{"id":594,"date":"2013-12-17T16:40:54","date_gmt":"2013-12-17T16:40:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=594"},"modified":"2013-12-17T16:42:40","modified_gmt":"2013-12-17T16:42:40","slug":"confidence-part-9-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/confidence-part-9-forgiveness\/","title":{"rendered":"Confidence: Part 9 &#8211; Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Hey, it&#8217;s Carlos &#8211; I&#8217;ve got a guest article from my good buddy Spike today&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Read on&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">________________<\/p>\n<p>Why do you not have the level of success with women that you want right now? You go out, make approaches, open sets, and use all the right lines. You have the right body language, know just the right amount of eye contact to hold, and you generally feel pretty damn good about yourself. So why are you not swimming in women? Well, to be perfectly candid, who cares!?!<\/p>\n<p>That is the wrong way to look at it. Consider this, you have done all those things I just stated and you may have done them well. You have had some success for certain. You may not have the level that you believe you deserve, but you have a lot of knowledge that you didn\u2019t have before you started this quest.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/alphamale\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4165 aligncenter\" alt=\"images\" src=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/images.jpg\" width=\"289\" height=\"174\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The fact that you understand terms like approach, sarge, open sets, kino, etc. shows that you are most definitely on the right track. But for some of you, there is still something hampering your success. It is possible that forgiveness may be holding you back.<\/p>\n<p>Let me explain what I mean. Many books talk all about you forgiving others. You must move past, or send love out to those who wronged you, etc. Whether you agree with those or not, that is not what I am talking about. I am focusing on you <em>forgiving yourself. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>How many times have you replayed in your mind something that has happened in your past? Maybe you had a divorce, a bad break up, or just messed up with a woman you really liked. Hell, I\u2019ve done all of those and more.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/alphamale\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4167 aligncenter\" alt=\"2images\" src=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/2images1.jpg\" width=\"240\" height=\"210\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t change what happened, no matter how hard you try. The past is gone. Period. Sure, someone may have wronged you, but what\u2019s more important is that you have to find a way to forgive yourself for your failures.<\/p>\n<p>Yet so many of us hold on to the past and allow it to hamper our future. If you carry past hurts with you into the dating field, it is like holding a sign that says \u201cbroken\u201d above your head. Oddly enough, that can be an attractor for those ladies who feel the need to \u201cfix\u201d you, but it will not be long lasting nor fulfilling.<\/p>\n<p>When you made decisions in those past scenarios, you did so with the best knowledge available to you at the time. You know more now, do you not? Of course you do, because you learned from those situations.<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Confidence: Part 9 \u2013 Forgiveness\" href=\"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/miscellaneous-dating-tips-for-guys\/confidence-part-9-forgiveness\/2\"><strong>Read the rest of the article HERE&#8230;<\/strong><\/a> <!--nextpage-->The problem is that we replay those moments in our head with the new knowledge we have attained since that time. We forget that we did not have that knowledge then. And for that, we must forgive ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>We may have to forgive others for something as well. But I am not one of those that believes we must blindly forgive those who have wronged us terribly. That is a whole other topic!<\/p>\n<p>What we can do, is forgive ourselves for the possibility that we may have caused or contributed to the bad things that happened to us, due to our ignorance of pick up, relationship success, or simply not being a strong MAN.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/alphamale\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4168 aligncenter\" alt=\"3images\" src=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/3images.jpg\" width=\"275\" height=\"183\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>When bad things happen, do we let them destroy us, or do we learn from them, strengthen ourselves, and go find a sexier, hotter, and more amazing woman? I hope you do the latter. Forgiving yourself for past mistakes is a very positive step toward doing just that.<\/p>\n<p>Once you remove the stigma of your own past, you can clear the way toward your awesome future. So no matter what has happened in your past, tomorrow really is a new day. I am living proof that it can happen.<\/p>\n<p>It was not easy to realize how much I was standing in my own way, but once I truly forgave myself for my past and committed to learning from those mistakes, my future brightened considerably.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/attractwomen.com\/7words-craving\/stealthsexualattraction.php\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3640 aligncenter\" alt=\"Cure - 300 x 250 px - 1\" src=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/Cure-300-x-250-px-1.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"250\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>So next time you are reliving some bad memory, asking yourself why you did or did not do something, remember that you are looking at it with smarter eyes this time. You know far more than you did then. Forgive yourself for your prior ignorance.<\/p>\n<p>Learn the lesson, promise yourself that you will always do your best, and thus remove that big ole neon \u201cbroken\u201d sign from above your head. 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