{"id":876,"date":"2015-02-16T17:33:59","date_gmt":"2015-02-16T17:33:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/?p=876"},"modified":"2015-02-16T17:38:09","modified_gmt":"2015-02-16T17:38:09","slug":"heres-a-better-way-to-figure-out-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carlosxuma.com\/newsstand\/how-to-attract-women\/heres-a-better-way-to-figure-out-women\/","title":{"rendered":"Here\u2019s a better way to figure out women"},"content":{"rendered":"

I think most guys wish they were psychic. If you could read a girl\u2019s thoughts like a book, you\u2019d probably save yourself a heap of trouble.<\/p>\n

Think about how easy it would be to plan your next move if you already knew what was going on in her head. You\u2019d know where you stood with her, and you wouldn\u2019t risk saying or doing the wrong thing.<\/p>\n

However, having the ability to read women doesn\u2019t have to be a fantasy. There is, in fact, a way to decipher a girl\u2019s words and actions without looking into a crystal ball.<\/p>\n

To unlock the \u201csecret code\u201d to her mind, all you need to do is focus on a few key areas:<\/p>\n

#1: Observe Her Behavior<\/strong><\/p>\n

One of the basic things I teach men is to shut off that inner monologue that they tend to have when they\u2019re with a girl. Some guys are so busy thinking about the outcome of the situation that they miss out on the important details.<\/p>\n

For example, one guy I know used to ask himself stuff like, \u201cWill she be open to a second date?\u201d or \u201cI hope she doesn\u2019t think my outfit is lame\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

I get it that guys new to dating tend to get jittery and think about these things. But when you think about it, it\u2019s just a nervous tic that doesn\u2019t help your inner game at all.<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s why there\u2019s really no point in paying attention to that noise in your head. To keep out those distracting thoughts, focus on HER instead \u2013 it\u2019ll help you figure out her motives much easier.<\/p>\n

For instance, consider her actions \u2013 is she consistent, or does she tend to flake out from time to time?<\/p>\n

A lot of guys I\u2019ve helped often complained that the girl they were dating would be sweet one minute, then cold and aloof the next. If you\u2019ve found yourself in the same situation, you\u2019re probably familiar with this frustrating uncertainty.<\/p>\n

Also, ask yourself: is she going out of her way to see you or talk to you?<\/p>\n

A client of mine was having trouble with a girl who would be available on a given week, then seemed to fall off the grid on other days. Just when he thought he was making headway, she\u2019d had have all sorts of reasons not to see him.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t waste too much of your energy trying to analyze the situation if you keep going back to square one with a certain girl. You might think that she\u2019s complicated, but her behavior is sending a clear message.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s safe to say she\u2019s not interested in anything long-term with you. But don\u2019t take it personally \u2013 it just means you haven\u2019t found the best match for you yet, so keep looking.<\/p>\n

#2: Observe Her When She\u2019s With You<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another good way to read her is to check out her body \u2013 literally.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t mean ogling her, but rather listen to what her gestures and other movements are telling you. There\u2019s a wealth of information behind what she doesn\u2019t say out loud.<\/p>\n

In fact, what she does with her body is the most honest form of communication. Pay attention to the following:<\/p>\n