{"id":227,"date":"2012-09-06T16:22:04","date_gmt":"2012-09-06T16:22:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=227"},"modified":"2012-09-06T17:16:29","modified_gmt":"2012-09-06T17:16:29","slug":"what-really-happens-at-bars-clubs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/how-to-attract-women\/what-really-happens-at-bars-clubs\/","title":{"rendered":"What REALLY Happens At Bars & Clubs"},"content":{"rendered":"

The art of attracting women is not intuitive.<\/p>\n

And only about 3 or 4% of all guys are “naturals” with women.<\/p>\n

I know, I know… it seems like EVERY<\/strong> guy but you is good with women when you’re out at bars and clubs.<\/p>\n

This is an ILLUSION<\/strong>, by the way.<\/p>\n

It’s created by what I call the Fishbowl Error.<\/p>\n

The Fishbowl Error simply means that if you were a Goldfish in a fishbowl, you’d be “breathing” water all the time, right?<\/p>\n

You’d just assume that the world was one big water-breathing place, even if it was just your tiny fishbowl.<\/p>\n

In fact, you wouldn’t even NOTICE<\/strong><\/p>\n

So you bend reality to match your experience.<\/p>\n

Let me say that again – it’s BIG<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

You bend your reality to match your experience.<\/p>\n

If you approach a woman and she’s cold, you bend reality to think: “Geez, the women here are bitches.”<\/p>\n

If you try online dating, and you don’t have any success in the first few weeks, you bend reality to think: “This online stuff doesn’t work.”<\/p>\n

If you go to a bar and the guys all SEEM<\/strong> to be successful with women, you bend your reality to think: You must be the only guy that can’t meet women here.<\/p>\n

Fishbowl Error: All other guys are confident. They can all do it easily. Way better than me.<\/p>\n

Nope!<\/p>\n

It’s NOT<\/strong> you. In fact, the reality is just below the surface in the fishbowl of most bars and clubs.<\/p>\n

Here’s the REAL WORLD<\/strong> of bars & clubs:<\/p>\n

1)<\/strong> Most people have been drinking. Some of the people there are just plain SMASHED<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

2)<\/strong> The women are not bitchy. They’re just overly caught up in the social fishbowl they’re in. It’s a place where every guy wants her, and she gets to play the princess looking for her prince.<\/p>\n

All the attention, but not with a real clear understanding that she’s being rude.<\/p>\n

3)<\/strong> A lot of the guys and girls you see together actually came to the venue together. They didn’t just meet there.<\/p>\n

4)<\/strong> Most of the guys that DID<\/strong> approach women had to overcome a lot of inner resistance as well as fear.<\/p>\n

Hell, most of them are talking to women only because of the alcohol, AND<\/strong> their one friend that could open a conversation pulled him in.<\/p>\n

5)<\/strong> A lot of guys are laughing and talking with women, sure. They look on top of the world.<\/p>\n

But most of them are failing. MISERABLY<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Sure, the women look like they’re into it. But they’re just playing along.<\/p>\n

Chances are high (about 75% and up) that he’s not creating any real attraction with the woman he’s talking to.<\/p>\n

Most of the guys will count on getting her either too drunk to care if he makes a move, or he will just get her phone number.<\/p>\n

(Which she won’t recognize or answer if he does get up the guts to call her.)<\/p>\n

But he will bend reality to think that it was a success.<\/p>\n

Hate to bust your beliefs on that, but from years of studying this environment, I know.<\/p>\n

Sorry, man. It’s reality.<\/p>\n

So when you go out and feel down on yourself because you’re not one of THEM<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

Just remember that the guys you THINK<\/strong> are doing so well with women are NOT<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And just by reading this article you’re more aware of what’s going on in the social matrix than 90% of them.<\/p>\n

AND<\/strong> there’s a light side to this reality.<\/p>\n

It’s the truth that no matter where you are right now, you can actually create REAL<\/strong> success with women – no matter where you go.<\/p>\n

All it takes is adding a skill.<\/p>\n

If you want to do something well, you just need to add a skill. And every skill there is can be learned.<\/p>\n

And if you have the right teacher, you can learn it FAST<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

If you’d like to start meeting women, everywhere you go – not just having to go to the “meat” market of bars and clubs…<\/p>\n

I’ve got something that you should see.<\/p>\n

Discover the secrets of how to meet women anywhere, anytime – with no fear and no rejection…<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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