{"id":529,"date":"2013-10-14T19:46:41","date_gmt":"2013-10-14T19:46:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=529"},"modified":"2013-10-14T19:46:41","modified_gmt":"2013-10-14T19:46:41","slug":"raise-your-standards","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/raise-your-standards\/","title":{"rendered":"Raise Your Standards"},"content":{"rendered":"

QUESTION FROM A READER:<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’ve been teasing, doing the dance, and being a little naughty. I’m also mysterious<\/strong>. I use everything you’ve written
\nabout. The thing is that I’m a very good looking guy and my humor may spice things up for the girl, but it’s getting
\nboring<\/strong> for me.<\/p>\n

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I’m naturally funny, charismatic, and charming. I can’t seem to communicate to a girl<\/strong> without being turned off by how\u00a0excited they are and the uninteresting conversations I have out of feeling bad for their stupidity that comes out from\u00a0their self-doubt and excitement. They start moving real fast and fidgeting around me, yet they want to keep talking to\u00a0me and finding out about me.<\/p>\n

I feel like my looks put girls in awe, because they just stare at me like hawks<\/strong>. I’ve been getting secret admirer
\nemails and phone calls, saying “you seem to be a very nice person and I wish I could get to know you better.” Maybe
\nthat’ll give you a good picture. What do I do?<\/strong> Please reply, as this is probably my most important email. I feel kind of\u00a0stuck.<\/p>\n

Thanks man,<\/p>\n

K<\/p>\n

“”””””””””””””””
\nCARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Huh.<\/p>\n

Wow.<\/p>\n

So you have women that are attracted to you… You’re gaming them just fine…<\/p>\n

And now you’re bored…<\/p>\n

While every guy out there lights a candle and prays for you, I’m going to tell you that maybe it’s time to – RAISE YOUR STANDARDS!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You’re obviously working on women that do not challenge you. I’ve found that this is often a problem for guys that get
\nthis stuff down after one of my ebooks or the Alpha Man course, and then they get that empty feeling inside.<\/p>\n

The cry out to the heavens “Is this all there is? Is there no more???”<\/p>\n

What an existential crisis they must be going through.<\/p>\n

\"index\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Here’s a prescription<\/strong> for you, and I think it will help you get through your crisis of faith here:<\/p>\n

1) Realize that most women aren’t very challenging<\/strong> once you’ve got your shit together. You see through their canned acts\u00a0and tests and it’s easier to start being the man you always suspected you were. No need to supplicate or worship them.\u00a0Just be the Alpha and take the lead.<\/p>\n

2) Move up<\/strong> to a higher class woman. Find a rich chick with DD implants and lots of disposable income, as well as a yacht\u00a0and a Lear jet. Call her your sugar mama. Then send me a monthly support check.<\/p>\n

3) Get plastic surgery and make yourself real plain looking so you can feel that electric thrill of attracting women
\nagain with a challenge to overcome. Seriously, stop crying to me that you get all the women you want because you won the\u00a0genetic lottery and learned how to attract women from my books. (You aren’t 100% “natural.” \ud83d\ude42 Don’t identify with your\u00a0looks<\/strong>, because one day they won’t do you anything and you’ll have to stand on quality of character and ability. That’s\u00a0where you can really shine, if you want.<\/p>\n

5) Start deciding what it is you want out of life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That last one – #5 – I am dead serious about.<\/p>\n

Inevitably when guys set their sights on winning women over, and then they learn how the game goes, and they get some\u00a0easy success. They start to sabotage themselves.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

Because they thought this was THE<\/strong> ultimate goal. To attract women and get laid. And when that gets easy, they start to\u00a0lose faith and motivation.<\/p>\n

You see women inspire men to dare to accomplish great things.<\/p>\n

And when they realize it means we don’t worship them anymore, they try to distract us from finishing them.<\/p>\n

I’m kidding… sorta.<\/p>\n

What you have to do is find a noble goal that will challenge you,<\/strong> besides women.<\/p>\n

If you set that as your primary achievement in life, you’ll always be disappointed.<\/p>\n

Trust me.<\/p>\n

Love them, lead them, make them happy they’ve got you, but don’t make them your be-all end-all.<\/p>\n

Even women don’t want that.<\/p>\n

Stay Alpha,
\n– Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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