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<\/a><\/p>\nWhen it comes to getting laid, guys want the step-by-step<\/strong> blueprint to go from talking to her to getting her to come home with him.<\/p>\n And we don’t want the douchebag<\/span> method either. You’ve probably seen articles where a douchey looking guy tells you he can get you laid.<\/p>\n Usually after he’s yelled “YO! Player! F***!” at you with his badly shaved face<\/strong> and haircut. Oh, and he’ll usually have a really ridiculous<\/em> tattoo.<\/p>\n So let’s tackle the big elephant<\/strong> in the room right off the bat…<\/p>\n Here’s the deal: A lot of guys will deny<\/span> they want to get laid.<\/p>\n Mostly NICE GUYS<\/strong>.<\/p>\n I should know – I did this all the time<\/em>.<\/p>\n I repressed<\/strong> my natural male sex drive when I was with women, denying<\/strong> to them (and myself) that I really wanted to have sex.<\/p>\n But after I realized that I was just fooling myself, that I was hiding my sexual needs in an attempt to appear more “politically correct<\/strong>,” I dropped<\/span> that act.<\/p>\n I also realized that I acted like that in a desperate<\/strong> hope to appeal to what women seemed<\/em> to want.<\/p>\n What I didn’t realize is that women SAY<\/strong> one thing and do another – and the only way to figure out how to get laid was to watch and see what REALLY<\/strong> worked with women.<\/p>\n So let’s jump right in with…<\/p>\n Now, I know you’re going to think, “Carlos- does that mean I have<\/strong> to be hot to get women???”<\/p>\n NO. It does not<\/strong><\/span> mean you have to look like an underwear model or movie star.<\/p>\n Here are some things that will lower<\/span> your attractiveness:<\/p>\n Yeah, wearing fluffy slippers and pajamas to parties might seem like an innovative way to get attention, but it’s not<\/em> the way you want to go.<\/p>\n Just get a decent pair of shoes, some fitted jeans, a nice shirt, and maybe a fashionable jacket.<\/p>\n That’s timeless and always looks good. Even<\/em> with freakin’ jeans!<\/p>\n Some guys like their lumberjack hipster beards. I get it.<\/p>\n But which is more important – YOU liking your clever beard, or HER liking it<\/strong>?<\/p>\n I’m sure there are some “gurus” out there that would tell you that you need to like yourself<\/strong> first – and sure, that’s true – but not completely<\/em> accurate.<\/p>\n As the saying goes, do what works<\/strong> – not what you want to do.<\/p>\n And I’ll tell you right off the bat that those long scruffy beards are about as attractive to a woman as bathing in a septic tank<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Some other grooming areas are your fingernails and toenails, your haircut, your skin.<\/p>\n Yes, this kinda goes without saying: You need to smell good.<\/p>\n Smell is a primal trigger<\/strong> in human beings, and unless you smell good – you smell bad by default.<\/p>\n I’m not saying you have to soak yourself in $200 cologne every night, but make sure<\/span> you’re taking care of the essentials<\/strong>:<\/p>\n 1) A little<\/em> cologne or a tasteful aftershave. Get a woman to give you her opinion on which\u00a0scents turn her on<\/strong>.<\/p>\n 2) Underarms\/Body – make sure you don’t smell like you’ve been working in a hot, greasy kitchen all day. Even if<\/strong> you do work in a kitchen.<\/p>\n 3) Oh, and don’t forget your teeth<\/strong> and breath<\/strong>. Keep good oral hygiene<\/span>.<\/p>\n Let’s move on to another sensitive topic:<\/p>\n It’s funny how often<\/strong> money comes up on a date. If you want to buy her a drink – costs money.<\/p>\n If you want to buy her food – more money<\/em>.<\/p>\n Take a cab? Money<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n Get in that club? Money<\/strong><\/span>.<\/p>\n A lot of guys put them in situations where they have to spend money they don’t have<\/strong>, then they feel resentful of her when he has to part with his hard earned cash.<\/p>\n Instead, avoid those situations, and try to keep it to your budget<\/strong><\/em> so:<\/p>\n 1) You don’t have to feel like a Scrooge<\/em><\/p>\n 2) She doesn’t have to think you’re a cheapskate<\/strong><\/p>\n 3) You don’t have to feel wallet-raped<\/strong> every time you go on a date with a girl<\/p>\n Just don’t make yourself LOOK like you’re trying to avoid spending money like a cheap bastard<\/strong>. Even if that’s<\/em> what you are. (Hell, I am.)<\/p>\n Don’t ask a girl to meet you at the bookstore<\/strong> at 9:00 on a Saturday night. That’s going to look ridiculous<\/span>.<\/p>\n Instead, find a funky little dive bar that’s fun. Call it your hang-out, and ask her to meet you there for drinks.<\/p>\n Keep it on a budget without<\/strong><\/em> looking like a miser.<\/p>\n This is an obvious fact: The nicer you are, the less<\/em> chance you\u2019ll have with a girl.<\/p>\n Of course, if you\u2019re a complete dick, you\u2019ll also<\/strong> ruin your chances with a girl.<\/p>\n It’s a balancing act<\/em>, and it’s the key to getting a woman to really want to get you into bed. No B.S.<\/strong><\/p>\n This one took me forever<\/em> to grasp, but once I did, it made a HUGE difference in how well I did with women.<\/p>\n I used to be that guy who would refuse<\/strong> to dance at clubs on general principle. I would stubbornly hold my beer close to my chest, my other hand in my pocket, trying<\/em> to look cool.<\/p>\n I’d turn my nose up in scorn at the guys that were out there, because I was so much cooler<\/strong> than them.<\/p>\n Actually, I was really just being a self-righteous turd<\/strong>.<\/p>\n And I wasn’t admitting the most important part of why I was REALLY not going out to dance:<\/p>\n And I was also just not comfortable<\/span> with myself when it came right down to it. So my refusal to dance was a statement of ME more than a condemnation of others, when it comes right down to it.<\/p>\n We tend to hate the things in others that highlight the fault in ourselves.<\/p>\n It’s not just advice on getting laid, it’s a great philosophy of life – like, “Smell the roses.”<\/p>\n There’s no lack of talent you could have on the dancefloor that I couldn’t completely blow away with my own<\/span> goofy moves, trust me. And definitely nothing you couldn’t get a few lessons<\/strong> on and be right as rain.<\/p>\n Look, I get how it can be for awkward guys. I used to be<\/strong><\/em> one of them.<\/p>\n I’m not<\/strong> being self-deprecating here to make you like me…I really sucked<\/em> at talking to people when I was in my 20s.<\/p>\n Part of my narcissism<\/strong> and my own dumbass lack of self confidence<\/strong>, but I didn’t understand even the basics of talking to people, such as:<\/p>\n – Ask questions<\/strong>. People want to know you have an interest in them.<\/p>\n – Listen<\/strong> to what they have to say to you when they answer your questions.<\/p>\n I never fully realized<\/strong> how important listening was until<\/em> I had a girlfriend who never even pretended to be interested in me. It was the most lonely<\/em> I’ve ever been in a relationship.<\/p>\n I realized just how isolating it feels to have someone that’s supposed to care about you – and even<\/em> SAID she cared about me – not<\/span> give me the slightest hint<\/strong> that she really did.<\/p>\n I fell into a depression, thinking there was something wrong<\/strong> with me. Then I got mad<\/strong> at our relationship.<\/p>\n I was disillusioned<\/span> about having a girlfriend at all.<\/p>\n Sure I was getting laid, but it was hollow<\/strong> and dehumanizing<\/strong> to bang this girl and feel like she didn’t even register that I was there.<\/p>\n Listening is the easiest<\/span> thing in the world to do… and it seems to be the hardest, if you watch most conversations today.<\/p>\n People really do think listening is just waiting<\/strong> for your turn to speak.<\/p>\n The real secret to listening well is to not have to “prove yourself<\/strong>” to her in conversation.<\/p>\n Look, hate to tell you this, but even if everything she’s talking about is boring you<\/strong> to tears, you still<\/em> have to find a way to hear her<\/strong>.<\/p>\n I make it a point to dig in and find something really intimate<\/strong> out about someone – especially if their conversation is a little on the dull side. It gives me something to do and keeps me challenged<\/strong>.<\/p>\n But most people do have something interesting<\/span> going on, if only<\/em> we open our ears to hear it.<\/p>\n It’s also not about deceiving her so you can sneak your way into bed with her either.<\/p>\n Strangely enough, this is something that most men<\/strong> can’t pull off – which is why there are so many guys out there not getting laid<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n There’s an attitude that gets guys laid like crazy. It’s an attitude that women look for when they decide if they’re going to sleep with you.<\/p>\n This attitude triggers a woman’s Lust Response<\/strong>.<\/p>\n The best part is that this attitude is something that any guy<\/strong><\/em> can discover and use for himself. It’s like capturing lightning in a bottle – and channeling the power right into you<\/span>.<\/p>\n If you want to discover this secret formula for yourself, go on over to: Date out of your league…<\/p>\nWell, I’m here to help you avoid<\/strong><\/em> that kind of advice – and get the good advice<\/strong> that will really help you.<\/h2>\n
Do you want to get laid?<\/h4>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nGet Laid Tip #1: Be attractive.<\/h2>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nBut it does mean that you need to maximize your appearance!<\/h2>\n
– Poor fashion & style<\/h4>\n
Hell, I got laid all the time just by wearing a sportcoat.<\/h4>\n
<\/a><\/h3>\n– Poor grooming<\/h4>\n
<\/a><\/p>\n– Poor odor control<\/h4>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nTip #2: Avoid the whole issue of money<\/h2>\n
But there are a lot of things you can do with her that don’t cost money. And you’ll want to use those for your first few meet-ups with a girl.<\/h2>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nOR – even worse – he tries to split the cost of things with her, which just turns her right off.<\/h4>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nTip #3: Stop being so effing NICE.<\/h2>\n
The key to getting laid is finding that middle ground where you\u2019re challenging her a bit, but also not just insulting her.<\/h2>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nTip #4: Be willing to “Dance.”<\/h2>\n
I was afraid. Afraid of looking like a dork because I just didn’t really have a clue how to dance.<\/h2>\n
So don’t make the mistake I did. Get out there and dance.<\/h4>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nAnd now, probably the most important tip I can give you on how to sleep with girls:<\/h4>\n
Tip #5: Know how to hold a conversation.<\/h2>\n
<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\nIf you’re not always trying to impress her, you can open yourself to hearing what she’s saying.<\/h2>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nThe key to getting laid isn’t in tricking a girl into bed.<\/h4>\n
The real secret to getting laid is to simply make yourself genuine enough that she can feel SAFE around you.<\/h2>\n
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