Hey, I\u2019m a 21 yr old guy and after deciding to lower my expectations a few years back I got with a girl and lost my virginity. Usually if she\u2019d had a history I wouldn\u2019t go there. Now I REALLY regret my decision to be with her and especially sleep with her.<\/p>\n
Point is, this re-affirmed for me that a virgin lady would be the only suitable for me. How do I go about finding one and if I do is she likely to reject me because I did not wait for her? <\/strong>While I do respect your desire for a woman who hasn\u2019t been with another man, I don\u2019t share your interpretation of what you came away with from your first time experience.<\/p>\n But I will say that if you want to find a virgin woman, you\u2019re going to have a real tough time.<\/p>\n Mostly because women lie about this all the time. Sorry to tell you this, but humans are horn-dogs at heart. Men and<\/strong> women.<\/p>\n Sexuality is normal and necessary<\/em>.<\/p>\n What does this \u201cvirgin\u201d status REALLY mean to you?<\/p>\n If it\u2019s that<\/strong> important, than you should start going to church or religious organizations to meet women. Mostly because virginity is simply not the social norm anymore after a certain age.<\/p>\n Think about it for a second\u2026<\/p>\n Imagine if you met a woman who said she was a virgin, and you and her got together and had a wonderful life together. Then, at the ripe old age of 80-something, she tells you that she wasn\u2019t really a virgin when you got together.<\/p>\n Does your last 60 years together suddenly turn to crap because of that confession? Does everything suddenly change?<\/p>\n I don\u2019t believe so.<\/p>\n If it did, it would be because you MADE it that way by reverse-engineering your experiences. Looking back on your life and suddenly changing the meaning of all the good events to bad.<\/p>\n That\u2019s what \u2018regret\u2019 is.<\/p>\n I also believe that regret is one of the most USELESS emotions. Learn your lesson and move on, but leave regret for someone else. You can\u2019t change the past.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying this is right or wrong, or that you\u2019re even wrong for desiring it. I just want you to really look at your belief system a little closer. Ask yourself the hard questions, and then get an answer.<\/p>\n Find out the REAL \u201cwhy.\u201d<\/p>\n The real message I\u2019m trying to get to you here is that connection between people doesn\u2019t need to be complicated, but we seem to make it like that.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t create problems that don\u2019t exist yet. First find a woman, then deal with the virginity, then deal with your own lack of it.<\/p>\n Then you can deal with how she feels about it. You can\u2019t solve problems you don\u2019t even have yet.<\/p>\n I, for one, still think you did the right thing by losing your virginity and removing that hang-up from your life. I\u2019ve seen guys go through 40 years of virginity (just like the movie) and they are complete sexual train wrecks because they have no experience with women.<\/p>\n They really do act weird around people because they have lived a life of repressed desire.<\/p>\n I do sincerely hope that the person reading this now does not offend themselves with my words. But if it happens, I will tell you that I will have no regrets.<\/p>\n Live your life the way you want to. But don\u2019t live your life according to a belief you either don\u2019t understand completely, or haven\u2019t thoroughly examined.<\/p>\n The Alpha Man lives his life on his own<\/em><\/strong> terms, and not on the dogma of other people.<\/p>\n And that even includes what I<\/em><\/strong> say.<\/p>\n – Carlos<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" ey, I\u2019m a 21 yr old guy and after deciding to lower my expectations a few years back I got with a girl and lost my virginity. 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\n<\/em><\/strong>(As do men.)<\/p>\n