{"id":468,"date":"2010-01-17T17:00:57","date_gmt":"2010-01-18T01:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=468"},"modified":"2010-01-17T17:00:57","modified_gmt":"2010-01-18T01:00:57","slug":"dating-tips-for-guys-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2010\/01\/dating-tips-for-guys-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating Tips For Guys"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>1) What types of presents should be given at the<br \/>\nbeginning of a relationship that the man hopes to be a<br \/>\nserious, lasting love? (and what not to give!)<\/p>\n<p>Generally speaking, a man should not give <strong>ANY<\/strong> gifts<br \/>\nfor the first few two or three dates. Most guys tend<br \/>\ntoward &#8220;buy her affections&#8221; behavior, where they try<br \/>\nto lock women into an implied commitment by buying gifts<br \/>\nfor her far too soon. What this really does is<br \/>\nscare women off.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, a guy should save his money to demonstrate that<br \/>\nhe&#8217;s <strong>FUN<\/strong>, and then show her a good time. An example<br \/>\nmight be to get a few rolls of quarters and take her<br \/>\nto the arcade. Or buy her a really nice pastry that<br \/>\nyou can share together.<\/p>\n<p>Gifts early on should be geared toward enhancing the<br \/>\nexperience of your time together, not to impress a woman.<br \/>\nHold off on the flowers and the candy until you&#8217;ve<br \/>\nbuilt up some genuine rapport and interest from her,<br \/>\nthen your gifts will be appreciated.<\/p>\n<p>After three dates or so, the guy can then open up a<br \/>\nlittle and maybe get her a card or some flowers. But<br \/>\nthe idea here, again, is to keep it <strong>LOW KEY<\/strong>. It&#8217;s<br \/>\nbetter to under-gift at this point so that he can show<br \/>\nthoughtful caution rather than hasty imprudence.<\/p>\n<p>Remember: It&#8217;s not the money you spend, but the message you<br \/>\nsend.<br \/>\n2) What types of presents he should give to show its<br \/>\njust a short-term, sexy affair, a fling that will go<br \/>\nno further? (and what not to give!)<\/p>\n<p>For a sexy affair, give sexy gifts! Small things like<br \/>\na coupon to fulfill her fantasy, or take her to a<br \/>\nlingerie store to buy a really hot nightie. How about<br \/>\na couple of tickets to a steamy movie?<\/p>\n<p>Do <strong>NOT<\/strong> give expensive gifts as they imply a level of<br \/>\ncommitment that neither party may be willing to make.<br \/>\nNo jewelry or big-ticket items. Keep it tasteful, not<br \/>\ntrashy.<br \/>\n3) What types of presents to give to a girl as a sign<br \/>\nthat now the man is starting to think more seriously<br \/>\nabout the relationship, and wants to show that he<br \/>\nhopes it will last. (and what not to give!)<\/p>\n<p>When it comes time for an anniversary or some kind of<br \/>\nmajor event, such as Valentine&#8217;s Day, or a birthday,<br \/>\nyou&#8217;re pretty much obligated to step up and produce<br \/>\nsomething memorable. I once gave a girl a naked Barbie<br \/>\ndoll with a coupon in the box that said I&#8217;d buy her<br \/>\n(and Barbie) some clothes, as long as I got to help<br \/>\npick them out. That went over <strong>BIG<\/strong> with her.<\/p>\n<p>Another possibility for a good &#8220;relationship&#8221; gift is<br \/>\nsomething that links you two together. No, not<br \/>\nhandcuffs, or matching T-shirts. I&#8217;m talking about<br \/>\nsomething that will keep reminding her of you when<br \/>\nyou&#8217;re not around, such as a nice pair of wine glasses<br \/>\nfrom your trip to visit some vineyards, or make her a<br \/>\nCD with a bunch of your favorite songs. Get her a gift that<br \/>\ndoes double-duty.<br \/>\n4) What signs should a man look out for to know what<br \/>\npresent to give?\u00a0 How to interpret her signals.<\/p>\n<p>A man should show some insight and intelligence in his<br \/>\nchoice for a gift. He should look at the woman&#8217;s<br \/>\ninterests and get her something that stands out. If<br \/>\nshe&#8217;s into adventure sports, get her a day pass at a<br \/>\nrock climbing gym. If she likes music, get her a<br \/>\nticket to a concert. Take a few minutes to think it<br \/>\nthrough and you&#8217;ll come up with dozens of good ideas.<\/p>\n<p>The idea here is to be<strong> IRREGULAR<\/strong> with the timing, and<br \/>\nunderstand the need for some variation in the way you<br \/>\ngift. It&#8217;s less about the &#8220;what&#8221; than it is about the &#8220;when&#8221;<br \/>\nand &#8220;how.&#8221; Small gifts every so often are much more<br \/>\neffective than the large ones. Save the large gifts<br \/>\nfor the big events.<\/p>\n<p>He should also watch out for signals that indicate the<br \/>\nwoman is a little<strong> TOO<\/strong> into getting gifts. If she drops<br \/>\nany overt hints about wanting material<br \/>\ngratification, he should run to the nearest exit.<br \/>\n5) Is there a time when you really shouldn&#8217;t give a<br \/>\ngift?<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t give gifts solely to smooth over an error on<br \/>\nyour part, such as insulting her and expecting to get<br \/>\nin her good graces again just by sending her candy.<br \/>\nYou have to show her some genuine remorse with the<br \/>\ngift so that it doesn&#8217;t come across as just an<br \/>\nempty gesture.<\/p>\n<p>Be wary of being the only one in the relationship<br \/>\nbuying gifts. She should buy things for you<br \/>\noccasionally, too &#8211; <strong>IF<\/strong> she&#8217;s really into you. Demonstrate<br \/>\nthat you can provide, but let her demonstrate she can<br \/>\nnurture you back.<\/p>\n<p>Another time you shouldn&#8217;t buy her a gift is to prompt<br \/>\nher for sexual favors in return. It sets up a bad<br \/>\nprecedent for you, and it cheapens her.<\/p>\n<p>The best rule for gifts is that they should always be<br \/>\ngiven with<strong> NO<\/strong> expectation of return. Give just for the<br \/>\npleasure of giving and you&#8217;ll rarely go wrong.<br \/>\nRemember that when you&#8217;ve got your self-confidence<br \/>\nestablished, you don&#8217;t have to worry as much about<br \/>\nwhen and how to give gifts, because there won&#8217;t be any<br \/>\nsubtext of neediness on your part.<\/p>\n<p>That just means that when you have the right Alpha<br \/>\nMale vibe to you, a woman is not going to misinterpret<br \/>\nthe meaning of your gift. She&#8217;ll understand that it&#8217;s<br \/>\nsomething she should cherish and not take for granted.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you&#8217;re giving to <strong>GET<\/strong>, you&#8217;re going<br \/>\nto have problems. Women will not want to be with you<br \/>\nbecause you&#8217;re setting up an agenda, and that&#8217;s<br \/>\nthe most unattractive thing a woman can sense from you.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;d like to find out more about becoming an Alpha<br \/>\nMan, I urge you to take a look at the Secrets of the Alpha Man<br \/>\nProgram.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ll learn how to attract women the right way, with your<br \/>\nconfidence and posture, not with your insecurities.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1) What types of presents should be given at the<br \/>\nbeginning of a relationship that the man hopes to be a<br \/>\nserious, lasting love? 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