{"id":853,"date":"2014-12-01T16:57:57","date_gmt":"2014-12-01T16:57:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=853"},"modified":"2014-12-01T16:57:57","modified_gmt":"2014-12-01T16:57:57","slug":"the-one-thing-you-shouldnt-change-about-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/how-to-attract-women\/the-one-thing-you-shouldnt-change-about-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"The ONE thing you shouldn\u2019t change about yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

I often talk to guys who don\u2019t seem to find the happiness they really want from women.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not rare to see these men dating women they\u2019re not absolutely into – while waiting for \u201cThat Girl\u201d they\u2019re really dreaming about.<\/p>\n

All I have to say to these guys is, \u201cDon\u2019t hold your breath, pal.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

The fact is that this dream woman won\u2019t just magically appear without doing what it really takes.<\/p>\n

And so, you\u2019re doomed to have a \u201clather, rinse, repeat\u201d kind of dating life if you\u2019re unwilling to embrace a simple truth.<\/p>\n

And that truth is: Women like guys who act like REAL MEN.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Not some spineless, submissive shell of a person, but an actual MAN who\u2019s not afraid of his masculinity.<\/p>\n

Time and time again, you\u2019ll run into these guys who \u201crespect\u201d women so much that they completely stay away from them. This type of guy thinks that showing the slightest hint of attraction or creating sexual tension is somehow unhealthy.<\/p>\n

But this couldn\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

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Any guy \u2013 or any person with a brain stem for that matter \u2013 is hardwired to be attracted to attractive people. Simple as that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you want to get a girl you really want, you have to be willing to take that leap of faith to approach a lady AND drop hints – along with some sexual intrigue.<\/p>\n

Note that dropping hints doesn\u2019t mean \u201ccomplimenting\u201d certain parts of her body or being a creep. What I\u2019m saying is that you should grow a pair and talk to a girl, tease her in a fun, non-threatening way and loosen up around them.<\/p>\n

If you try to change that part of yourself that drives you to seek potential partners and romantic relationships (a.k.a. Being a Man), then you\u2019re just going to give off a weird \u201clet\u2019s-be-platonic-friends-so-we\u2019ll-be-lovers-later-on\u201d kind of vibe.<\/p>\n

Dating just doesn\u2019t work that way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Case in point: Men who get trapped in the friend zone bring it on themselves because they\u2019re trying to \u201cslip under the radar\u201d by eliminating any hint that he might be attracted to a woman.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t waste your time trying to be her shoulder to cry on when her boyfriend\u2019s being a jerk, act like a Sensitive New Age Guy to get in her good graces, or go shopping with her like you\u2019re one of her girlfriends.<\/p>\n

Hey, if you truly want to be friends with a certain girl with no intentions of dating her, that\u2019s perfectly fine.<\/p>\n

However, if you are interested in her romantically, then putting on this act will not get you anything aside from a LJBF relationship.<\/p>\n

More importantly, DON\u2019T try to change or hide the fact you are indeed, a guy with sexual desires. You don\u2019t have to hit her over the head with this fact, but you don\u2019t have to hide it, either.<\/p>\n

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Instead, find that happy balance between being friendly and respectful while creating some romantic tension.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say you approached a woman in a train, made a funny comment about a weird passenger to start a conversation, then complimented her cool T-shirt.<\/p>\n

Regardless of how she responds, part of her knows that you\u2019re attracted to her \u2013 you approached her after all!<\/p>\n

And there\u2019s nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n

So keep it real, stay true to yourself and go get \u2018em.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But if you want to have that unfair advantage over other guys, you better make sure your \u201cmasculine core\u201d is running at FULL capacity.<\/p>\n

It has to do with your testosterone levels \u2013 and making it sure it NEVER drops.<\/p>\n

My online course \u201cAlpha Sexual Power\u201d is the best way to do this, and you can check it out here.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Stay Alpha,<\/p>\n

– Carlos Xuma<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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