{"id":711,"date":"2010-01-26T13:07:53","date_gmt":"2010-01-26T21:07:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=711"},"modified":"2012-07-06T08:17:23","modified_gmt":"2012-07-06T15:17:23","slug":"how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2010\/01\/how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Get a Girl to like You&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When I was a teenager growing up, I was always fascinated by this friend of mine, John, who was only 16, but he lived in an apartment with a friend &#8211; not with parents.<\/p>\n<p>John was pretty darn good with women. He had one of the hottest girlfriends in our high school. Her name was Lisa, and she was this exotic looking Asian girl.<\/p>\n<p>He had no money, and no car.<\/p>\n<p>And he treated Lisa like dirt.<\/p>\n<p>How in the world did this work? Why did she dig <strong>HIM<\/strong>?<\/p>\n<p>I thought you were supposed to treat women &#8220;nice,&#8221; and give them things to show them you liked them.<\/p>\n<p>(I&#8217;m gagging a little as I&#8217;m typing this\u2026)<\/p>\n<p>Was this really how to get a girl to like you?<\/p>\n<p>Well, suffice to say, John was an extreme version of the Bad Boy. This &#8220;Bad Boy&#8221; knows the laws of attraction with women better than any other kind of player out there in many ways, because he understands the <strong>3 LAWS OF ATTRACTION<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Today I&#8217;m going to reveal to you the three most important principles of attraction.<\/p>\n<p>If you really learn how these 3 laws work, you&#8217;ll find that your understanding and ability with women will increase &#8211; <strong>BIG TIME<\/strong>. And you will understand the secret methods of how to get a girl to like you\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Just like the Bad Boys use.<\/p>\n<p>It took me years to figure these out on my own, and really understand how they worked on a <strong>DEEP<\/strong> psychological level.<\/p>\n<p>When you learn how to use them correctly, you&#8217;ll be almost hypnotic with women.<\/p>\n<p><strong>ATTRACTION LESSON 1: &#8220;Gimme my game!&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There was this game for my X-box that I had been waiting for some time to get. The reviews were looking good, and the day before the release I saw that it got a really great review from some game site.<\/p>\n<p>I was stoked!<\/p>\n<p>So the next day I go to the Best Buy and \u2026 the release date was printed wrong! It wasn&#8217;t going to be in until the next day.<\/p>\n<p>No big whoop. I just went home and came back the next day. (That night I had a dream about the game. Obviously I was really looking forward to it.)<\/p>\n<p>So I go back at 9:00 AM &#8211; as the doors open &#8211; and I ask for the game. &#8220;Won&#8217;t be in until 2:00 PM,&#8221; the clerk says to me.<\/p>\n<p>ARgggggrrrrr\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, so now I&#8217;ve come here 2 times for the game, and I have to come back again????<\/p>\n<p>Now I&#8217;m really starting to think the universe was trying to keep me from having this game.<\/p>\n<p>I call over to another game store. Same story &#8211; won&#8217;t be in until that afternoon.<\/p>\n<p>More frustration.<\/p>\n<p>I go home, and get some more work done. I&#8217;m checking my watch every hour.<\/p>\n<p>And then I go back to the Best Buy and head straight for the X-box section.<\/p>\n<p>And it&#8217;s STILL not there!<\/p>\n<p>AAAAAHH!<\/p>\n<p>I ask a clerk for the game, and he sends me back up front where the games were being kept in a &#8220;secure&#8221; location. (Seems to me that you can&#8217;t sell something that you&#8217;re hiding from your customers, but oh well.)<\/p>\n<p>So how do you think when I finally had that game in my hand?<\/p>\n<p>You bet I felt a sense of accomplishment at having finally found it and bought it. And I also clutched it in my tight little fist all the way to the car, just in case someone would try to pry it out of my hands\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Right about now you&#8217;re wondering what this has to do with how to get a girl to like you, but stay with me\u2026<\/p>\n<p>There IS an important lesson here &#8211; beyond learning about how to not get so hung up on a game.<\/p>\n<p>This was the exact same thing that happened to me when I wanted a woman that I didn&#8217;t think I could get. I&#8217;d get fixated (&#8220;obsessed&#8221; is probably a better word) on her, and then I&#8217;d fall into the exact same pattern.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d call her, and if she didn&#8217;t answer, I couldn&#8217;t stop thinking about who she was with and what she was doing.<\/p>\n<p>Or I&#8217;d ask her out, and if she couldn&#8217;t make the date, or she cancelled, I&#8217;d get even MORE attracted to her.<\/p>\n<p>I would raise my fist to the heavens and shout: &#8220;By the powers of Gromthar, I shall possess her!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>A bit melodramatic, but you get the idea, don&#8217;t you?<\/p>\n<p>This is the <strong>FIRST<\/strong> rule of attraction:<\/p>\n<p>W<strong>e want what we cannot have<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>The more we can&#8217;t have it, the more we become fixated on it.<\/p>\n<p>This is the principle of <strong>CHALLENGE<\/strong> you must use to get a girl to like you on a level that she won&#8217;t even understand.<\/p>\n<p>A woman will be driven to complete distraction by a man she feels is just outside her grasp. Of course, there has to be some element of <strong>HOPE<\/strong> in that mix, but humans are interesting in that we can create hope that doesn&#8217;t even exist.<\/p>\n<p>Use this principle for <strong>YOU<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Be a little <strong>LESS<\/strong> available than a woman wants you to be early on.<\/p>\n<p>And this doesn&#8217;t have to be something you do on purpose &#8211; as some kind of manipulative ploy. I don&#8217;t condone that. That&#8217;s not how to get a girl to like you in any honorable way.<\/p>\n<p>It should be <strong>NATURA<\/strong>L.<\/p>\n<p>You should just so damn busy meeting women that you don&#8217;t have the time to get back to every woman right away. Or answer every phone call.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s <strong>REAL<\/strong> scarcity, not fake scarcity.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me on this one: Scarcity only makes the heart grow fonder.<\/p>\n<p><strong>ATTRACTION EXAMPLE #2: &#8220;Just a little Memento\u2026&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I was in a hotel killing some time one evening, flicking through channels on the television. From one channel to the next, it was all stuff I&#8217;d seen.<\/p>\n<p>Then this movie came on that I hadn&#8217;t seen before called &#8220;Memento.&#8221; I was lucky to have caught it at the start of the movie, and I found myself completely absorbed by the story.<\/p>\n<p>(If you haven&#8217;t seen this movie, run out and rent it <strong>RIGHT NOW<\/strong>. It&#8217;s that good.)<\/p>\n<p>It wasn&#8217;t particularly suspenseful in the way that a movie with a woman walking down a dark corridor is suspenseful, but it held me fast in its grip.<\/p>\n<p>If you don&#8217;t know how this movie goes, or you haven&#8217;t seen it in a while, basically the movie is about a guy who has no long-term memory due to a head injury. The story is told in 3 or 4 minute &#8220;flashbacks&#8221; of memory that mimics his disorder. So we learn things the way he does.<\/p>\n<p>The whole time I&#8217;m watching, I&#8217;m wondering:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Who&#8217;s the guy with him on the phone?<\/li>\n<li>Who is he looking for?<\/li>\n<li>How did he wind up with that car?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And each new flashback answers some of the questions of the previous scene, but then it creates <strong>ALL NEW ONES<\/strong>!<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t think my eyes left the screen until it was all over.<\/p>\n<p>Even then, I wanted to watch it again just to make sure I figured everything out.<\/p>\n<p>And then I spent the next week telling everyone in my social network to watch the movie.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s the lesson here?<\/p>\n<p>If we <strong>DON&#8217;<\/strong>T know what&#8217;s going to happen, we find it attractive.<\/p>\n<p>We want to find out what happens\u2026<\/p>\n<p>This is the law of <strong>UNPREDICTABILITY<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>It is completely captivating to have an unpredictable story that you simply <strong>MUST<\/strong> find out what happens.<\/p>\n<p><strong>ATTRACTION LESSON #3: &#8220;She will come around\u2026&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Back when I was learning and experimenting with dating skills, I managed to get a really attractive girlfriend. Her name was Alicia.<\/p>\n<p>And I think that she was the freakiest girl I&#8217;d ever had in bed up until that point.<\/p>\n<p>Spanking.<\/p>\n<p>Toys.<\/p>\n<p>(I&#8217;ll spare you the heavy details\u2026)<\/p>\n<p>I was really into Alicia, but I knew that if I tried to make her exclusive with me, I&#8217;d wreck it. So I played it cool.<\/p>\n<p>Well, I was also out there on the prowl, too. We had an open dating relationship. We were each seeing other people.<\/p>\n<p>But I was very consistent with her. I would meet her at least once a week for dinner or some kind of date, and then I&#8217;d force myself to leave before she wanted me to. (A little bit of scarcity mixed in there\u2026)<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d leave a message on her voicemail at home during the day when I knew she wouldn&#8217;t be there. Nothing needy, just a &#8220;question of the day,&#8221; like &#8220;Where would you live if you could live anywhere in the world\u2026?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It went on like this for about 2 months.<\/p>\n<p>Then, one night, Alicia takes me to dinner in a nice restaurant where she proceeds to tell me that she wants to be exclusive with me. She&#8217;s tired of all the other losers she&#8217;s been meeting.<\/p>\n<p>Inside I was smiling and yelling out &#8220;YESSSSS!&#8221;, but on the outside I was calm and collected. &#8220;I think we can give that a try,&#8221; I said to her, sipping my beer as I scanned the menu.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s the lesson?<\/p>\n<p>If it&#8217;s perceived as establishing safety and comfort &#8211; we are attracted to it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>This is the law of SAFETY &amp; CONSISTENCY<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I realize that Law #2 and Law #3 seem to be contradictory, and that&#8217;s why you have to use them together for maximum effect.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s really what I did in the story for Law #3. I balanced just enough mystery about what I was doing when Alicia wasn&#8217;t there, with just enough <strong>BEING THERE<\/strong> for her to get that girl to like me more than any other guy she knew.<\/p>\n<p>The standard Pickup logic may not support this, but I&#8217;m here to tell you that if a person is exposed to your presence regularly enough (but not to extremes), they will start to miss you when you&#8217;re not around, and they will feel a burning attraction begin to build for you.<\/p>\n<p>Again, this has to be done with the right method and in the right intensity, otherwise it will fizzle out into &#8220;friendship&#8221; territory.<\/p>\n<p><strong>These 3 Laws of Attraction are POWERFUL<\/strong>. If you want to know how to get a girl to like you, simply learn how to use these three laws to your advantage with every woman you meet.<\/p>\n<p>Everything I teach is based in these 3 simple laws, and they <strong>WILL<\/strong> work for you as they have for me.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;d like to learn more about how attraction works &#8211; on a detailed level &#8211; then I have something that will help you gain the understanding and the skills you need to create incredibly powerful feelings from a woman.<\/p>\n<p>The secret to unlocking a woman&#8217;s emotional state is not some kind of &#8220;magic&#8221; &#8211; or even a super-power that only pickup artists have. It&#8217;s something that every guy has in him, but few were taught how to use it.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re like a lot of guys out there who haven&#8217;t had the kind of male role model they wanted growing up, then there&#8217;s a good chance you may have missed out on learning these skills.<\/p>\n<p>In my Approach Women 2 program, I&#8217;ve pulled together all the different ingredients so that you can finally start meeting women anywhere and everywhere you go.<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t have to learn a bunch of slick games and lines to start meeting women<strong> TODAY<\/strong>. All you need are some basic things to say to start a conversation, and a few tricks I&#8217;ve discovered over the years.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The CD&#8217;s are jam-packed with so much good advice. Seriously, going through the program, it seems that you were NOT content to JUST give us our money&#8217;s worth. You HAD to go above and beyond and give us WAY more than that\u2026&#8221;\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 &#8211; Michael C., Maryland<\/p>\n<p>These are just a few of the things guys have to say about this program.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t honestly know if it&#8217;s for you, but you owe it to yourself to find out.<\/p>\n<p>Take a look at the full contents of the program here:<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.realdaygame.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.realdaygame.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>And I&#8217;ll be talking to you again very soon\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Your Friend,<br \/>\n<strong>Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When I was a teenager growing up, I was always fascinated by this friend of mine, John, who was only 16, but he lived in an apartment with a friend &#8211; not with parents.<\/p>\n<p>John was pretty darn good with women. He had one of the hottest girlfriends in our high school. 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