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Hey, man… I have something for you from my good buddy Dean Cortez…

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It's your wingman Dean here. I'm sure you're
looking to meet a hot girl this weekend when
you go out…

But do you know the #1 PROBLEM that guys run
into when they're talking to girls?

I'm talking about the #1 SEX STOPPER that
prevents guys from taking a girl home…

It has nothing to do with lacking money, or
not being handsome enough. The #1 factor that
causes women to REJECT MEN can be boiled down
into one simple sentence…

He does not communicate to her that he is an
ALPHA MALE.

He might buy her drinks, and say some funny
things, and be polite…

But he is not tapping into his INNER ALPHA
MALE and showing her the qualities that
women are hard-wired to WANT.

Carlos Xuma and I sat down and came up with
the "21 Alpha Rules" that a guy needs to live
by, if he is going to constantly attract high-
quality, beautiful women and take massive
action towards ALL of his goals in life.

And, we put together an "e-course" — a free
series of training bulletins, delivered to
your email inbox — that will show you how
to make this transformation…

If you're tired of being the "nice guy" that
women like "as a friend"…or if you want to
build the ALPHA LIFESTYLE so that you put all
of the pieces together…the women, the money,
the business goals, the mental attitude…

Well, then you need to jump on this before we
pull it down:

http://www.thealpharules.com

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez (& Carlos Xuma)

A guest article today from Josh on the topic of…
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Places to meet women

A common excuse from guys for not having the women they want in their life is to claim that they don’t know where to go to meet women. The most common place to meet people is at a bar (duh).

I find it rather funny that so many people claim that they can’t meet high quality mates in bars. After all you are there too, right?! But that shouldn’t be the sole place to meet women and friends; bars are the easiest because so many people go there – and while they are out, they're looking to be social and have fun. I don’t even drink that much, and I still enjoy meeting women in bars.

Now that I’ve dispelled the opinion that no quality people can be found at bars, where do I go to meet women?

The answer is easy: OUTSIDE MY HOME. I simply walk out the door and there’s a whole world of people there just waiting to meet me. I’ve met women at the train stop, on the bus, at Target, at a coffee shop, even when I’m in line at the DMV. The list goes on. I don’t go anywhere special to ‘meet’ women; I just live fully.

The notion of going to certain places to meet women is symptomatic of a larger issue. When a guy is asking where to go, the underlying problem is that he is too short-sighted on the symptom, which is very erroneous. Guys should be going out just meeting everyone, half of which will be women. Take a step back and see the big picture.

But let’s say you still aren’t buying in to the notion that everywhere outside of your apt/home/bedroom, there are people literally waiting to meet you. The question then to ask is “What are my interests?” Even if you're a World of Warcraft junkie, you can still go to a LAN party to meet people, albeit probably not many women. But even the guys you meet have friends of the female persuasion.

Comics are your interest? Go to a comic convention or comic shops. Go read your comics someplace outside of your living room and you’re sure to notice someone taking interest in what you are doing. The answer to the underlying problem is that you are doing what you enjoy doing – and people, especially women, love to see the passion for it! I think most guys would be surprised that women enjoy many of the “geeky” things that guys like.

I read a recent statistic that puts as many women online playing video games as men.

Meet-up Group: Try on this idea – a bunch of people looking to enjoy their favorite activity with other, like-minded people. I joined a meet-up group for motorcyclists and ended up with 25 other people. Enjoy foosball, tennis, table tennis or maybe even something outside the volley sports? There are sure to be other people with the exact same interests.

`. This spring I started running 5k’s and met several people just by picking up running. This applies to darts, bowling, pool, bocce ball and virtually ANYTHING.

The bottom line is that guys just have to put themselves out there. I noticed when I offer myself to the fullest extent, I meet an insane amount of people, again half of them women.

You can put yourself ‘out there’ in two ways: doing the things you already love to do, or trying something new. Now, get out there and offer women the opportunity to meet you!
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Here's a crazy idea for all you guys with a real set of balls:

Hold a "date my ex" party. Invite 3 of your ex girlfriends (that you're still on speaking terms with) – and introduce them to your friends.

Just because she didn't work out for you doesn't mean she won't for someone else.

Oh, if you're still attracted to your ex, don't invite her. I'd think this was obvious, but you never know.

Thanks, Josh…

Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

Talking to an attractive woman really can make a man lose his mind, according to a new study.

The research shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than those who chat to someone they do not find attractive.

Researchers who carried out the study, published in the Journal of Experimental and Social Psychology, think the reason may be that men use up so much of their brain function or 'cognitive resources' trying to impress beautiful women, they have little left for other tasks.

The findings have implications for the performance of men who flirt with women in the workplace, or even exam results in mixed-sex schools.

Women, however, were not affected by chatting to a handsome man.

This may be simply because men are programmed by evolution to think more about mating opportunities.

Psychologists at Radboud University in The Netherlands carried out the study after one of them was so struck on impressing an attractive woman he had never met before, that he could not remember his address when she asked him where he lived.

Researchers said it was as if he was so keen to make an impression he 'temporarily absorbed most of his cognitive resources.'

To see if other men were affected in the same way, they recruited 40 male heterosexual students.

Each one performed a standard memory test where they had to observe a stream of letters and say, as fast as possible, if each one was the same as the one before last.

The volunteers then spent seven minutes chatting to male or female members of the research team before repeating the test.

The results showed men were slower and less accurate after trying to impress the women. The more they fancied them, the worse their score.

But when the task was repeated with a group of female volunteers, they did not get the same results. Memory scores stayed the same, whether they had chatted to a man or a woman.

In a report on their findings the researchers said: 'We conclude men's cognitive functioning may temporarily decline after an interaction with an attractive woman.'

Psychologist Dr George Fieldman, a member of the British Psychological Society, said the findings reflect the fact that men are programmed to think about ways to pass on their genes.

'When a man meets a pretty woman, he is what we call 'reproductively focused'.

'But a woman also looks for signs of other attributes, such as wealth, youth and kindness. Just the look of the man would be unlikely to have the same effect.'

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

This seems pretty intuitive… After all, a man is "on" when he's courting a woman, trying to show off his social adeptness, suitability for mating, etc. Women have to be tuned into the moment, even when nervous, so they can pick up on all the subtle clues.

I like the terminology… "Reproductively focused."

What do you think? Comment on this below…

Cute little video of the day…

How to pick up girls – with post-its.

How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

"Turn A Friend Into Your GIRLFRIEND"

So what is the answer to one of the most commonly asked question in dating ever since the beginning of time: how do you get your ex-girlfriend back – or turn a friend in to a lover?

Simple.

It's all a matter of know when when and how to play your cards right with your target of choice.

Here are the steps to get you out of the friend zone and get women sexually interested in you…

Warning! I don't sugar-coat this stuff. I tell it like it is. If you're shocked by honest talk about dating, maybe you need to go watch Oprah or something.

This is RAW…

Go Read The Rest Of This Article go here:
How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

What Women Want

Ah, the age-old question…

I got the chance to ask this question of a few women, and I'm sharing the answers today from one woman – Melanie – in today's video.

She outlines 8 things women are looking for, with a more realistic perspective.

Go discover what women want – from a woman:

What Women Want

Another guest article today from Josh on:

Approaching Women

This is easily the biggest concern of guys. First things first: you are the man. It is in your genes, and it is your role to make the approach.

Somewhere I heard the saying that women treat men like fruit on a tree. They will let you rot on the vine before giving you the push. If she is forced to make you more of a man, then you are not man enough for her.

This is imperative. It is your duty. You must make the first move. When men approach women correctly, the feeling they get is intense due to the ‘manliness’ you are presenting. It is actually refreshing to them.

A common mistake many men commit when approaching women is that the guys sell themselves short while putting too much value on the women. When this happens, women are repulsed because the manliness is just a puddle on the floor. After all, the two of you just met. She doesn’t know you – and more importantly, you don’t know her.

So how can a guy correct this mistake of placing too much emphasis on the interaction? Create more interactions. The notion of the approach implies that no interactions outside of meeting women occur. When I’m talking to as many people as possible at any event/location/etc the emphasis of each dramatically decreases and coincidentally women are approaching me. It’s like giving away a product or service to gain sales. Counterintuitive, right?

When I am out, I don’t think to myself, “Ohh, I’m going to go approach this girl”. Since I share my happy-go-lucky self to many people, I am merely continuing being myself to a girl but it is just a girl that I am interested in. But let’s say that a particular day or time of day I’m not being uber social, and THAT girl appears. Only then does it become a cold approach.

When I do make a truly cold approach, the first thing I do is smile. Smiling will do so much for the approach. It is an outwardly display of your attitude, which is carefree and fun.

How many times have you seen someone who would be much more attractive if they were just smiling? I see this ALL the time. Make yourself smile as often as possible

You should be smiling when you are walking up to the woman of interest because you are excited to meet her. To help out the situation, tell yourself that no matter what happens, this will be fun. This leads into another affirmation that is so helpful. When you are walking up to her, tell yourself that you are making her day. You are not thinking of anything except “I’m about to make her day and this will be fun”.

Whatever comes out of the interaction is of no importance; that is in the future and doesn’t matter.

What matters is what is happening right now in this very moment. As soon as you think about two minutes into the future, you are missing what is happening in front of your face.

Envision the interaction going well. See it; hear it; feel it.

Another affirmation-type game to play to ease the emphasis is this: If you're attracted to her then she's attracted to you. So next time you talk to that cute girl, you are smiling because you are a happy person because you are going to make her day and you know that she is going enjoy meeting a manly guy.

You just made her day because now she gets to tell her friends that she met a man, not a boy.

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

I would only add that when you approach a woman smiling, don't make it a goofball kind of smile. You don't want to look simple minded. You just want to look happy in your space.

Stay present and focused on THE PRESENT. Too many guys go back up into their head and ruin the vibe as they start sorting through their mental files for the Next Cool Routine.

F*** that! Just talk about the present moment in a way that GROUNDS her and you'll have 10 times more charisma.

For more information on how to approach women and how to talk to women – CLICK HERE…

GUEST BLOG: Why Do Women Break Up With Men?
by Dan Donche

This is the million dollar question, and if you’ve ever been dumped you know exactly why the answer to this is so valuable. It’s because 99 times out of 100 the reasons they give you for leaving are NOT the real reason for the break-up. Either she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you the real reason, or she may not even know the real reason. She only knows you don’t make her feel the same as you did in the beginning. In any case, most of the time the guy has no idea what happened.

I want to help you with that.

Essentially, there are only a few reasons why women break up with men.

• He cheated. (Doesn’t respect her.)

• He is an asshole. (Doesn’t respect her.)
• He was or became too nice. (Doesn’t respect himself.)

To keep this short, I’m not going to go over the first two. Chances are high that if you’re reading this, you fall into the third category anyway.

If a guy finds himself in a situation where he can’t figure out why she dumped him, chances are it is because of this. If you’ve ever been caught off-guard (she seems to leave you “out of the blue”), felt as though she wasn’t telling you the whole story as to “why”, or wondered what happened (especially after you did so many things because you thought it would keep her), you have fallen into this category.

The true underlying reason a woman breaks up with a guy here is because she lost attraction for him. Whatever he did in the beginning to attract her, he stopped doing over time. I can be almost certain she lost attraction for him because he sought her approval , was needy, she became more important to him than anything else in his life, or because he allowed her to get away with things because he thought it would please her.

There are a million other things guys do that fall into this category, but in short, the best way to prevent this is to be vigilant about being a man. A few tricks to keep you in the right mindset are staying focused on what you want in your own life (pursuing a purpose), having your own life (continue seeing your friends and doing exciting things), and have enough self control to not call/text/email/hang out with her all the time.

The key to preventing a breakup is to keep her attracted to you and to maintain a balance of respect between the two of you.
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS…

This is also the reason that guys get cheated on, too.

I realize that it's always the woman's choice to cheat, but at the same time, you have to realize that women tend toward more "passive" methods of getting their needs met. (Though, this is changing.)

This has a lot to do with the culturalization of women. (Something I discuss in more detail in my Alpha Masculinity program…)

In the end, though, we Alpha Men have to take the responsibility for all things that happen to us.

If she cheated, it can be a character flaw. In which case, it's our fault for not being more smart about our choice.

It can also be (and in most cases – IS) a situation where the man just didn't keep up his "man-up." He didn't keep the attraction going the way he should.

(You can learn more about keeping your "man up" here: Why do women break up with men…)

So what do you think?