{"id":648,"date":"2010-01-26T09:40:16","date_gmt":"2010-01-26T17:40:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=648"},"modified":"2012-07-06T08:20:23","modified_gmt":"2012-07-06T15:20:23","slug":"648","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2010\/01\/648\/","title":{"rendered":"SPECIAL REPORT: Pick-up lines – How to make them WORK…"},"content":{"rendered":"

So why do guys use pickup lines?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

I’ve been studying this curious mating ritual for over 10 years now, and I finally understood the reasons why guys want to use them.<\/p>\n

Pick up lines are the equivalent of a knock-knock joke.<\/p>\n


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1) She feels obligated to answer, even though she knows what’s coming\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n


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2) She knows something dumb is probably coming after she answers\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n


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3) She’s forced to give you a small amount of polite regard after you’re done\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n


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4) She’s going to get away from you as soon as humanly possible after you’re done telling it\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

Truthfully, that small amount of polite regard isn’t even necessary anymore.<\/p>\n

Pick up lines come in two flavors:<\/p>\n

Pick up Line 1<\/strong> = The funny pickup line that you look up, seriously wanting something to say when you approach a woman, but knowing you’ll NEVER use it\u2026<\/p>\n

Pick up Line 2<\/strong> = The REAL pickup line that you want to just start a conversation.<\/p>\n

Again, most guys use a pick up line because they really want to connect with a woman, but they’re also so guarded and afraid of being rejected by her that they put up an artificial front to protect themselves.<\/p>\n

Ask any woman and she’ll tell you that this is the worst thing you can do to get her interested.<\/p>\n

Knock-knock\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n


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“Who’s there?”<\/em><\/p>\n


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A guy who’s scared of rejection.<\/em><\/p>\n

Hmmm\u2026.<\/p>\n

That guy would be you, me, and most every guy out there.<\/p>\n

That’s why so many guys use a pick up line. It’s a crutch so that we can blame the pick up line if it doesn’t work right.<\/p>\n

After all, it’s better to say SOMETHING and have it not work out than to say nothing and be SURE it won’t work, right?<\/p>\n

Wrong.<\/p>\n

There <\/strong>IS a way to use a pick up line and get it to work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There’s a secret ingredient that most guys are leaving out of their pick up lines that make all the difference.<\/p>\n

It’s a very simple principle, and if you use it, it will work for you every time you use it.<\/p>\n

THE PICK UP LINE SECRET INGREDIENT:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Personalization.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You see, in order for a woman to feel attracted to you, she must believe that she is unique and special in some way to you. Different from the other 358 women you approached today.<\/p>\n

A woman has to feel UNIQUE<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

So your approach must feel like it was meant for her, and she’s the ONLY<\/strong> woman you’ll be talking to that day.<\/p>\n

Somewhere deep inside, she probably knows this isn’t true, but she desperately WANTS<\/strong> to believe it’s true.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

Because in order for her to risk intimacy with a man, she’s to believe that she is the only one for him.<\/p>\n

She has to believe that he SELECTED<\/strong> her as being unique and special enough to be the possible mother of his children.<\/p>\n

I know, this sounds crazy, right? After all, it’s just a fling to you – and maybe even for her.<\/p>\n

But deep underneath all that casual and temporary interest is the very REAL<\/strong> fact that a woman can hook up with a guy and end up with an 18 year obligation.<\/p>\n

Yes, it’s called a BABY<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Even though that’s not the possibility YOU<\/strong> are thinking about, and even if you use all the birth control in the world, it’s a possibility that she’s ALWAYS<\/strong> aware of it.<\/p>\n

After all, you could just have your fun and then skip town, right? She’s the one that can’t escape that freaky night of naked bliss.<\/p>\n

So how do you add in this secret ingredient to your pick up line so that it feels customized and personalized just for her?<\/p>\n

You’ve probably already figured this out\u2026<\/p>\n

Your opener simply has to be ABOUT HER<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I’ve heard guys use some pretty ridiculous things to open a conversation, but nothing tops the cake more than hearing some guy ask an opinion opener that a woman could care less about.<\/p>\n

An “opinion opener” is simply a question you ask that starts a conversation with a woman by asking her opinion.<\/p>\n

Stuff like:<\/p>\n

– “Hey, who do you think lies more, men or women?”<\/em><\/p>\n


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– “My roommate is cheating on his girlfriend, but I’m friends with his girlfriend. Do you think I should say something to her?”<\/em><\/p>\n


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– “We’re arguing over who was the better pop singer, Michael Jackson or Britney Spears\u2026 Who do you think was better?”<\/em><\/p>\n

And usually these openers start out with “Hey, let me ask you your opinion on something\u2026”<\/p>\n

Well, these are great if you’re just being as indirect as possible, but they can also really backfire on you.<\/p>\n

You see, if you’re being TOO indirect<\/strong>, you run the risk of the “Who cares?” syndrome.<\/p>\n

This is where a woman figures out that your conversation is so detached and uninteresting to her that she just shrugs and says to herself, “Who cares\u2026”<\/p>\n

Remember the SECRET PICK UP LINE INGREDIENT<\/strong>\u2026.<\/p>\n

Personalization.<\/p>\n

The best strategy, and this is one I’ve used for years – and I never once got “caught” by a woman who thought I was copying something I heard on TV or read in the book “The Game” – the best strategy I’ve found is to make your opinion opener related to something about HER.<\/p>\n

Here are a few examples:<\/p>\n

– “So I saw that you have a bellybutton ring. My sister got her nose pierced. Which one do you think is more painful?”<\/strong><\/p>\n


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– “Hey, you’ve got one of those ‘Coach’ purses. My mom got one of them and said she thinks it’s so great. Aren’t all purses pretty much the same?”<\/strong><\/p>\n


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– “Hey, I noticed that you were reading Photography Weekly\u2026 Is that a better magazine than Photo Digest?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are some great examples that you can use.<\/p>\n

CAUTION<\/strong>: You’ll notice that when you make comments or observations about women, you can easily make the mistake of communicating a strange kind of “feminine” interest in her.<\/p>\n

In other words, my opener about purses would sound a bit strange if I didn’t throw in a facial expression that said that I have NO CLUE about this topic. I’m just giving this woman the opportunity to enlighten me. So be sure that you deliver the opening pick up line with a bit of “man confusion” mixed in. This lets her know that you’re not just pretending to be one of the girls.<\/p>\n

Now, here’s something else to remember:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because you’re being specific to her, you’re going to have to think a teeny tiny bit more about what to say. But honestly, you can easily think up a few things to “observe” in advance and comment on about women. It’s not that hard.<\/p>\n

If you sit down right now, I bet you can come up with 5 quick things to comment on about a woman.<\/p>\n

Here, I’ll help you:<\/p>\n

Her shoes\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n


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Her hair\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n


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Her dog\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n


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Her car\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n


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Her jacket\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n


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The coffee she’s drinking\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n


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The food she’s munching on\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

The list goes on and on.<\/p>\n

You can come up with a hundred of those “opinion openers” that have nothing to do with the woman you’re talking with, and that’s the kind of emotional investment you’ll get.<\/p>\n

OR<\/strong> you can just come up with 3 or 4 good PERSONALIZED<\/strong> pick up lines that will work for you pretty much EVERYWHERE<\/strong> you go.<\/p>\n

Think about the things you see on women all the time, or things you observe about them. You’ll realize that there’s a lot you’ve been missing.<\/p>\n

Here’s the Coolest Bonus Part About Using The Personalization Technique\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

The bonus to this technique is that you will also be communicating that you have a much deeper perception of women than most guys have.<\/p>\n

Women know that most guys don’t really notice anything about women. They think we’re all hopelessly lost in sports statistics and quoting lines from Adam Sandler movies. (Unfortunately, a lot of guys are.)<\/p>\n

When you ask a simple question that shows you’re SEEING<\/strong> her and experiencing her, you’ll instantly separate yourself from the rest of the guys.<\/p>\n

(One thing every single person on this planet wants desperately is to be seen and understood by someone else. We want someone to “get” us.)<\/p>\n

So remember that the way to improve your pick up lines and make them powerful to women is simply to add in that secret ingredient of PERSONALIZATION<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

The second she feels that you’re talking TO HER and not just to another set of boobs that was passing by, she’ll instantly be more connected and interested.<\/p>\n

When it comes to attracting women, one of the best things you can possibly do is to simply BE DIFFERENT<\/strong>. Stand apart.<\/p>\n

Use a pick up line that makes her feel special, and you’ll be earning dividends for as long as you desire.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So why do guys use pickup lines?<\/p>\n

I’ve been studying this curious mating ritual for over 10 years now, and I finally understood the reasons why guys want to use them.<\/p>\n

Pick up lines are the equivalent of a knock-knock joke.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,10,47],"tags":[144,143],"class_list":["post-648","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articles","category-alpha-lifestyle-coaching-content","category-silver-members","tag-articles","tag-alpha-lifestyle-coaching-content"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/648","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=648"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/648\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=648"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=648"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=648"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}