{"id":314,"date":"2012-12-16T23:54:57","date_gmt":"2012-12-16T23:54:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=314"},"modified":"2012-12-16T23:54:57","modified_gmt":"2012-12-16T23:54:57","slug":"she-doesnt-deserve-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/she-doesnt-deserve-you\/","title":{"rendered":"She doesn’t deserve you???"},"content":{"rendered":"

Question from a reader:<\/p>\n

What does it mean when a woman says she does not deserve you<\/strong>….?<\/p>\n

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:<\/p>\n

Ah, yes… this is one of those weird little woman-speak phrases that will catch you if you don’t know what’s going on.<\/p>\n

And that’s the problem. You don’t know what’s going on<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

There are a few reasons a woman would say this, but the bottom line is this:<\/p>\n

Believe her!<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you just met her, she’s trying to let you down nice and easy<\/strong> that she’s not into you.<\/p>\n

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But if you’ve known her or dated her for a while…<\/p>\n

She’s probably setting you up to break up with you. I’ve noticed this little phrase is said when she’s either in a complete low self-esteem funk, or she’s done something that’s making her feel VERY<\/strong> guilty.<\/p>\n

You should NOT<\/strong> get into a game of trying to boos her self-image or make her feel better. You slam on the brakes and ask her:<\/p>\n

“Why are you saying that?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

And get right down to the core of it with her.<\/p>\n

You’ll probably either hear that she’s in a pit of self pity and down on herself…<\/p>\n

… or she cheated on you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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