{"id":59,"date":"2012-04-19T08:25:19","date_gmt":"2012-04-19T08:25:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=59"},"modified":"2012-06-05T06:39:20","modified_gmt":"2012-06-05T06:39:20","slug":"how-to-call-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/how-to-call-her\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Call Her"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There are some basic, simple, general rules for calling a woman.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, I always recommend that a guy wait at least 48 hours before he dials that number for the first time (after he gets it). In addition, there are rules to deal with situations with a woman flaking on you.<\/p>\n<p>This happens a lot more than you might think&gt; It\u2019s all part of the dating game. But if you want to smoothly navigate the dating pool and know how to handle some of the sharks. The first step is memorizing how to react to different scenarios where she isn\u2019t living up to your expectations.<\/p>\n<h2>How To Call Her Scenarios:<a href=\"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/How-to-Call-Her.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright  wp-image-201\" title=\"How to Call Her\" src=\"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/How-to-Call-Her-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"240\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/How-to-Call-Her-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/How-to-Call-Her-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/How-to-Call-Her.jpg 561w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><\/a><\/h2>\n<p><strong>1: If She Flakes.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In this scenario, she calls you to cancel a date. First off, you must assume that she\u2019s not interested in you enough. That is a cold, hard fact. If she liked you, she would have moved mountains to be there.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. If she left a message for you cancelling:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Call her back immediately to confront her about her flakiness. Here\u2019s what you say: \u201cDanielle. I didn\u2019t think you were flaky when we met. I\u2019m going to assume you aren\u2019t a flake and give you another chance to get together because I think we would look really cute on a date.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You are doing two things here, you are saying this is her last chance, and you are adding a dose of humor to show that you aren\u2019t bent out of shape about her flaking, but that you won\u2019t tolerate it happening again.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. If she calls to cancel but does not apologize or suggest an alternate time to get together.<\/strong> In this scenario, she gets no second chances. Game over. She lost. But you still want to maintain your dignity, so here\u2019s what you say:<\/p>\n<p>* \u201cSorry it didn\u2019t work out. Maybe some other time.\u201d Then hang up. There will be no other time. Let it go.<\/p>\n<p>Then hang up.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. If she doesn\u2019t even call to cancel and then doesn\u2019t show up at the place when and where you are supposed to meet.<\/strong> If she never calls to apologize, you actually aren\u2019t going to call her at all (a bit of a trick question). What you are going to do is take her phone number, wad it up into a little ball, and throw it in the trash bin.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s because her failure to call you and cancel and her not making the appointment and not even calling to explain is hugely disrespectful. I say run away. But I also realize not every guy is going to do this, so I reluctantly offer one last option:<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. <em>How to call her<\/em> when she has flaked and never calls to explain:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Call her the next day and say this:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDanielle, I\u2019m so sorry I didn\u2019t make our meeting yesterday. Things just got crazy busy and I lost track of time.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If she has answered the phone, you can wait to see how she responds. If you are leaving a message, then add: \u201cLet\u2019s reschedule. Call me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then, once again, the ball is in her court. If she never calls, you got your answer.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are some basic, simple, general rules for calling a woman. 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