{"id":2757,"date":"2015-09-10T06:35:45","date_gmt":"2015-09-10T13:35:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=2757"},"modified":"2015-09-10T06:35:45","modified_gmt":"2015-09-10T13:35:45","slug":"a-quick-guide-to-shit-tests","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2015\/09\/a-quick-guide-to-shit-tests\/","title":{"rendered":"A Quick Guide To Shit Tests"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have this friend of mine.\u00a0He’s got great skills with women – if you’re a single guy hitting the scene, you would love to go out with him.
\nAnd if you’re a guy looking for that one awesome girlfriend,\u00a0he’d be the perfect guy to hit the scene with<\/strong>\u00a0too, since he always seems to meet a future girlfriend when we go out together.
\nHe’s great at opening, getting physical, winging and has an awesome, positive attitude about everything.\u00a0A true badass<\/strong>.\u00a0But he has one skill that could be better, one he’s currently working on, one that A\u00a0LOT<\/strong>\u00a0of guys struggle with at first.<\/p>\n

It’s\u00a0getting tested<\/strong>, or more precisely,\u00a0passing women’s tests<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

We know girls are going to test us, especially if you’re leading things somewhere sexual. \u00a0And if you’re in a relationship, they’re going to test you\u00a0EVEN MORE<\/strong>\u00a0because they constantly want to make sure they’re not investing in mediocrity.<\/p>\n

Women testing you is as inevitable as me going crazy with vodka red bull on my birthday.<\/p>\n

But do you know why they really test? Why they almost always feel a need to throw it back at you first before they excitedly surrender to your alpha will?<\/p>\n

It’s because they feel a deep, hardwired need to make sure you’re as legit as you’re appearing.<\/p>\n

They have to ensure you’re congruent with the guy they’re seeing, that you’re not just putting on an act. Of course, they don’t think any of this consciously but it almost always comes out with a snappy remark, a statement of disinterest or a momentary, purposeful lack of apparent interest.<\/p>\n

Let’s say me and you go out one night here in LA and I’m talking to a really hot girl just off the dance floor.\u00a0We’re flirting back and forth. I’m staring her down.\u00a0She says, “What are you thinking about..<\/em>“.\u00a0I calmly reply, “Just about what it’d be like to kiss you right now..<\/em>“.\u00a0She snaps back, “No, I don’t know what you think is happening tonight but we’re not kissing.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

I smirk, “Of course not. Why would two awesome people attracted to each other want to kiss? Let’s go dance..”<\/em>\u00a0as I take her by the hand and lead her onto the dance floor.<\/p>\n

You see where her test was.\u00a0The whole we’re not kissing tonight thing.\u00a0Look at how I responded in that situation.<\/p>\n

I agreed with her (offering zero resistance) and\u00a0sarcastically absurdified the situation<\/strong>.\u00a0To the outsider, this looks like a witty response a charming badass named Jason would say. They would be correct.<\/p>\n

But at its core, it screams something much deeper about me\u2026.Indifference.\u00a0Non-neediness. Abundance<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

The guy who “needed<\/em>” the girl would hear her tell him we’re not kissing tonight, and freak. And all that playfulness and non neediness he had been showing her before, which had been attracting her, would quickly appear fraudulent to her, now that he’s freaking and reacting.<\/p>\n

If he really was that cool, he wouldn’t care if he gets me tonight or not, she thinks..<\/p>\n

The guy who can get any girl in the building laughs inside when she says something like that.\u00a0It would be in-congruent for him to react at all.<\/p>\n

He might laugh, ignore it, agree and ‘absurdify’ sarcastically (like I did) or maybe blatantly change the subject to something more interesting to him, than her talking about “not kissing<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

What he wouldn’t do is emotionally react, which is the secret to passing all tests at the core of things, in a bar, club\u00a0AND<\/strong>\u00a0relationship.<\/p>\n

If she gets an emotional reaction out of you, you’re done.\u00a0If she doesn’t, and instead you still remain playful, relaxed, intent\u2026 well now, she’s “done<\/em>.”<\/p>\n

Oh, and if you’re interested in some really great content on how to make women want you (and who doesn’t? \ud83d\ude42\u00a0you should CLICK HERE for a video I created<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0on “The Honey Trick<\/em>“…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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