When you flirt with women, what you don’t do is equally as important as what you do.

For instance, you need to make sure when you are flirting that you are not only building attraction, but that you are careful not to ruin what you’ve created.

A guy could be going along swimmingly with a woman and than suddenly realize somewhere along the line, he’s blown it and she walks out the door. The guy is almost always left scratching his head. He might even do a mental inventory checking off all his tried-and-true tricks to flirt with women, but what he isn’t paying attention to, are the mistakes he’s made.

Here are a few common mistakes so you can avoid being the guy left in the dust. And believe me, we’ve all been there.

Mistakes to Avoid When You Flirt with Women

1. Not noticing the vibe in a conversation. This means essentially being oblivious to what is going on. It sometimes happens when you are so caught up in what you are going to say or do next that you don’t notice the situation in front of you.

I still cringe about making the mistake once. A group of people in the break room at work seemed too serious. I got my water and sniped, “Guys, you need to lighten up? Who died?”

One answered, “My brother.”

It was awful. Lesson learned. I should have immediately noticed the vibe or tone of the group and responded accordingly. Too often, we overlook these cues.

In conversation, listen for what words a woman is using and that will help gauge the vibe, and her interest level. For instance, a woman who is asking you a lot of personal questions seems interested, but she also wants to know more about you so you can decide whether to establish a connection with you. Don’t deflect the questions as a test.

2. Trying to adopt an attitude or personality that is not authentic.

Don’t hold back on your true personality. If you are naturally a guy who cracks jokes or is bashful or silly, don’t try to be reserved or macho. Be yourself. If you try to act against your natural personality, the woman will sense that is not you and be suspicious.

If she senses you aren’t being yourself or aren’t being open, that is a turn off. On the other hand, being comfortable with your natural personality is very attractive to women.

For instance, I’ve talked to women about some nerdy or dorky things I enjoy and have found that they like me even more because of the passion and energy I express for the things I like.

3. Don’t try to be cool. My mother has always told me the truly cool people don’t need to tell others they are cool.

Don’t try too hard to be part of the conversation or to see important. If you notice that you are not being paid attention to in the conversation (say in a group), it’s tempting to want to talk louder or say something so people think you are cool. Resist. Even though it sucks and feels bad. Resist.

If you find yourself doing any of these things, you know you are trying too hard:

• Bragging
• Interrupting
• Being abrasive or obnoxious

Being inappropriate, such as telling dirty jokes or using foul language, or just being too sarcastic and negative.

One way to avoid doing this is to equate them with someone who is jumping up and down yelling, “Look at me! Look at me!”

If you realize that is essentially what you are doing, it is easier to avoid that behavior.

These are just a few mistakes to avoid so your interactions with women will go that much smoother.

I can’t tell you how many men have asked me this over the years.

Usually after they say this, they add: “It seems like women just want to date the guys who are jerks and that just leaves us nice guys to finish last.”

Well, these men are partly right. There is a fine line between a guy who is a jerk and a guy whom women find unbelievably sexy.

But most men don’t know how to traverse that fine line.

If you want to answer the question “How do you get a girl to like you?” then you need to learn how to walk that line.

Here are two simple steps that will answer the question:

How Do You Get A Girl To Like You Steps:

1. Study a jerk. That’s right. Take a look at how a jerk acts. Look at those traits that he embodies. Figure out which of those traits make him attractive to women.

For instance, here are some common traits and characteristics that jerks exhibit:

• Selfishness. His wants are more important than anyone else’s desires.
• Intolerant. If a woman causes him problems or cramps his style, he’s outta there. Same thing if she doesn’t show enough respect for him.
• Indifference. He could give a crap what anyone else thinks about him.
• Disregard for approval. He doesn’t need you to approve how he looks, what he says, how he acts.
• Not intimated. Even the most beautiful woman doesn’t intimidate him.
• In touch with emotions. If he’s pissed off, he shows it. But usually with restraint. He’s not the out-of-control freak with a temper, but he isn’t afraid to show he’s angry.
• He’s honest to a fault. That means if he doesn’t like a woman, he’s not going to be nice to her or continue to date her so he doesn’t hurt her feelings.

2. Take on some of those traits. Incorporate some of that behavior into your own personality.

When you break down some of the traits that make up a so-called jerk, you realize that many of them are good qualities for most men to have. Look at which ones you think you could incorporate into your life. Remember that the true jerk is the one who hurts other people; so make sure that none of these behaviors actually hurt someone. There is a difference between hurting a woman’s feelings because you tell her you don’t like her that way and hurting a woman’s feelings because you pretended to like her to get her in the sack and then dumped her.

Look at the jerk traits that you can make work for you and adopt them today. Even if it feels odd at first, keep at it until it assimilates into your personality. In other words, fake it until you make it.

If you really want to figure out “How do you get a girl to like you?” you’ll follow these two steps and see a dramatic difference in your dating life. It may not come overnight, but with time, you’ll see. Practice makes perfect, baby.

If you want to be a stud, a man who has women swarm around him when he enters the room, you’re going to have to acquire some characteristics, traits, and qualities that women like.

There are certain ways to get a girl to like you and they don’t involve the car you drive, your super cool pad, or your impressive job. It’s about your attitude, my friend.

If you cultivate these qualities and adopt the attitudes, thoughts, and actions of an alpha male, you will be more successful with women than you ever dreamed.

Here are some sure fire steps to get you there.

Ways To Get A Girl To Like You

1. The number one most important thing you need to do if you want a girl to like you is to establish some trust.

Ultimately, this reflects how comfortable women are around you. If you want to attract women, gaining their trust needs to be job one. Very few women will want to be around a guy they don’t trust to some extent.

2. The second thing you need to work on is building attraction. You want a woman to trust you, but you don’t want to be such an open book that she loses attraction for you. Walk that fine line between showing her she can trust you, and also keeping some things close to your chest.

Chemistry is something you can actually generate. You can build on a physical and emotional connection. Good looks might initially help with attraction, but after that is up to men to create attraction. Average-looking men have a better chance of sneaking in under the radar and doing this. Very good-looking men have to fight against a preconceived notion that women think they are players.

3. The third thing men need to work on is respect. This means the respect you have for women as well as the respect you have for yourself.

Women want your respect. They never want to feel as if you are using them or fooling them. A man’s job is to act respectful to women. But men must also insist on a woman’s respect. You make this clear by how you carry and present yourself. You demand respect when you set boundaries and expectations. For instance, you may decide you have a zero tolerance for someone who is chronically late. Or you might decide that someone who doesn’t return calls is not worth your time. You have boundaries and limits and respect yourself enough that if a woman doesn’t adhere to them, then you move on.

Remember, to gain respect you must be respectful and worthy of respect by acting with integrity and honor in all your interactions.

These are just a few tried-and-true ways to get a girl to like you. Men who adhere to these three philosophies or lifestyle guides, if you will, can expect to find themselves more wildly successful with women than they ever dreamed.

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