{"id":796,"date":"2014-10-13T10:03:15","date_gmt":"2014-10-13T10:03:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=796"},"modified":"2014-10-16T16:34:50","modified_gmt":"2014-10-16T16:34:50","slug":"stop-getting-on-womens-nerves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/confidence-with-women\/stop-getting-on-womens-nerves\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Getting On Women\u2019s Nerves"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019ve been talking to my female friends and clients lately, and I\u2019ve been getting common feedback about the stuff that annoys them about guys. The thing is that it isn\u2019t rocket science, but it\u2019s surprising how many guys still don\u2019t have a grip on this basic stuff.<\/p>\n

Let me clue you in on some behaviors that a lot of men are sadly oblivious about \u2013 it\u2019s better to know about them now and save yourself some grief tomorrow:<\/p>\n

#1: Assuming You Know What She\u2019s About<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThis one guy I dated ordered dinner for me,\u201d says my friend Kate. \u201cIt was really annoying that he just assumed he knew what I liked on our first date without even asking me first,\u201d she continued.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately for that guy, Kate never went out with him again. I totally get that you want to come off as confident, but you should tread lightly if you don\u2019t know that much about her yet.<\/p>\n

First dates in particular are a good chance to get to know her better so that you can do something really cool for her on the next date. Think of it as \u201cgathering intel\u201d for a well-placed surgical strike in the form of concert tickets to her favorite band, for instance.<\/p>\n

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#2: Making Fun of Her (Too Much, That Is)<\/strong><\/p>\n

Beth, a client of mine, told me about an annoying guy she met through a mutual friend. \u201cWe were actually getting along at first, but then he started teasing me about liking Sex and the City, and not in a good way,\u201d she told me.<\/p>\n

Yeah\u2026Sex and the City. Enough said.<\/p>\n

I feel where that guy was coming from, but just because you\u2019re not into the stuff she likes, it doesn\u2019t mean you have to be mean about it. That goes double for cruel jokes about her weight, appearance and anything too personal.<\/p>\n

A little harmless teasing is fine \u2013 and even recommended for heightening the sexual tension \u2013 but respect her boundaries. If you piss her off with a miscalculated joke, you can still save face though.<\/p>\n

Just tell her, \u201cHey, I didn\u2019t mean to cross the line, but now that I know where it is, it won\u2019t happen again. I sincerely apologize for that.\u201d<\/p>\n

#3: Trying Too Hard to Impress Her<\/strong><\/p>\n

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So you pull in a hefty paycheck and your car is the object of your friends\u2019 envy. But don\u2019t think that material abundance automatically equals high social value.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t make it about the stuff you own. It will impress women who are just after your wallet, but not those who you really want to date (unless you\u2019re fine with being a meal ticket).<\/p>\n

Focus on demonstrating leadership qualities like decisiveness, staying cool under pressure and being emotionally intelligent. Those traits are worth more than any amount of bling on you.<\/p>\n

#4: Treating Her Like Your Shrink<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe you got burned in your last relationship or you got bullied as a kid in school. Everyone has crap to deal with, but now is not the time to lay on the heavy stuff.<\/p>\n

Susan, a friend of mine, said she was freaked out when the guy she dated committed this no-no. \u201cThere we were, having a good time over our coffee when we went into the topic of ex-partners,\u201d she said with a grimace, \u201cthen everything went downhill from there.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt was like opening a floodgate\u2026he was visibly upset and his rant went on different tangents like his messed up childhood and commitment issues.\u201d<\/p>\n

Needless to say, she wanted to get up and run as far away as possible.<\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t be this guy. Wait until you\u2019ve gained a little traction with her first, then you can get into those issues little by little.<\/p>\n

She\u2019s more likely to fall for you if you\u2019re discreet at first, then make her feel that she\u2019s earned the privilege to see your vulnerable side when the time is right.<\/p>\n

Hey, none of us are perfect, but a little self-awareness never hurt a guy. If you find yourself slipping into these behaviors, all you need to do is make a mental note and hit the brakes.<\/p>\n

By the way, there\u2019s another problem you need to be aware about, and it\u2019s called T-Bleed. Annoying behaviors are one thing, but losing your testosterone is a whole other pitfall (which is what T-Bleed does).<\/p>\n

Like stuff that gets on women\u2019s nerves, knowing about it is the first step to prevention. Get educated by going here.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Stay Alpha…<\/div>\n
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– Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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