{"id":433,"date":"2013-06-10T19:22:16","date_gmt":"2013-06-10T19:22:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=433"},"modified":"2013-06-10T19:22:16","modified_gmt":"2013-06-10T19:22:16","slug":"how-to-handle-your-temper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/how-to-handle-your-temper\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Handle Your Temper"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi Carlos<\/p>\n

I a member of the Alpha Attraction Academy<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

I am 62<\/strong> and have been working on myself pretty intensely for the last 26 years.<\/p>\n

I now feel more strong, \u00a0powerful and masculine than I have ever felt in my entire life …….. \u00a0and I LOVE<\/strong> it.<\/p>\n

I am more confident motivated and driven than ever<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

HOWEVER<\/strong>, I have angrily blown up at least 6 times in the last month (that I can think of), and I feel as if I don’t get this handled it is going to destroy my life.<\/p>\n

All my life I have suppressed my anger and all that leads to is depression. I feel I need more than talk therapy. I need some way of releasing the anger in a healthy way as opposed to blowing up or suppressing it.<\/p>\n

Is this something you can help me with?<\/p>\n

Thanks<\/p>\n

– Stewart<\/p>\n

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CARLOS ANSWERS<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

Hey, Stewart…<\/p>\n

I’ll confess that we’re probably bridging outside of both my expertise and the scope of the academy on this one. \ud83d\ude42 \u00a0Though, I do know what you’re talking about.<\/p>\n

Angry outbursts are simply par for the course of being a man. But it cannot continue to the detriment of your relationships, etc. Sometimes this is a natural by product of reconnecting with your masculinity.<\/p>\n

I definitely don’t believe in suppression. The answer is in REDIRECTION<\/strong>. Take the same energy and channel it – like letting off the proverbial steam.<\/p>\n

My initial suggestion is pretty simple: Martial Arts<\/strong> training. Or even boxing or kickboxing classes.<\/p>\n

Let the steam out through physical exertion. You’re never too old to do that. (Of course, please consult a physician to get clearance.)<\/p>\n

Having a channel to divert your “explosive<\/em>” energy through is always a good idea. As is practicing some cognitive therapy tools that help you “talk yourself down” from those moments.<\/p>\n

The old “count to ten” trick is actually very sound. As is removing yourself from the situation when you feel the temper beginning to peak.<\/p>\n

Try those to begin with, but please heed my first recommendation. A man who isn’t venting his physical energy through some kind of exercise is going to find that it haunts him in other ways.<\/p>\n

Best of luck – and glad to have you in the Alpha Attraction Academy!<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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