{"id":833,"date":"2014-11-11T16:40:10","date_gmt":"2014-11-11T16:40:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=833"},"modified":"2014-11-11T16:40:10","modified_gmt":"2014-11-11T16:40:10","slug":"the-non-b-s-guide-to-being-a-quality-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/how-to-attract-women\/the-non-b-s-guide-to-being-a-quality-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"The Non-B.S. Guide to Being a Quality Guy"},"content":{"rendered":"

Any man who\u2019s been near the world of dating advice has heard of the old don\u2019t-buy-her-a-drink clich\u00e9 countless times \u2013 and for good reason.<\/p>\n

Getting a drink for a stranger isn\u2019t just about \u201cgiving up your power\u201d to the opposite sex and making you needy.<\/p>\n

There are other deeper implications that go with this kind of supplicating behavior that makes a guy unattractive.<\/p>\n

First off, that drink you offered her is often is seen as the price of admission for her company. And frankly, that\u2019s not the best place to start a potential relationship.<\/p>\n

On some level, it\u2019s telling her that she needs to do something for you because you did her a favor.<\/p>\n

As far as healthy, social interaction goes, this is NOT how to go about it.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s much more attractive to walk up to a girl simply because you wanted to have fun chatting with her, regardless of whether she likes you or not.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that kind of detachment (i.e. not wanting anything from her, just enjoying the experience) that actually boosts your social value.<\/p>\n

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Here\u2019s another trope that\u2019s well-worn, but nevertheless true: Never tell a woman how hot she is.<\/p>\n

Opening a conversation with anything that revolves around her amazing looks is likely to be met with suspicion. Like with the no-drink rule, the point is to avoid giving off that \u201cI want something from you\u201d vibe that makes women uncomfortable.<\/p>\n

If her physicality is the only thing that mattered to you, how would think she\u2019d feel? Not great, I can assure you.<\/p>\n

Women don\u2019t like feeling they\u2019re just eye candy on display. The best way to go about approaching an attractive woman is acknowledging her as a living, breathing individual – quirks and all.<\/p>\n

Beauty is dime a dozen; pointing out the obvious to a woman isn\u2019t good conversational material.<\/p>\n

Noticing something that sets her apart from other women? That gives her a real sense of validation, and not just the superficial attention that beauty attracts.<\/p>\n

So, neediness is out. Letting a woman know how awesome she is because of her quirkiness is in.<\/p>\n

Instead on focusing on her figure, use that energy to make her laugh. Find out where her funny bone lies.<\/p>\n

And this attitude tells her, \u201cHey, this guy knows I exist! He\u2019s interested in who I am, and not just because he thinks I\u2019m eye candy.\u201d<\/p>\n

Granted that it takes a bit of a delicate touch to find out where the boundaries of humor lie, here are some basic points to bear in mind:<\/p>\n