{"id":725,"date":"2010-01-29T09:40:24","date_gmt":"2010-01-29T17:40:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/?p=725"},"modified":"2012-07-06T08:16:37","modified_gmt":"2012-07-06T15:16:37","slug":"you-dont-need-money","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/2010\/01\/you-dont-need-money\/","title":{"rendered":"You don&#8217;t need money&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"clear: both;\"><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER:<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">I used to make 10,000 a month. Now I make $10 an hour. It\u2019s hard to get hired as a 50+ ex-computer programmer. How can I date women anywhere near my former level?<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">______________________<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\"><strong>CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">You don\u2019t need to take women out on $100+ dates, my friend.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">That\u2019s the whole point of what I teach\u2026<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">The answer to all your troubles lies in one question you need to ask yourself:<br \/>\n\u201cHow can I add more <em>value<\/em> to the world around me?\u201d<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">When you ask yourself this question about your employment situation, you\u2019ll realize more success.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">(<strong><em>Hint<\/em><\/strong>: You might want to outsource yourself with an online service like Elance.com, and you don\u2019t need to broadcast your age or your <strong>PERCEIVED<\/strong> shortcomings.)<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">When you apply this question to the world of women, you\u2019ll realize that a man\u2019s value in attracting a woman is <strong>NOT<\/strong> in his income level.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">I personally make it a point to <strong>NOT<\/strong> spend money (in any big way) on the first 3 to 4 dates.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">1) I don\u2019t want a gold digger. This is an effective screening mechanism.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">2) I can focus on what really matters: Whether she\u2019s good enough for me and meets my criteria.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">3) I will come up with genuinely FUN things to do \u2013 which is what ultimately attracts women initially.<\/p>\n<p style=\"clear: both;\">Think outside the box, my friends\u2026 your success is waiting just beyond your currently limiting belief!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>QUESTION FROM A READER:<\/p>\n<p>I used to make 10,000 a month. Now I make $10 an hour. It\u2019s hard to get hired as a 50+ ex-computer programmer. How can I date women anywhere near my former level?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,10,47],"tags":[144,143],"class_list":["post-725","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articles","category-alpha-lifestyle-coaching-content","category-silver-members","tag-articles","tag-alpha-lifestyle-coaching-content"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/725","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=725"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/725\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=725"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=725"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/dating-seduction-techniques\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=725"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}