{"id":361,"date":"2013-02-20T18:30:52","date_gmt":"2013-02-20T18:30:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=361"},"modified":"2013-02-20T18:32:03","modified_gmt":"2013-02-20T18:32:03","slug":"3-signs-youre-not-getting-laid-tonight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/3-signs-youre-not-getting-laid-tonight\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Signs You’re Not Getting Laid Tonight"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let’s face it – there’s nothing worse than putting a few hours of work into charming a woman, and you’re moving in on home base – only to have her say “No, I’m not ready…<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

Or “No, not tonight…<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

Or “We’re moving too fast…<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

I’m sure you’ve heard one of those, or maybe even a few others.<\/p>\n

All of them basically tell you one thing:<\/p>\n

You’re not getting laid tonight<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Wouldn’t it be better if you knew this in advance?<\/strong>\u00a0So you could cut your losses?<\/p>\n

Maybe go home and watch a movie or get a few hours extra sleep.<\/p>\n

Well, I’m going to share a few of the signs that tell you you’re not getting laid so you can spot this roadblock way in advance.<\/p>\n

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\nSign #1<\/strong>\u00a0that you’re not getting laid tonight:<\/p>\n

She’s cold and “different.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

You sense a change in the climate with her. She’s nothing like she was the other night when you were all sunshine and cuddly kittens together.<\/p>\n

And the more you try to get that affection and spark going, the more she seems to resist you.<\/p>\n

Frankly, the best thing you can do in this situation is to just do a 180 and freeze her out a little.\u00a0Don’t act like you’re a spoiled kid who can’t get his way<\/strong>, mind you. If you look like you’re retaliating against her, you’ll probably never see her again.<\/p>\n

Instead, make and excuse to go sit in a chair away from her.\u00a0Flip through some comedies, and chill.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Keep your good humor, and just let her feel the pressure of possible rejection. Let\u00a0HER<\/strong>\u00a0sweat it a little.<\/p>\n

You’d be amazed how quickly this will turn that attitude around.<\/p>\n

Sign #2<\/strong>\u00a0that you’re not getting laid tonight:<\/p>\n

She talks about how she’s emotionally “fragile” or wounded in some way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She mentions some kind of emotional “trauma”<\/p>\n

This is different from talking about not wanting a boyfriend. That’s just a sign\u00a0she’s looking for no-strings sex<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

But when she talks about how she’s been hurt, and her heart is mending, and all that crap…<\/p>\n

You can be sure that\u00a0she’s in desperate need of validation<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

You can give her a little of that validation, but don’t let her push you into wussy behavior as a result. This is where guys go\u00a0WAY<\/strong>\u00a0wrong\u00a0with a woman and start turning into nurturing care-bears<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

She doesn’t need (or want) your inner mom. Just listen to her (for a little) and then change the subject to something fun and positive. If she resists the change and\u00a0wants to drone about her heartache<\/strong>, run for the hills.<\/p>\n

Really, man. I know it doesn’t sound “sympathetic,” but you’re not going to be able to help her. And\u00a0you’ll just drag your own attitude down as a result<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Sign #3<\/strong>\u00a0that you’re not getting laid tonight:<\/p>\n

She wants to just “cuddle.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuddling is the cheap tactic women pull out of their hat when you’re at the finish line and she wants to slam on the brakes.<\/p>\n

Yeah, you might hear something like the aforementioned:<\/p>\n

“No, I’m not ready…<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

Or “No, not tonight…<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

Or “We’re moving too fast…<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

But she’s doing one of two things:<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0She’s trying to test you and see if you can handle her putting on the brakes<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

This is a\u00a0HUGE<\/strong>\u00a0test of a guy and it tells her a ton about you.<\/p>\n

If you get all whiney and pushy and bratty about not getting some, then\u00a0she knows you’re trying to get the sex more than you are actually into her<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And guess what happens next? Yep,\u00a0she’ll be nice and try to appease you, but you’re not getting any<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

2) She’s not feeling the kind of hot & heavy attraction<\/strong>\u00a0(or connection)\u00a0that she needs to sleep with you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This usually means that you missed a step somewhere along the way. It’s going to be up to you to re-establish that missed ingredient to get her into you again.<\/p>\n

There are many other signs that a woman isn’t ready to sleep with you, but these are a few of the big ones you can spot right away.<\/p>\n

And ultimately they all trace back to your ability to move her forward to the finish line.<\/p>\n

…and it’s up to\u00a0YOU<\/strong>\u00a0to make this happen.<\/p>\n

There’s a whole roadmap of going from “hello<\/strong>” to “good morning<\/strong>” with a woman. And you have to know every step along the way if you want to avoid the dreaded: “Not tonight<\/strong>” from a woman.<\/p>\n

And the fact is that\u00a0guys make 4 very simple but\u00a0HUGE\u00a0mistakes with women<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And these four mistakes make it nearly impossible for them to get sexual with her.<\/p>\n

If you want to learn what those mistakes are, just\u00a0GO HERE<\/strong><\/a>…<\/p>\n