Hey Carlos,\u00a0<\/p>\n
Your dating materials are WORTH THEIR WEIGHT IN GOLD<\/strong>!!! I seriously have improved my skills with women because of you man! Thank you SO MUCH<\/strong>! I wasn’t too bad with women to begin with honestly. I have good outer game, but my inner game is what I need to work on.\u00a0<\/p>\n I somehow manage to get obsessed with one woman and try to hard, which just ends up screwing things up for me. Thankfully, I have learned what NOT<\/strong> to do now thanks to your materials.\u00a0<\/p>\n Anyway, here is my situation. I have been dating this girl for about 3 1\/2 months now, but I feel as though I’m beginning to lose her interest and attraction for me. She has been blowing me off lately, AND<\/strong> she has been hanging out with this other guy lately a bunch who likes her.\u00a0<\/p>\n I’m a Naval Officer about to move to Pensacola for flight school, and I think this is why she isn’t taking me as seriously as she would if I wasn’t moving away. I don’t want things to end with her. What should I do to make her WANT<\/strong> me to be her boyfriend??? PLEASE HELP BRO<\/strong>!!!____________________\u00a0<\/p>\n CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS<\/strong>:\u00a0<\/p>\n I hate tooting my own horn, so it’s nice when a reader does it for me.\u00a0<\/p>\n Well, I’m going to be honest that even if you managed to “keep” her, you’d still be out of the picture when you go to flight school, so I would not get into this scarcity mindset right now.\u00a0<\/p>\n You’re thinking from the “I’m losing my girl” mindset, which makes you the needy one. Remember, you never “own” or “have” a woman, and the illusion that you can actually possess her is often a real liability to your attitude.\u00a0<\/p>\n And it’s also another kind of self-deception to think that you can “make” a woman want anything. She either will or she won’t. The point is not to manipulate a single woman, but to demonstrate the qualities that the right women will WANT<\/strong> from you.\u00a0<\/p>\n In other words, you don’t MAKE<\/strong> the bear step in your trap – you simply provide the kind of bait that it is IRRESISTIBLE<\/strong> to it.\u00a0<\/p>\n Look at it this way, too: When you’re not around physically, it’s going to be next to impossible for you to create the kind of locked-in attraction that you need to keep her faithful while you’re gone. If she’s already hanging with another guy, your exit visa is all but stamped, my friend.\u00a0<\/p>\n ALPHA RULE<\/strong>: The man that is PRESENT<\/strong> in a woman’s life has the wild card when it comes to attraction. Whether he uses it right is up to him. But he trumps any chump that’s not in the picture.\u00a0<\/p>\n You MIGHT<\/strong> keep her for now, but it would be a futile cause the second your ass hits the seat of that plane for Florida.\u00a0<\/p>\n What you really need to do is this: YOU<\/strong> be the one to break it off with her.\u00a0<\/p>\n Dude, you’re in the military. Your uniform alone is going to score you more tail than you can imagine.\u00a0<\/p>\n You also need to start sending the right messages to your subconscious mind, and by YOU<\/strong> being the one to end it, YOU<\/strong> are the one in control. You affirm your own power and might, and your own ability to lead.\u00a0<\/p>\n And make no mistake about it – your subconscious mind will use this as evidence to further boost your confidence with women.\u00a0<\/p>\n If you can’t break it off with a woman when it’s necessary, no matter what your feelings are for her, you will probably end up back in that addicted state again, spiraling the drain.\u00a0<\/p>\n YOU<\/strong> control your emotional state. Self-discipline!\u00a0<\/p>\n When you fight the inevitable, you take a toll on your attitude. Right now, I can even read the desperation in your email, and trust me that it’s NOT<\/strong> attractive to anyone.\u00a0<\/p>\n You can stay in touch with her, but don’t get “one-itis” – that mysterious disease that makes you think she’s the “one” – with this chick. It’s not worth it.\u00a0<\/p>\n The best thing you can do is to just cut it off completely. Show her you’re the one with the market value.<\/p>\n And get back to reading my materials again. You need to review them and really get back in touch with the Alpha Mindset.\u00a0<\/p>\n You’re in a world of abundance, my friend.\u00a0<\/p>\n Start acting like it!\u00a0 \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hey Carlos, <\/p>\n Your dating materials are WORTH THEIR WEIGHT IN GOLD!!! I seriously have improved my skills with women because of you man! Thank you SO MUCH! I wasn’t too bad with women to begin with honestly. 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