{"id":218,"date":"2012-09-04T16:10:39","date_gmt":"2012-09-04T16:10:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=218"},"modified":"2012-09-04T16:12:14","modified_gmt":"2012-09-04T16:12:14","slug":"this-really-depresses-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/how-to-approach-women-meet-women\/this-really-depresses-me\/","title":{"rendered":"This really depresses me…"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m really depressed right now, and I need to tell you why.<\/p>\n

I’ve been advising guys on how to attract and get the woman they want for… wow, over 10 years now.<\/p>\n

Before I did this online, I studied the art of attraction for about 5 or 6 years.<\/p>\n

So I’ve got a teeny tiny bit of understanding on the topic. \u00a0\ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

AND<\/strong> I’ve gotten thousands of emails and questions from guys over the years.<\/p>\n

One that I get ALL<\/strong> the time has a very common theme.<\/p>\n

It goes like this:<\/p>\n

– I read your stuff and it makes total sense<\/p>\n

– BUT…<\/strong><\/p>\n

– I don’t think it works on women *where I’m from…*<\/p>\n

(as if the nature of women REALLY<\/strong> changes when you cross state – or even country lines. HINT<\/strong>: It doesn’t.)<\/p>\n

– All my guy friends get women all the time, but not me…<\/p>\n

– Those guys are good looking, and that’s why they get women. ‘Cause women want looks.<\/p>\n

– So you’re wrong, Carlos!<\/p>\n

This is great logic if you’re in a third grade class on why Joanie loves Charlie on some television show, but it’s completely empty of truth in the real world.<\/p>\n

The biggest myth in this chain of reasoning is this:<\/p>\n

Women only want looks.<\/p>\n

This is the biggest misinterpretation that men make when it comes to women, and this limiting belief can HAUNT<\/strong> him to his first divorce, next marriage, child support payments, divorce, THIRD<\/strong> marriage, and eventual grave.<\/p>\n

Let me start out by saying this:<\/p>\n

Do looks matter?<\/p>\n

OF COURSE THEY DO!<\/strong><\/p>\n

All things being equal, looks will get your foot in the door pretty quick.<\/p>\n

But are looks ALL<\/strong> that matter?<\/p>\n

NO!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because she might be interested for a few minutes based on that, but once you open your mouth, you better show her the signals she needs to feel that gut-level attraction.<\/p>\n

It’s the same thing that happens to you when you meet a cute girl with a voice like a cackling witch. You WANT<\/strong> to like her, but you’re so turned off by it that you just can’t feel turned on.<\/p>\n

You see, most men assume that women think JUST<\/strong> like guys do.<\/p>\n

We think that looks are important to women because they’re important to us.<\/p>\n

Looks are important to men because we can evaluate a woman for all we need based on some purely visual features.<\/p>\n

Nice boobs, butt, all that.<\/p>\n

We only need to find a woman attractive physically in order to want to “mate” with her.<\/p>\n

This is because men have never really had to stick around and raise any accidental babies may have created.<\/p>\n

Well, at least before the 20th century.<\/p>\n

So there was no real RISK<\/strong> for men.<\/p>\n

But for women…!<\/p>\n

If she took a chance on a guy and let him into her bed, and there was a baby from that night of fun, then she would have to pay for that mistake for a good 15-18 years.<\/p>\n

And she had to hope the guy she had it with would be there to help her raise that bundle of joy.<\/p>\n

So women learned to look for other indicators, because being good looking just wasn’t enough.<\/p>\n

In fact, it’s the LEAST<\/strong> relevant thing to a woman, because it’s the LEAST<\/strong> likely thing to tell her if he’s going to stick around and do his duty as a man.<\/p>\n

So what is it that a woman is looking for?<\/p>\n

It’s simple.<\/p>\n

She needs to see that you’re BOYFRIEND MATERIAL.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I sometimes call this “being a keeper.” (Because that’s what women usually call it.)<\/p>\n

Because, when you’re a “keeper” she will do everything she can to be your girlfriend.<\/p>\n

Yes, that even means sleeping with you as fast as she can to “lock you in.”<\/p>\n

The trick to getting her to do this is super simple.<\/p>\n

You just have to show her that you’ve got GIRLFRIEND MAGNETS.<\/strong><\/p>\n

How do you do that, you ask?<\/p>\n

Simple – just go have a look at this special report: <\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Where I reveal how these magnets really work.<\/p>\n

Stay Alpha…!<\/p>\n

– Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

PS:<\/strong> I’ll also show you the three big mistakes most guys make that REPEL<\/strong> women and make sure that only fat and ugly chicks find you interesting.<\/p>\n

Harsh? Yeah.<\/p>\n

But TRUE<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Go read this special report <\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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