What to Say When Approaching A Woman
A lot of the anxiety and fear about approaching women is based on the fact that most men are worried they won’t have anything interesting to say after “hello.”
Even the most confident and successful man will probably admit that he had to learn to be comfortable in conversation with women. It doesn’t usually come natural. We are not born knowing what to say when we are approaching a beautiful woman.
Maybe you’ve studied every book on dating under the sun, even memorized great openers, and perfected your magic tricks and conversational techniques, but as soon as you walk up to a girl, Wham, you freeze.
That’s what happens when approach anxiety takes over and you lose your nerves. You forget everything you’ve learned about what to say when approaching women and look around like a deer in the headlights.
Maybe you had it down cold when you left the house, but Bam! You lost it right when you most needed it. You’re stuck without a clue as to what you should say.
This is, to say the least, a bit awkward.
You’re stuck there with a cute girl staring at you and you have nothing else to say, so you hastily make your exit. Fail.
By the time you get back to your friends, you’ve remembered exactly what to say but of course, by that point, it’s too late.
Here are a few tips that can help you in that situation.
What to Say When Approaching A Woman Tips:
1. Think ahead by arming yourself with what is called a “conversational” bridge. This is a topic or interest area that you know ahead of time you are going to bring up when you walk up to a woman.
It might be about the Middle East peace crisis. It might be a new exhibit at the art museum. Whatever it is, you know without a doubt, this is what you are going to talk about and steer the conversation toward.
2. Learn how to use your senses – sight, smell, hearing, taste and touch – to hardwire information into your memory. For example, if you want to use your passion for photography as your conversational bridge, think about it, then write it down, then read it out loud. This will lodge it in your memory so you don’t draw a blank when you are in front of a woman.
The trick with this tip is to come up with topics you want for your conversational bridge and then practice bringing the topics up in different locations, circumstances and with different people. For example, rehearsing talking about it in the shower, on your drive to work, or while you are lifting weights.
If you want to do so in public, put your phone’s headset or Bluetooth on and talk away.
This technique also fortifies your memory.
If you follow these three tips, you will overcome the anxiety, fear and you will know what to say when approaching a woman, and will always feel comfortable and having something interesting to say.