{"id":348,"date":"2013-01-30T13:25:54","date_gmt":"2013-01-30T13:25:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=348"},"modified":"2013-01-30T13:25:54","modified_gmt":"2013-01-30T13:25:54","slug":"how-to-create-real-chemistry-with-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/how-to-create-real-chemistry-with-women\/","title":{"rendered":"How to create REAL chemistry with women…"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know, I get this question (or a variation) nearly every day:<\/p>\n

“I’ve seen this girl that I really like, but I always seem to screw it up when I try to talk to her. Is there a way to get her wanting me?<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

Well the truth is…<\/p>\n

You can… if you understand how “chemistry” works with women.<\/p>\n

So what IS<\/strong> chemistry?<\/p>\n

SIMPLE: Chemistry is the CONNECTION<\/strong> you feel for her, and she feels for you.<\/p>\n

The stronger the connection… the stronger the chemistry.<\/p>\n

CONNECTION = CHEMISTRY<\/strong><\/p>\n

And here’s the kicker…<\/p>\n

And how you can help a woman fall in love with you…<\/p>\n

A woman will ultimately CHOOSE<\/strong> to be with the man she feels the MOST<\/strong> chemistry with at that time.<\/p>\n

The most CONNECTION<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

So isn’t the real question: How do you connect with her<\/strong>?<\/p>\n

Yes, in fact, that IS<\/strong> the real question.<\/p>\n

Because when you connect with a woman, you create not only attraction, but real chemistry that she won’t soon forget.<\/p>\n

Here’s a simple 3-step method for creating chemistry:<\/p>\n

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1) Stop trying to “match” her<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I see this one all the time when I’m coaching. Guys think that if they find something in common with her<\/strong> – like a restaurant they both like, or a movie they both enjoyed – that this is going to create a connection<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Well, it does – but it’s a VERY weak connection<\/strong>. It’s what I call “coincidental” – and it doesn’t help to create REAL CHEMISTRY<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

It feels thin and fake.<\/p>\n

If these coincidences come up in conversation, go ahead and use them. But don’t go on a long drawn out search for them.<\/p>\n

Instead, focus on:<\/p>\n

2) Seek out shared emotional experiences.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is HUGE<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

It’s also about 100 times more powerful with women in creating that feeling of “chemical romance<\/strong>” we call “chemistry<\/strong>.”<\/p>\n

Because when you hit on an emotional experience that you’ve both had, that’s a deep connection right there. It’s something that will make her feel like you were both destined to be together<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

A shared emotional experience could be as simple as a childhood experience you both had, or even a funny moment you share RIGHT NOW<\/strong> in your conversation.<\/p>\n

A woman is series of emotional waves<\/strong>, and you are the surfer riding them.<\/p>\n

And of course, if you want to seal your chemistry up with a woman TIGHT, you must…<\/p>\n

3) Leave her wanting more<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

This is the #1 rule of show business – and it needs to be your #1 rule of connecting with women.<\/p>\n

I know, I know. It sounds like it’s totally contradictory to connecting, right?<\/p>\n

After all, leaving her unfulfilled sounds like it’s DIS-connecting you instead.<\/p>\n

Well, if you did your job in #2 above, and then you end it on a high note and leave her wanting more<\/strong> of that feeling… This will only ensure that actually will see you again.<\/p>\n

And that is the ultimate goal of EVERY<\/strong> interaction you have with a woman – get her to want MORE<\/strong> of you than the last time. So that she keeps coming back again and again<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And when you leave her wanting more, you actually kill two birds with one stone: She wants you more – and when you’re not there, you’re all she’s thinking about.<\/p>\n

It’s the only guaranteed path to her heart – and into her bed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

If you’d like to learn more about how to create chemistry with women in conversation, then I suggest you take a look at this:<\/p>\n

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