Men often ask for my advice for a seduction technique. But they are frequently putting the cart in front of the horse. Before you need to worry about how to seduce a girl, you need to figure out just how to get her phone number.

It’s really just common sense, actually: if you are ever going to close the deal, the first step you need to accomplish is getting her phone number so you can arrange another meeting.

Let’s take a look at a few ways to take this all-important, crucial first step:

Seduction Technique:

1. The simplest way to get her phone number is to do this: ask for it.

Okay, that sounds sarcastic, but what I’m trying to say is that often people are afraid to just ask for what they want in life. You can’t be mad you aren’t getting what you want, if you’ve never asked for it.

Be optimistic. You aren’t going to get anything in life without asking for it. Believe me, nobody is going to hand any of us anything on a silver platter. So the first step in getting what you want is asking for it.

2. Be willing to risk rejection. Be willing to have her say no instead of yes. Realize that her “no” means that she is the one who is missing out. She is the one who made the mistake. Remember that this is true. She is not judging you because she doesn’t have enough information about you to make a judgment, so she made a mistake in being so quick to say no to you. Take heart in that realization and also understand that nobody has the power to make you feel inferior unless you give them that power.

3. Practice a simple approach and memorize it so that it comes naturally when you walk up to a woman and ask for her number. Say something, such as this: “Hey, it was nice meeting you.” Then start to walk away. Stop. Turn back around. Say: “You know, we might want to continue this conversation at a later date. What’s your number?”

4. Realize that at this point, it is completely out of your hands. You’ve done your part, now it is up to you. The only control you have now is how you react to what she says. If she is interested in you, she’s going to give you her number. Anything less than that is a no, despite whatever excuses might be tied up with it. I don’t care if she says she doesn’t give out her home number to men or that she’s in the secret service and has to keep her privacy. Anything less than giving you her number doesn’t matter.

5. Memorize and practice your reaction to a no and then say it with confidence. Here is a great one to say that only makes you look good and possibly leaves her regretting her actions:

Say: “Well, the night is young.” Then give her a cocky wink and walk away.

Inside, tell yourself loudly: “Next.” And move on.

Even the most confident man has probably at least one time in his life been shaking in his boots about approaching women he desperately wants to meet. This is normal. Everyone at some point feels this fear, which most likely stems from the fear of rejection, but may also be caused by a whole other host of issues. Let’s take a look at some realizations that might help you overcome this fear of approaching in a series of tips and realizations below:

 Approaching Women Tips:

1. Your anxiety is a biological, learned, and cognitive response. In other words, you are conditioned to beware of people you don’t know. Kids are brought up to have wariness of strangers. It might be a self-preservation response from way back or an instinct.

We’ve all heard of “stranger danger,” a phrase developed initially to protect kids from dangerous strangers, but the reality is that abductions by strangers are rare.

We probably aren’t born to be distrustful and wary of people we don’t know, so that also means we can combat this fear to approach someone we’ve never met.

2. The reality is that why you are afraid truly doesn’t matter. People get so caught up in figuring out why they react a certain way that they waste all their energy on that when it really is irrelevant. It doesn’t matter. Forget about the therapy route. Don’t waste another minute trying to figure out what happened to you in your past to make you act and react the way you do. It’s a waste of time.

What is important is figuring out how to move on. What is important is making a game plan that yields results. Your ability to leave that approach anxiety behind is what truly matters.

3. Your fear is not worth all the energy and power you give it. Your anxiety is not overwhelming and some all-powerful thing that controls you and everything you do. Snatch that power back. Just like speech teachers tell people to imagine their audience before them is naked – you are taking away their power to embarrass you. Don’t give anyone else this power over you. You deserve better than that.

4. You might be giving your fears and anxiety power simply by fighting against them. Psychological studies say that the more you resist and fight, the more power you give away. The idea stems from the fact that resisting is negative. So, try a positive approach. Instead of trying to stop being a negative, fearful, anxious person, turn your goal into becoming an open, curious, positive person. Adopt behavior you find appealing and ignore behavior you dislike in yourself.

5. Use cognitive methods to conquer your approach anxiety. Cognitive therapy is very powerful and can help you break through the emotions that cause your fear.

We have more power than we think over our thoughts. For instance, turn your mindset around from trying to get something from the woman you approach into trying to give her something. When you look at your approach as a way to create value for her and you are asking nothing in return, your anxiety disappears.

I'm not sure, but I think this girl is flirting with him…

Here's how to be obvious when firting.

To get what you want, it often helps to put your goal or desire down on paper first. For some reason, this simple activity has enormous power. Write down what you want. Be careful what you ask for, however, because it might come true.

When it comes to dating, you need to do this first thing.

Take a look at these tips on getting a girlfriend and how they can work for you:

Tips on Getting A Girlfriend:

1. Set yourself up with an evening or afternoon alone and arm yourself with a pen and paper. Think long and hard about what kind of woman you want in your life. Look at the following areas: looks, education, athleticism, disposition, age, musical taste, smoker or no smoker, hobbies, and so on. List everything and anything you can think of. Take your time. Have a beer and snack.

2. Examine your list and break it into two categories: MUSTS And PLUSES. The musts are the qualities the woman must have, such as loyalty or honesty. The pluses are the ones that you would like but aren’t deal breakers, for instance, you might say it would be nice if she liked country music. However, if she smokes, you are not interested.

3. Make a list of steps you need to take to meet his woman. For instance, you might say, go to bars, or join a health club, learn public speaking skills, buy new clothes, get a hair cut, approach three women a day, and so on.

This might take some time and effort, but that is the point. Be willing to do what it takes to make a relationship happen. Put in the work ahead of time and it will pay off in the end.

4. Try to find a woman who is low-maintenance. Being flexible is a sign of a low-maintenance woman. If she needs a lot of attention or coddling, she’s probably high-maintenance. If she nags or complains and expects you to read her mind: not low-maintenance. Is she independent and can take care of herself? Low-maintenance.

Low-maintenance girlfriends will make you happier in the long run and will save you a lot of stress and heartache.

5. Make sure she has integrity, respect, honesty, and a good attitude.

These are positive qualities we should seek out in everyone we deal with.

If a woman has integrity, you can trust her. Same with honesty. If she treats you and herself with respect, she’s probably a keeper. If she is a control freak and/or doesn’t trust you, that might be a sign to get out or away.

A woman with a good attitude is as concerned about you as she is about herself. She will be constantly growing as a person and cares about working on the relationship as much as you do. She will be positive, optimistic, and stable in her emotions and actions.

The first bit of advice I give guys looking for  tips on how to get a girlfriend  has to do with the image they present to the world. Some guys underestimate the importance of this. So, if you are looking for a girlfriend or even women to date casually, the first thing you need to do is spiff up your appearance. That first impression counts for a lot. This doesn’t mean you only need to worry about how you look. What it does mean is you need to make sure your appearance doesn’t turn a woman off before she even has a chance to get to know you. The goal in spiffing up your appearance is to get your foot in the door.

In addition, when you look good, you feel good, so then you are boosting that number one most important trait you need in attracting women: self-confidence.

Here are some basic areas of hygiene and physical appearance to focus on first:

Tips on How To Get A Girlfriend:

1. Hair. I’m talking about the hair on your melon and every other bit of your body where hair grows. First, the hair on your head should be neat. If you want long hair, fine, but keep it neat. And just as a matter of interest, you limit the number of women who will date you if you have green hair, a Mohawk, or long hair in a ponytail. It’s just a fact that the majority of women prefer men with shorter hair.

Men who are losing their hair, might consider going with a very, very short cut or even shaving their head, which works well for many men. I think your best haircut is one that appears as if it looks good with little effort.

Mustaches and beards are very subjective. Some women love them. Some hate them. I do know that some women are reluctant to kiss a guy with facial hair because they don’t want their face scratched, so keep that in mind. If you do opt for facial hair, keep it neat and trimmed.

Hair on the rest of your body should be looked at carefully. Back hair or excessive hair on your neck might require some waxing. Look for nose hair and ear hair and make sure you don’t have any. Some women like chest hair, so I wouldn’t worry about that much. Keep your nether region trimmed, as well.

2. Nails. These should be clean and trimmed. On hands and feet.

3. Mouth. Make sure your lips aren’t chapped. Keep your teeth brushed and flossed. Use mouthwash is you worry about bad breath. Regularly visit your dentist. If you have major teeth issues, consider investing in getting them fixed. Remember this is where she’s going to put her tongue. Make it inviting.

4. Skin. Make sure you aren’t scaly and rough all over. Cracked and callused skin is not a turn on. Use lotion. Make attempts to clear up acne.

5. Smells. Body odor and foot odor and farts are a huge turn off. Save them for the locker room. And I already mentioned breath. Lick your hand and smell your saliva. If it smells, your breath reeks. Carry mints and then consult a dentist if you have chronic bad breath.