker told LiveScience.



In other words, if a guy doesn't really want a new relationship, then his safest bet may be just to stay home and watch football.