Three Ways to Be the Man of Her Dreams
Here’s a basic fact: women dig strength.
But it’s not necessarily the bench-press-a-ton-of bricks kind of brawn that attracts them (although that would be an impressive feat). It’s the inner kind of masculine power.
I’m talking about the strength of purpose, direction and an unshakable conviction that women find indisputably sexy. When a guy relies on himself for validation – and no one else – it practically turns a guy into a walking magnet that pulls women from all directions without even trying.
Here’s how to be “that guy”:
#1: Expand Your Horizons
You know what’s the opposite of strength? As far as dating goes, it’s desperation.
When it seems like you need something from a woman (i.e. because she’s beautiful), she can sense this in your actions and general attitude. This makes women uncomfortable (“What does he want from me?”) and it’s the leading cause of rejection.
Neediness can make you look weak. First step to getting rid of it is doing away with of the all-or-nothing mindset that a lot of men have.
The solution is simple: pursue more than one woman.
Fill your life with opportunities to meet and talk to women. Approach them whenever and wherever you can.
When you’re in the habit of simply engaging women in fun, lighthearted conversation, you’ll realize that life is full of chances to find someone perfect for you.
More importantly, you’ll be more at ease knowing that your dating life (or self-worth for the matter) doesn’t hinge on a single interaction. It doesn’t matter if one girl in particular tells you to get lost or walks away.
#2: Free Yourself From Fear
Part of being desperate also comes from being afraid. If you’re scared that the women you want are already taken or hate your guts, it can screw with your head.
Worse, this fear can rob you of your masculine strength.
You need to take these thoughts and turn it on their head. Getting turned down is part of the game – one “no” is just another step to that eventual “yes.”
Yet, a lot of men are terrified of messing it up. Back when people were living in caves, there was always a risk of getting killed when hitting on women.
If she was already with another guy, said guy would probably take out any suitors by any means necessary. Times are obviously different now, but that same fear still runs through us.
Here’s something to think about: your emotions will always mess with you, so don’t fight the fact that you are indeed, feeling that fear.
Embrace it, and treat it like an adrenaline rush.
Besides, the outcome is nowhere near as terrible as your mind makes it out to be. The worst that could happen is getting a “no”, and you already know what that means in the big picture.
#3: Spend Time Doing Stuff Other than Attracting Women
Being good at dating is a skill, but unlike other skills (e.g. playing the guitar, martial arts), you won’t develop this ability by throwing all of your energy at it.
In truth, attracting women is mostly a by-product of how you good are with other things. Like living a well-rounded life for example.
One of the key components of masculine power is having the drive, happiness and enthusiasm which makes women want to be part of your life.
If a guy was laser-focused on picking up women and have nothing else going on, you can just imagine the vibe that girls would get from him.
Don’t be this guy. Even if you’re learning about the techniques to attract women, you also have to cultivate an attitude that makes you fun and relaxed around them.
And that means finding something that makes your life meaningful, with or without a woman in your life.
That goes for all aspects of your life, whether it’s your job, a personal hobby, or your relationships with the people around you. You need to remember that the sum of your existence isn’t attached to women.
And knowing this gives you the strength that women desire in a guy.
That’s as ironic as it is true – you attract women by not chasing after them. Or at least not in a way that makes you desperate.
And if you really want to have that masculine power locked down for good, you have to learn the real secret to keeping it. You see, there’s a little known trend called T-Bleed which literally drains men of their testosterone.
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