I hope you’ll bear with me, because this is one of the most
\nemotional and exhausting letters I’ve written to you in some time,
\nbut it’s message is so important I couldn’t wait.<\/p>\n
I got this email the other day, and I thought it warranted some Please read his letter first, and then I’ll comment: (I have heard from friends that she wishes I would ask her out and I feel as if she has waited so long for me to express interest back I just cant seem to get up the courage to ask her to come join me I am pissed off Carlos, can you please help me out man?<\/p>\n ——– Okay, so what I hear is something that I think a LOT<\/strong> of guys can Let’s start first by putting this in perspective. You’re doing Most guys won’t go this far in fear of “scaring her off” or Some guys out there call this a “dominant frame.”<\/p>\n Whatever. You don’t need terminology. You need a solution.<\/p>\n After you’ve managed to tease her a little and get a little You’ve gotten her interested and VERY<\/strong> attracted to you, which is But how do you continue? How do you keep going from here?<\/p>\n This has to be one of the biggest stumbling blocks a guy can run There are two things going on here that will cripple your ability 1) You are afraid of failure.<\/p>\n 2) You are afraid of success.<\/p>\n Whoah.<\/p>\n That’s a pretty big revelation.<\/p>\n {!name_fix} I’m going to reveal one of the biggest motivational secrets here, Most guys run around with this dual fear of success and failure It’s like someone holding up a coin and saying to you as they flip How much would you bet on that toss?<\/p>\n Of COURSE<\/strong> it’s hard to move forward when you’re going to lose both Yet that’s what countless guys are doing day after day when they First of all, most guys fear putting themselves up for judgment in This is commonly called the “approach.” Those do-or-die 60 seconds They fear that if the woman is not interested in them, this We fear being turned down when our self-confidence is not strong Geez, even this guy can’t move forward when he KNOWS she wants him! Now, the second kind of fear is the one that his letter references The Fear of Success.<\/p>\n When you can overcome your fear of taking action because of What if – gasp – I get what I WANT<\/strong>?<\/p>\n The other side of your self-esteem now shows itself as you have to What we want to know is, even if we get past the fear of talking to Because then you’re going to be on the stage in front of her. Uh-oh. Now what?<\/p>\n Not many people would believe you if you told them that most of the This is what you are seeing when someone you know who has REAL “I’m too old to start writing that book…”<\/p>\n “I’d like to play in a band, but I’ve got responsibilities at “I’d like to finish that degree, but I’m doing fine right now “I’d like to go talk to her, but she’s probably a bitch anyway….” is<\/p>\n bullsh-t.<\/p>\n Let’s face facts and call it what it is.<\/p>\n B.S.<\/p>\n A self-lie.<\/p>\n We tell ourselves what we can to avoid CHANGE<\/strong> and avoid the And then that fear of success turns into a fear of the NEXT Wow, what a vicious circle. Let’s break out of it.<\/p>\n Stop listening to the Loserboy in your head. He’s the voice of a “It’s easier not to go after your big dreams, isn’t it?” Loserboy And without any adventure or glory, either. Or the woman of your Do you want to know how I conquered this paralyzing fear?<\/p>\n I started by re-framing my experience as something COMPLETELY<\/strong> I remembered the words of Helen Keller: “Life is a great adventure I really thought about that, and then I remembered this line I “The dreams of youth are the regrets of maturity.”<\/p>\n Whoah.<\/p>\n That’s an eye-opener {!name_fix}. Think about that one for a minute, please.<\/p>\n Then I went through a little mind exercise that I call the I imagined myself as an old man sitting in my wheelchair in the old And I sat there looking back on my life, wondering if there was Nope.<\/p>\n But I sure regretted a lot of things I DIDN’T<\/strong> do. I could feel that POOF<\/strong>!<\/p>\n Here I am. I got my wish! Now I CAN <\/strong>go do them before it’s too late.<\/p>\n Now, in reality, I have no intention of spending my last days And when the end draws near, I don’t want to look back on a long I had to change the meaning of these events in such a DRASTIC<\/strong> and I had to act NOW.<\/p>\n Whatever your Whammy is, you must find it. Even if that means you You want the most brutal Whammy of all?<\/p>\n Go visit the oncology (cancer) ward of a major hospital. Talk to In fact, everything in life can be reviewed like this: Is this If so, then it’s pretty Small Stuff, amigo.<\/p>\n But, when the day-to-day gets hold of us again, we tend to fall … until the next time when you’re presented with something you The best way to live your life the way you want is to BECOME<\/strong> the You are what you emotionally think about all day long.<\/p>\n And I’d like to show you how to re-create that mental\/emotional In the Secrets of the Alpha Man, I cover how to understand your self-image so completely that this sort of fear limitation will not trap you again. It’s really had a life-changing effect on a lot of guys, and I want to share it with you.<\/p>\n In fact, this program is everything I used to get myself where I wanted to be, and now I want to pass it on to you.<\/p>\n Have a look at it here:<\/p>\n
\nattention and observation, because I think it indicates one of – if
\nnot THE<\/strong> most challenging obstacles to a man’s growth with women.<\/p>\n
\n\u00a0
\nHey Carlos,
\n\u00a0
\nI have been beating myself up over a situation recently at work.
\nWell, I have been working with this girl from my job for about 3
\nmonths now, and I have been busting her balls consistently and not
\ntaking any of her sh*t. She has been interested in me for the
\nlongest time, and has showed the most interest the past several
\ndays than any other time before<\/p>\n
\nshe is in love with me and all that).<\/p>\n
\nthat since I havent expressed interest after those several days
\nthat I feel like its over.<\/p>\n
\nfor some fun or even her number (fear of progressing)! Today, I
\ncame back from work beating myself up for not progressing.<\/p>\n
\nCARLOS:<\/p>\n
\nrelate to.<\/p>\n
\nreally good work just by busting her chops and teasing her the
\nright way.<\/p>\n
\n“offending her.” They don’t realize that what women want most is a
\nguy that can come from a place of power.<\/p>\n
\ncocky… what then?<\/p>\n
\nthe goal most guys dream about.<\/p>\n
\ninto. It’s caused by something so simple, yet so unbelievably
\npowerful, you can understand why some guys never break free of its
\nstranglehold.<\/p>\n
\nto progress:<\/p>\n
\nand if you can unlock this psychological mechanism correctly,
\nyou’re going to see a very new landscape in front of you.<\/p>\n
\npressing on them from both sides. It’s a potent one, and
\ninescapable if you cannot see it for what it is.<\/p>\n
\nit: “Heads I win, tails you lose!”<\/p>\n
\nways (in your head, anyway.) You won’t even play the game.<\/p>\n
\nfind themselves confronted with the situation that this reader is
\nexperiencing.<\/p>\n
\nfront of a woman.<\/p>\n
\nof sheer terror where most guys find that running naked through a
\nminefield in downtown Baghdad is preferable to walking up to a
\nwoman and saying “hello.”<\/p>\n
\ntranslates into their worth as a man. Most guys put a lot of stock
\nin what women think of them, so the thought of getting turned down
\nafter you put your ego out there on the line is more than most can
\nbear.<\/p>\n
\nenough to handle this kind of rejection.<\/p>\n
\nAnd I’m not belittling his experience ONE BIT<\/strong> because I’ve BEEN
\nTHERE<\/strong>. I know what it’s like to sit in that torture of knowing you
\nHAVE<\/strong> to act, but you just can’t find a way to DO IT<\/strong>.<\/p>\n
\ndirectly:<\/p>\n
\npossible rejection, most guys then fall victim to the next fear of
\n– WHAT THE HECK DO I DO NOW<\/strong>?<\/p>\n
\nDELIVER on those clever cocky and funny lines you were using to get
\nher all excited and attracted.<\/p>\n
\na woman and getting things started, what happens in that incredibly
\nuncertain place after?<\/p>\n
\nYou’ll have to really show yourself to her and explore this unknown
\nand uncharted land called “Move Forward.”<\/p>\n
\nguys out there have a BIG fear of success. It’s actually one of the
\nstrongest forces holding so many creative and capable people away
\nfrom their dreams.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>talent refuses to show it to others or they won’t go after their
\ndream.<\/p>\n
\nhome…”<\/p>\n
\nwithout it. Besides, I don’t have any time…”<\/p>\n
\nor “I’d like to talk to her, but she’s not really my type…”
\nThis<\/p>\n
\npossible disruption that this change might cause, and then we
\nrationalize it by telling stories to make ourselves feel better.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>rejection or failure.<\/p>\n
\nthousand IMAGINED<\/strong> scenarios that never came to pass.<\/p>\n
\nwhispers in the back of your head in a silky smooth voice. “You
\ndon’t want to have to deal with all the headaches of that, do you?
\nIt’s easier when you’re one of the crowd. No one has big
\nexpectations, and you get to live your life without any hassles.”<\/p>\n
\ndreams.<\/p>\n
\ndifferent.<\/p>\n
\n… or nothing.”<\/p>\n
\nheard in a movie that finally kicked my butt off the couch and into
\ngear:<\/p>\n
\n“Whammy.” It goes like this:<\/p>\n
\nfolks home. I really imagined this scene so vividly I could even
\nsmell the disinfectant they used on the gray linoleum tile of the
\nhallway as I rolled along to the TV room where I could eat my daily
\ncup of pudding.<\/p>\n
\nanything I had done that I regretted.<\/p>\n
\nhorrible sinking sensation in my gut when I thought about all the
\nopportunities I passed up, mostly because of fear. What I wouldn’t
\nGIVE<\/strong> for a second chance to go back and do it again …<\/p>\n
\nlooking back like that, but it could turn out this way. I might not
\nget the opportunity to save the planet by blowing up an asteroid or
\nsomething, or die in glorious combat in the Coliseum. I might end
\nup in a “retirement community” somewhere. So be it. I just don’t
\nwant to give up living life, or have to settle for living on old
\nmemories of what was.<\/p>\n
\nlist of things I COULD <\/strong>have done but talked myself out of.<\/p>\n
\nRADICAL<\/strong> way that I found the motivation to ACT<\/strong>. It literally had to
\nbe such a POWERFUL <\/strong>experience that I would not be able to look back
\nagain and continue the same path.<\/p>\n
\nstrap electrodes to your balls and administer shocks until you do
\nwhat you must. (Although, you may want to try a few other things
\nfirst.)<\/p>\n
\nthe terminally ill patients. Get a little perspective on what they
\nthink of your problem with women.<\/p>\n
\nsomething I would feel stupid telling to someone that’s dying?<\/p>\n
\nback into the same routine. We forget what motivated us. We can’t
\nrun around every day with the fear of our own mortality in our mind
\nto push us …<\/p>\n
\nknow you WANT<\/strong> to do, but you can’t seem to find the power or
\ncourage to DO<\/strong>.<\/p>\n
\nman you want. So that you feel that this kind of success is not
\nonly something you can HAVE<\/strong>, but that you DESERVE<\/strong>. Your sense of
\nself-esteem will only allow you to go so far before it will start
\nto pull the rug out from under you.<\/p>\n
\nimage of yourself – the way to turn your life in the direction that
\nYOU<\/strong> want. I’ve got a program that will put you on the path to
\nbecoming that Man, with other exercises and ACTION<\/strong> plans like this
\none.<\/p>\n