{"id":362,"date":"2010-01-14T21:18:32","date_gmt":"2010-01-15T05:18:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=362"},"modified":"2010-03-10T14:21:31","modified_gmt":"2010-03-10T22:21:31","slug":"q-a-with-carlos-this-is-going-to-hurt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2010\/01\/q-a-with-carlos-this-is-going-to-hurt\/","title":{"rendered":"Q & A with Carlos: This is going to hurt.."},"content":{"rendered":"

QUESTION: THIS IS GOING TO HURRRRRT……<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hi Carlos,<\/p>\n

I have purchased the Secrets of Alpha Man a few days back. I have only read a few pages because right away I want to tell you I am in a big problem, and I’m not being able to carry on. I’m sure it will look silly to you but believe me, man, to me, it’s really not.<\/p>\n

I love a girl. She knows it. She is really beautiful and gets constantly proposal I guess. She knows I love her as I have already told her. She was really in love with her ex and she had a big blow because he cheated on her. She tells me thats the past and she wants to stay alone now.<\/p>\n

Initially she gave me signs that she was interested and she was. but then suddenly she will be seeming to back off. yesterday she messaged me and told me that “she is sorry and that she cannot give what I am expecting form her,she recognize that she was a bit at fault because she gave me some hope with her attitude and that she wont do it now, and she is sorry”.<\/p>\n

I told her I know that she is confused and undecisive. She told me may be yes and she wants to stay alone. I even asked her if she is seeing somebody. she said no.<\/p>\n

Guru, I know you’ll tell me DUMP HER<\/strong> and find 5 other girls. The thing is that I really really really want to get her man. Please I would ask you to tell me what the things I can do in this context to get her to me. I know her,if I stop contacting her for two weeks in order “for her to miss me” etc etc, its almost like me losing her for good.<\/p>\n

Please tell me,what can I do to get her back. PLEASE<\/strong>. Make it as if going to get 10 other girls is really out of question for me.<\/p>\n

I really hope you help me out.<\/p>\n

Thanks.<\/p>\n

A
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\nCARLOS XUMA’S ADVICE:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Congratulations!<\/p>\n

You’re obsessed. You’ve lost control of your own thinking and you’re letting yourself getting wrapped up in one woman.<\/p>\n

I smell crisis coming up for you, and I want to help you but…<\/p>\n

Sorry, buddy, your mind has been hijacked, and you need a bitch slap to get you back on track. Call it tough love, but I’m going to rip into you a little here. If it’s too much, you can always stop and blow your nose, dab the tears from your eyes, and whimper for a while.<\/p>\n

When you say “going to get 10 other girls is really out of question for me,” here’s what you’re really saying:<\/p>\n

1) “I don’t have the mental self discipline to control my emotions….”<\/p>\n

2) “I now think I’m the advisor because I’m telling him what NOT<\/strong> to tell me, even if I know it is true…”<\/p>\n

3) “I am crazy, obsessed, and I refuse to take the steering wheel of my own state back under my control.”<\/p>\n

Look, I hate to burst your bubble, but there’s nothing ANYONE<\/strong> can do to help you. You’re so immersed in a scarcity mindset (“this woman is the only one for me!”) you’ll be lucky if your testicles don’t shrivel up and disappear.<\/p>\n

You want her?<\/p>\n

Stop being a woman!<\/em> That’s why she doesn’t want you. A man can walk away from a woman that doesn’t want him. All you’re doing is further proving just how much you’re lost in her, how no other women want you, and the needy kind of desperation that will NEVER<\/strong> attract her.<\/p>\n

By the way, I forgot to tell you: You already lost her. She’s gone.<\/strong> You’re too late.<\/p>\n

She backed off from you because you ran her over with your desperation.<\/p>\n

Oh, and that part about her not seeing anyone else? Prepare yourself for yet another merciless bitch slap…<\/p>\n

She probably is<\/strong> seeing another guy.<\/p>\n

And he’s a jerk<\/em>.<\/p>\n

And he’s banging her right now<\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

QUESTION: THIS IS GOING TO HURRRRRT……<\/p>\n

Hi Carlos,<\/p>\n

I have purchased the Secrets of Alpha Man a few days back. I have only read a few pages because right away I want to tell you I am in a big problem, and I’m not being able to carry on. I’m sure it will look silly to you but believe me, man, to me, it’s really not.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,47],"tags":[32,52,14,7],"class_list":["post-362","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-qa","category-silver-members","tag-dating-advice","tag-dating-recommendations","tag-dating-tips","tag-silver-content"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/362","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=362"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/362\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=362"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=362"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=362"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}