{"id":2059,"date":"2011-02-09T12:48:36","date_gmt":"2011-02-09T20:48:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=2059"},"modified":"2012-07-05T12:25:12","modified_gmt":"2012-07-05T19:25:12","slug":"how-to-get-a-girlfriend-7-mistakes-to-avoid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2011\/02\/how-to-get-a-girlfriend-7-mistakes-to-avoid\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; 7 Mistakes To Avoid"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.alphaconfidence.com\/conversation-persuasion\/carlosxumacrop4.jpg\" alt=\"Carlos Xuma - How To Get A Girlfriend\" hspace=\"8\" vspace=\"8\" width=\"130\" height=\"182\" align=\"left\" \/> Most guys focus too much on clever techniques, and even &#8220;tricks&#8221; to attract women.<\/p>\n<p>The dating scene has changed quite a bit over the years, but one thing  is still true: If you can just avoid the mistakes most guys make when  dating women, you&#8217;ll have no problem with how to get a girlfriend. The  fact is that <strong>most guys make small blunders<\/strong> that kill a woman&#8217;s attraction almost instantly without even knowing it.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re about to discover the 7 mistakes to avoid when learning how to get a girlfriend.<\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 1: Bragging and talking too much.<\/h2>\n<p>This one is extremely common. A guy wants to make a strong and favorable  impression on a woman, so he turns the spotlight on himself and  proceeds to show off and brag about his accomplishments. The whole time,  the woman is smiling and nodding, trying to look interested. The guy  doesn&#8217;t pick up on his own behavior, and even if he does have a pleasant  date, she never calls him back again.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t make this mistake. Be sure to turn over at least half (more is  better) of the conversation to her so that she can feel included. She  also just wants to know that <strong>you&#8217;re interested in HER<\/strong>, which means demonstrating that you can listen as well as talk.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"..\/..\/seductiontechniques\/images\/side-image.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\"how to get a girlfriend\" width=\"260\" height=\"330\" align=\"right\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 2: Buying drinks and throwing money around.<\/h2>\n<p>A lot of guys have been brought up with the faulty programming that says  that you need to treat women nice by buying them things and paying for  everything. After all, that&#8217;s chivalrous, right?<\/p>\n<p>Wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Women don&#8217;t want to start out a conversation &#8211; or a date &#8211; <strong>feeling like they will OWE you something<\/strong> at the end. (Which is the way a lot of guys try to learn how to get a  girlfriend, unfortunately.) Leave your wallet out of the equation and  let her impress you based on who she is, not because she feels obligated  to pay attention to you.<\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 3: Lying.<\/h2>\n<p>This one falls in line with the first mistake in some ways, but it&#8217;s also a category all its own.<\/p>\n<p>There are many men that think the only way you can get physical and  intimate with a woman is if you lie and say things you think she wants  to hear.<\/p>\n<p>Nothing could be further from the truth.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, a <strong>woman can usually tell when you&#8217;re lying<\/strong>.  And even if you pull it off in the short-term, you&#8217;re writing checks you  can&#8217;t cash later on. She will find out eventually, and then you will  just have to deal with the repercussions. As well as the toll that it  takes on your self-image as you develop an identity as an impostor.<\/p>\n<p>Stick to the truth. And an occasional embellishment is forgivable.<\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 4: Being Needy.<\/h2>\n<p>If there&#8217;s one tip for how to get a girlfriend that will pay you  dividends, it&#8217;s this one. Being needy or insecure around women is the  kiss of death.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s become a cliche, but women simply need to see confidence from you, and <strong>being too into her is going to kill your confident vibe<\/strong> faster than you can say &#8220;Let&#8217;s just be friends.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Remember that the more you show someone that you need them in your life,  the more they will feel repulsed by you. Maybe you remember that kid  from grade school who seemed to want to be your friend a bit too much?  How did you feel about that?<\/p>\n<p>She feels the same way about guys that try too hard.<\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 5: Coming On Too Strong.<\/h2>\n<p>When guys let a woman know that he&#8217;s &#8220;into her&#8221; too quickly and too  fast, this is coming on too strong. Being assertive and dominant is  good, but <strong>being over-eager is not good<\/strong>. You want to avoid touching too much, too soon.<\/p>\n<p>Just play it cool.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"..\/..\/seductiontechniques\/images\/approach-women.jpg\" alt=\"How To Get A Girlfriend\" width=\"250\" height=\"360\" align=\"left\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 6: Being meek and timid.<\/h2>\n<p>At the far end of the spectrum is being too wishy-washy and wussy &#8211; and  women HATE that kind of behavior. She will not only find you  unattractive, this behavior will actually repulse her.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be the Alpha Man<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Be decisive and direct. Be confident and self-assured.<\/p>\n<p>If you look like you&#8217;re second-guessing yourself, you&#8217;re going to turn her right off.<\/p>\n<h2>How To Get A Girlfriend &#8211; MISTAKE 7: Not getting help.<\/h2>\n<p>The fact is that over 90% of men have difficulty with women &#8211; a fact  that shouldn&#8217;t really suprise you. At some point, you might discover  that you need a little help with women, the same way I did many years  ago.<\/p>\n<p>Guys don&#8217;t want to make themselves look weak or helpless, and we sure  don&#8217;t want to have to ask for help. I&#8217;ve been there and done that.<\/p>\n<p>But the best thing you can possibly do is to <strong>seek out more dating tips for guys<\/strong>.  Discover how to get a girlfriend from someone who can show you not only  how to avoid the mistakes, but how to push the right &#8220;attraction  buttons&#8221; in women that get them interested in you.<br \/>\nAnd if you want to get the complete roadmap of how to                         go from home alone to how to meet and attract the sexy                         girlfriend of your dreams, then you need to learn how                         to approach and flirt with women with my home study program.                         It&#8217;s fast, easy, and guaranteed to get you from no women                         to wherever you want to be in just a few weeks.<\/p>\n<p>Date                         as many women as you want &#8211; for as long as <strong>YOU<\/strong> want.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s up to you&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Go download your copy here: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.datingdynamics.com\/get-a-girlfriend\/dating-tips-for-men.php\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>How                             to Get a Girlfriend &#8211; FAST<\/strong><\/a><strong> <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Talk soon&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Wishing you confidence                           and success with women &#8211; With <strong>HONOR<\/strong> and                           integrity.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.alphaconfidence.com\/images\/sig1.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Carlos Xuma - signature\" width=\"200\" height=\"48\" \/><br \/>\n<strong>Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>PS: You might       be reading this right now, just happy to be entertained with the information       I&#8217;m sharing. But I want more than this for you.<\/p>\n<p>I want you to get <strong>REAL<\/strong> results with women.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Stop                           pretending everything is &#8220;fine.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Stop walking away from situations that make you nervous                           &#8211; like approaching a woman, or asking her out.<\/p>\n<p>Stop                               letting the outside world stop you from being the                           man you want to be&#8230;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Really, the time for denial and mediocrity is <strong>over<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Make a decision that today is the day things will change                         forever for you.<\/p>\n<p>Go here now and learn how to make that change:<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.datingdynamics.com\/get-a-girlfriend\/dating-tips-for-men.php\" target=\"_blank\">CLICK                             HERE: How to Get a Girlfriend &#8211; Fast<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<div><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"..\/..\/images\/dot.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" width=\"260\" height=\"0\" \/><\/div>\n<div>For a downloadable catalog of my programs,<br \/>\nand an overview of REAL Game, <a href=\"..\/..\/\" target=\"_blank\">click                       here<\/a>.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most guys focus too much on clever techniques, and even &#8220;tricks&#8221; to attract women. 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