Confidence With Women

Behind every man who is afraid to approach a woman lies the fear of rejection. If a guy weren’t afraid of being turned down, he would hit on every woman he was attracted to. But that would take a whole lot of confidence with women, now wouldn’t it?

But let’s face it, most guys are afraid that their ego is going to burst into flames if they hear the word “no.” Men think this means they aren’t worthy of the attentions of an attractive woman. They think this means they aren’t good enough.

This is not true. What will overcome this fear is building up confidence with women as much as possible.

Part of that journey is realizing that being turned down, whether it is to embark on a conversation or whether it is for a date, either way this is not truly a judgment or evaluation of your self worth. It’s actually very narcissistic to think this way. For instance, the same thing occurs if you have a big zit and you think every person walking down the street notices it and makes a judgment on you because of it. Well, guess what? Everyone else walking down the street is probably more worried about that stain on their blouse or the whether their fly is open, or whatever. The point is they probably aren’t thinking about you. They, like you, are worried about what others think of them.

Confidence With Women Steps:

1. So, the first step in gaining confidence is to get out of that mindset. This means that you need to accept that your reaction to being rejected is not necessary. IN fact, it’s a waste of time and energy. Somebody else turning you down has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

Instead of looking at rejection as a judgment, adopt the attitude that the only person worth your time is somebody who is interested in you.

Why would you waste time on someone who isn’t interested?

2. Ignore that primal instinct to want what we can’t have. Instead, realize that you deserve to be wanted.

So, in essence, when you approach a woman, you need to detach yourself from whatever comes out of the interaction.

3. To bolster your confidence with women, you also need to tweak your goals. The goal then should be that instead of trying to get a phone number or date, aim for something else that is less tangible. For instance, your goal should be the chance to learn from, and improve, based on your experience with women that night.

4. Becoming focused on a goal such as getting a phone number or getting a kiss can actually hurt your confidence with women. Something about that desire to “get” becomes obvious to women and they will often shy away from you.

Instead, to build your confidence with women, make your goals all about what you “give.” For instance, you can give value to a conversation or add some fun to a group. When you look at this way, everyone ends up winning.

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