{"id":830,"date":"2014-11-11T16:35:30","date_gmt":"2014-11-11T16:35:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=830"},"modified":"2014-11-11T16:35:30","modified_gmt":"2014-11-11T16:35:30","slug":"stop-lying-to-yourself-about-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/how-to-attract-women\/stop-lying-to-yourself-about-women\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Lying to Yourself About Women"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the best ways to sabotage your dating life is by operating under false beliefs.<\/p>\n<p>I see it all the time with a lot of men who let their assumptions get in the way of approaching women.<\/p>\n<p>For example, some guys are too hung up over the physical aspect of attraction. And in turn, they think that they need to look like a model or celebrity just to attract women.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying it doesn\u2019t help to catch a woman\u2019s interest, but looking good only gets your foot in the door.<\/p>\n<p>In reality, you\u2019ll need more than good genetics to make her think of you as a potential lover.<\/p>\n<p>(By the way, this is different from having good style, which any man should have regardless of the mug he was born with.)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/alphasexualpower\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-4897 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/player_crop_640x300_8140-300x140.jpg\" alt=\"player_crop_640x300_8140\" width=\"300\" height=\"140\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Instead of obsessing over your looks, you should focus on cultivating the social skills you need to really connect with women.<\/p>\n<p>If you look nice but you\u2019re boring as paint drying on a wall, you won\u2019t stimulate her emotionally.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s the key to everything: stirring her feelings in such a way that she has NO CHOICE but to FEEL attracted to you.<\/p>\n<p>So rather than feeling like crap because you don\u2019t look like a movie star, you need to go beyond crafting the perfect pickup line.<\/p>\n<p>Once you\u2019ve got the ball rolling, it\u2019s pretty much up to you to keep things moving along.<\/p>\n<p>And that brings us to another FALSE belief, which is:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI\u2019ve done my part, now she should do hers.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Hey, that sounds good in theory, but that\u2019s not how the real world works. In actuality, you\u2019ll need to project that masculine energy by \u201ctaking charge\u201d of the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t mean bum rushing her with a non-stop barrage of pre-rehearsed routines and not letting her talk.<\/p>\n<p>All I\u2019m saying is since you started the conversation, you need to make sure the energy level of the conversation never goes down. If not, she\u2019ll get bored and shut you down.<\/p>\n<div tabindex=\"-1\">\n<div id=\":t8\">\n<div>\n<p>Let me give a couple of quick tips to pull this off:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Your body language should match your energy level. Pay attention to your gestures and voice when making a point. The same goes for your face; the more expressive you are, the more enthusiasm you project. Find the right balance between positive energy and a relaxed vibe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Don\u2019t be afraid to jump from topic to topic. A good way to keep the conversation flowing is by introducing different subjects. When you feel that you\u2019re about to hit a dead end, shift gears and go back to other stuff you talked about earlier. Lather, rinse, repeat.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Then there are men who think that they need to plan every single detail before talking to a woman. There\u2019s an imaginary flowchart in their heads to \u201cprepare\u201d them for every possible outcome.<\/p>\n<p>Good luck with that.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, it\u2019s good to have a few stories in your routine so you can use them when the moment calls for it. But tripping over yourself from trying to anticipate what she\u2019ll say next is a sure-fire recipe for awkwardness.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not attractive to get stuck in your own thoughts and analyze every word that comes out of your mouth. You\u2019ll look aloof and inattentive, which doesn\u2019t do anything for her emotionally.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/alphasexualpower\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4409 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/aspnew-300x250.jpg\" alt=\"aspnew-300x250\" width=\"300\" height=\"250\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Pay attention to what\u2019s in front of you and use the present moment to go with the flow. A little spontaneity never killed a guy!<\/p>\n<p>At this point, I hope I\u2019ve helped you re-evaluate some of your beliefs about attraction. After all, mindset is everything when you\u2019re taking the first step in approaching a woman.<\/p>\n<p>And here\u2019s something else you should be thinking about: men are at risk of losing their testosterone by a certain age.<\/p>\n<p>This loss is directly linked to a man\u2019s ability to attract women. In fact, it makes a guy practically \u201csterile\u201d no matter how good he is at making conversation.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomen.com\/alphasexualpower\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>You can protect yourself from this by learning how to boost your Alpha Sexual Power. Click here to get started.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\":uj\">\n<div>Stay Alpha&#8230;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\n<div><strong>&#8211; Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/div>\n<div><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"> ______<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the best ways to sabotage your dating life is by operating under false beliefs. 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