QUESTION FROM A READER:
Your material is way too strong. So strong it has gotten me in a situation I have never thought I'd ever be. The question I have is in the opposite direction of almost all the answers I've found in Google: "How do I bring a Girlfriend into the 'friend zone'?"
Here is the motivation of the question… I met this really nice girl, and we went out some times. Now she is deeply in love with me, but I have this feeling that she is not the one for life. She is a nice girl, an excellent person to talk to, very evolved. But I want to have her as a friend, not married and all that. She has a 9 year old son from previous marriage, that also scares me a bit.
So, is there a nice way to become her friend and not end the relationship leading her to thinking that all men are complete jack asses and leaving both her and me miserable for a long time?
- Andre
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
My god, man… you're saying that you're getting TOO successful with my tips?
High quality problem, bro. There are guys out there that are crying for you. The horror of it all.
(Just imagine how potent my other programs are if this is what you're getting for FREE? 
Look, her feelings are not your responsibility. Just treat her with respect and confidence, and she will get the right message. Don't fall into the trap of feeling responsible for another person's emotions.
She feels those all on her own.
Sounds like she may even be a bit needy as well.
Do the right thing and just tell her how it is…
That's what an Alpha Man would do…!
Best of luck, Mr. "Too" successful… Be careful what you do with those tactics.
With great power comes great responsibility.
- Carlos
Hey Carlos, I hope you are fine my Alpha Brother. I am planning to buy your Ultimate Inner Game program by the end of January. I simply can't wait. My inner game has improved ever since I got into your community and the more information I get from you the more better my inner game gets.
I have no problems talking to women anywhere now and I have more confidence and feel better about myself. I definitely get more women in my life now compared to the the past. However I have a question to ask you:
How do you attract escort girls?
I saw a hot escort on the net and I wanted to meet her, for the sex ofcourse but my main goal was to try and attract her (so she wouldn't charge me any money and do it more often probably lol). When I used sense of humour she was laughing but I couldn't tell if it was out of politeness as I was her client or wether it was genuine.
I obviously was confident (I could tell that because I wasn't nervous). About self-control well this could be a paradox but I did not show her I was needy when we met. She was all nice and everything but I just couldn't seduce her. She wasn't willing to talk about herself and seemed to be very distant even after I tried my best to make her comfortable.
Does seducing escort girls and strippers require a different game?
R. in the UK
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Thanks for the kudos on the program… I think a LOT of guys are going to dig this new one. Primarily because you understand that I teach REAL inner game growth, not hokey new age mind tricks.
Now, as far as your situation, I'd beware of courting women in that field of work. She's there for a reason, and it's not usually a healthy one.
Stick to the women that are going to provide you with the better return on investment…
Even if you're not interested in a long-term relationship, you should still stick with the more "grounded" women.
As far as seducing strippers, it really only requires that you have more solid game and you're able to see past their lifestyle to what they really need and want. Most guys just think they're going to "pickup" a woman in this field with "pickup" routines – or their handy dandy "stripper seduction manual."
Keep in mind that in that field, she's got freaks and geeks galore paying money for her to give them the illusion.
That's what a man is buying with his money.
The fantasy.
And also remember that your best bet is always in going after the QUALITY women. And not just quality – you also want AVAILABLE women.
As you're figuring out, these women are trained to stay disconnected from her clients. It's her best survival strategy, and that doesn't leave much room for you in her lifestyle.
Don't go to bat in a game where you already have 2 strikes against you, and the pitcher is sending you a curveball at 130 miles per hour.
Make sense?
I hate getting bad advice.
Don't you?
It sucks, because you waste time taking that bad advice, using it,
and not getting any better. And then you need to RE-learn the GOOD
advice that will get you what you want.
It's really frustrating. You even start to ignore people's advice
after a while because you don't know who to trust after that.
One bit of advice I always heard from my first guitar teacher (and
my first martial arts teacher, and really every teacher I ever met)
was this:
"It takes a lot of practice to get good at something, and you have
to study for hours and hours to get good enough to DO something."
After all, "practice makes perfect."
But I'm here to tell you that's not true at all.
I've only had one guitar teacher in my life, and he had me
practicing scales and theory for weeks. I got rid of him and taught
myself over a couple years and got better than any of my friends
who were taking "lessons."
Now, these teachers mean well, but they are actually making it
harder for people to learn because they expect all this massive
self-discipline up front for almost no payback in the early stages.
Practice does NOT make perfect.
If it was up to my first teachers, I would have spent a couple
years PRACTICING before I ever got out there and started DOING.
And this is the WORST way to learn.
In fact, if you spend too much time "practicing" and trying to get
ready to do it, you actually create a lot of fear and anxiety, and
you usually get frustrated and quit.
*** BIG REVELATION ***
Here's the big secret to success that most people will never tell
you. It's so important that I want you to write it down somewhere
and put it on your bathroom mirror so you can read it every day.
It applies to anything you want to learn, but especially with
dating and women.
I'm very VERY serious about this.
The most important step to getting good with women is FAST SUCCESS.
Because FAST SUCCESS is LASTING success.
When I taught kids guitar, the first thing I made sure someone
could do was play a simple SONG as soon as possible. (Usually with
power chords, because they're easy to do.)
And I saw them smile as they learned "Smoke on the Water" or "Iron
Man" in just a few minutes.
That hit of success juice is what keeps you in the game so you
learn more. Your brain thinks "Hey, this ain't so hard…" and you
keep trying. All because you laid the best foundation: An
experience of FAST SUCCESS that programmed your brain to have fun.
And keep coming back for more.
You MUST get a quick hit of success with women early in learning
dating and attraction skills, or you run the risk of quitting too
soon, or creating performance (AKA "Approach") anxiety.
And yet there are still "gurus" out there that want you to learn
every possible line, opener, story, routine, and close before you
ever go out in the field and start USING this stuff.
(These people are sometimes called "keyboard jockeys" because they
know their stuff, but they never actually go out and talk to women
to use it.)
I want to save you from that, as well as give you the right
foundation you need to improve your skills as far as you want to go.
And not get stuck in fear or anxiety of your own ability.
I sat down and went through all my notes over the last 8-10 years
of working on my own game, and I pulled out the QUICK success gems.
These are the tips and techniques that will get you FAST success
with women.
And I put it into a framework that any guy can learn in just a few
hours.
Now, this isn't a magic pill, but it's as close to one as you'll
ever get when you want to learn how to at-tract women. You can
literally learn this stuff in an afternoon and then go out that
night to use it and get success quickly.
It's my entry level program, and I call it my "Get a Girlfriend -
FAST" program.
You'll learn stuff like:
- My #1 Attraction-Starting Tip – If you do this ONE thing with
women, you'll drive up attraction with EVERY woman you meet, and
yet it's the one thing that most guys NEVER do… with examples
that I use…
- My #1 Attraction-Killing Trap – If you avoid this one behavior,
you'll be able to increase your dating success massively – and with
almost no effort…
- My top 8 Mistakes men make with women – and how to avoid them…
- What it is that creates nervousness and anxiety when you meet
women, and how to push it out of your head…
- Understanding Shame – the limiting factor of every man's life…
and how to get past this limiting obstacle once and for all…
- 3 steps to create self-confidence through action in your life -
and the missing element of self-confidence that you won't learn
from your therapist – or anyone else…
And this is just the first 20 minutes of the program.
In the rest of the program, I'll teach you my complete blueprint
for handling women – from first meeting, to first phone call, to
the first date, to the first time you get intimate with her…
And for you guys that want a steady girlfriend, I'll teach you my
basics of making a (shhhh) relationship work.
Oh, and I'm even including my secrets of turning a friend into a
girlfriend, and how to win back the woman you lost.
If you're serious about turning your dating life up to its full
potential, and probably tripling or quadrupling the number of women
you have in your life right now, then you owe it to yourself to
grab this program.
Go see the program by clicking here right now
To your success…
Carlos Xuma
PS: During my introductory offer, you can even get my "social
circle" skills program and my top Alpha Dating Tips for guys at an
unbelievable discount. They're included with this program at NO
extra charge.
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