{"id":355,"date":"2010-01-14T19:51:02","date_gmt":"2010-01-15T03:51:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=355"},"modified":"2010-03-10T16:18:08","modified_gmt":"2010-03-11T00:18:08","slug":"q-a-with-carlos-what-is-missing-in-his-game","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2010\/01\/q-a-with-carlos-what-is-missing-in-his-game\/","title":{"rendered":"Q & A with Carlos: What is missing in his game?"},"content":{"rendered":"

QUESTION<\/strong>: What is missing in his game…?<\/p>\n

Carlos, the biggest thing I have learnt from you is about
\ndeveloping inner game\/alpha man. I seriously started looking at
\nthis a year ago, in fact I made it a New Year resolution. This time
\nlast year women looked at me as a bit of a joke.<\/p>\n

I now work out, visit a boxing gym and have upgraded my wardrobe
\nand generally started acting a lot less ‘nice’. Strange thing is
\nthis particular girl has started looking at me differently since
\nthen (along with a lot of other women.) She asked me to go out with
\nher a couple of times but then always backs down and always has an
\nexcuse when I suggest we go and do something.<\/p>\n

She has an on\/off relationship with some wussy guy outside work who
\nshe complains to me about but I get the feeling she doesn’t really
\nwant this guy. (Over the last two years they have never even had
\nmore than a 5 minute conversation)<\/p>\n

Carlos I feel that I am 90% there but just missing that additional
\nsomething?<\/p>\n

HELP!!!
\n<\/strong>______________________
\nCARLOS ANSWERS<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

Funny, isn’t it, how women always complain to you about that guy on
\nthe side, but …<\/p>\n

… she’s still seeing him.<\/p>\n

… she’s still having sex with him.<\/p>\n

And the bottom line, my friend, is that you are NOT<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Remember, you’re hearing about this “wussy” other guy second-hand.
\nIn court they would yell “Objection, your honor! Hearsay!” Meaning
\nthat you’re getting someone else’s interpretation and speculation
\nthat could be total horseshit.<\/p>\n

There IS a reason she’s with him. And it’s probably not one she’s
\ntelling you about.<\/p>\n

Right now, you’re on the right path. You’re making some improvements to your visible lifestyle, and that does matter (though not as much as some internal<\/strong><\/em> ones I’m going to tell you about.)<\/p>\n

You are noticing that women do NOT<\/strong> like guys who act “nice.” Not because they want to be mistreated, but because they want a man that they don’t suspect is being nice just to get what he wants. (Most “nice guys” are anything but that, and women know this instinctively.)<\/p>\n

There are a lot of women out there that pull this “hot\/cold” thing with guys because of a variety of reasons. Here are a few of them:<\/p>\n

1) She’s got low self-esteem and some personality issues.<\/p>\n

Very common!<\/p>\n

She has some damaged beliefs about herself, and when it comes to actually getting what it is in life she wants, she self-sabotages and avoids that fulfillment.<\/p>\n

Yes, it’s twisted.<\/p>\n

Yes, it’s sick.<\/p>\n

NO, you do not want to pursue her if you suspect this may be the case. (I sure wonder about her.)<\/p>\n

2) She’s unhappy that SHE<\/strong> has to be the one to ask YOU<\/strong> out.<\/p>\n

Hey, the woman I’m seeing right now gave me HER<\/strong> number. It was a business situation where I couldn’t be the pursuer, but she was gutsy enough to come get ME<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

But at the start, she asked me no fewer than 4 times: “If I hadn’t given you my number, would you have asked me for mine?”<\/p>\n

Yeah, talk about a minefield on that one.<\/p>\n

YOU<\/strong> are supposed to take the initiative. Not her.<\/p>\n

Make it happen<\/em> if you want it to happen.<\/p>\n

3) She’s unsure about you and suspects that you’re still a wuss.<\/p>\n

Hey, she saw your transformation, so she’s got every right to wonder if you’re still the wuss you were before you became more of an Alpha Man<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

She’s dipping her toe in, not so sure she wants to go for a swim.<\/p>\n

You asked me if there was something additional that you’re missing. Well, I hate to say it, but that missing “something” is that you haven’t gotten one of my programs yet.<\/p>\n

Look, the reality is that True success<\/strong> with women requires a firm sense of self-confidence<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Now, you’ll hear that bit of advice from a lot of guys out there, but the difference is that they’ll say “be confident,” and not give you ONE<\/strong> single method of improving that confidence.<\/p>\n

That’s where Carlos Xuma enters the game for you. (That’s me, by the way…)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

QUESTION: What is missing in his game…?<\/p>\n

Carlos, the biggest thing I have learnt from you is about
\ndeveloping inner game\/alpha man. I seriously started looking at
\nthis a year ago, in fact I made it a New Year resolution. This time
\nlast year women looked at me as a bit of a joke.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,47],"tags":[32,52,14,51],"class_list":["post-355","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-qa","category-silver-members","tag-dating-advice","tag-dating-recommendations","tag-dating-tips","tag-silver-dating-tips"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/355","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=355"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/355\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=355"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=355"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=355"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}