{"id":2849,"date":"2013-08-05T15:22:22","date_gmt":"2013-08-05T22:22:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=2849"},"modified":"2013-08-05T15:23:47","modified_gmt":"2013-08-05T22:23:47","slug":"how-to-avoid-the-friends-zone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2013\/08\/how-to-avoid-the-friends-zone\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Avoid The Friend’s Zone…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Question From A Reader:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hey Man,<\/p>\n

I have a question about a scenario. Maybe you have covered this elsewhere, but recently\u00a0an ex-roommate of mine who is also a friend is acting differently after her and her boyfriend split<\/strong>\u00a0once he got another gal pregnant and went with her. It has been some time since.<\/p>\n

She always has liked seeing me<\/strong>\u00a0which I thought was just friend, but it is questionable whether men and women can be just friends.<\/p>\n

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She’s single now, I’m single<\/strong>, and she has planned to come ALL the way down from Oregon to where I now am in Texas. She has been saying things multiple times under the presumable context of friendship frequently such as:<\/p>\n

“I love you. I wish you were closer.”<\/strong>
\n“I wish you were here.”<\/strong>
\n“You’re my only friend.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

She uses the word friend, but why would a gal come all the way here to “get a break” with me specifically.\u00a0What’s up with this love word too for a friend.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She calls me friend and then acts like this.<\/strong>\u00a0I can’t tell if she likes me though as a friend because she says “friend” a lot, but then more seems to be going on. I am not listening to what she says, but what she is doing as you have taught me.<\/p>\n

Any advice here or an experienced read on the situation. I honestly don’t care if it is friends or not.\u00a0I just got out of the big M a year or 2 ago (not counting) and am in no rush for love at all.<\/strong>\u00a0What’s up with this woman man?<\/p>\n

Thank you for your time and answer friend.<\/p>\n

Mike<\/p>\n

______________________<\/p>\n

CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Heh, I love it!<\/p>\n

When a woman flies that kind of distance, but tells you that line of “WTF???”<\/p>\n

It’s simple and you hit it on the head…\u00a0ignore what she says. Pay attention to her ACTIONS.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She’s putting the “friend” thing out there as protection for herself.<\/strong>\u00a0That gives her the maximum options for when she comes out there to see you.<\/p>\n

She knows she’ll probably stay with you, right?<\/p>\n

Right now, this is how she’s thinking about it:<\/p>\n

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“Hmm… it’s been a while. Mikhiel was cool.\u00a0I could hook up with him.<\/strong>\u00a0But I don’t want him thinking I’m a slut. Or that he’s got me easy. So\u00a0I’ll test him by putting that ‘we’re just friends’ thing out there and see how he handles it.<\/strong>\u00a0If he tries to talk me into sleeping with him, or I’m just not feeling it, I can pull the ‘just friends’ card on him and kill it right there. But if he’s cool, and triggers attraction in me, I could go with it.”<\/p>\n

You see how that works…?<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0Ignore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2)\u00a0Tease.<\/strong>\u00a0Dial up the attraction the way you learned in\u00a0“Bad Boy Formula<\/a>“<\/strong><\/p>\n

3)\u00a0Seduce.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4) Then, when you wake up next to her the next day, be sure to say:\u00a0“It’s great being friends… isn’t it?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

\ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Stay Alpha…<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/p>\n

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